Most Christian men don't lose the battle in the moment they fall.

They lose it five minutes later.

The enemy whispers, "You did it again. This is who you are. You might as well keep going." One bad decision becomes a whole night. One night becomes an identity. Before long, shame feels more permanent than hope.

In this honest episode of The Intentional Guy Podcast, Michael Chestnut speaks directly to Christian men who are tired of fighting the same battle with pornography, lust, and masturbation. This isn't about piling on guilt or pretending sexual desire doesn't exist.

One of the most important conversations in this episode is for the single, divorced, and unmarried Christian man. What do you do with a sex drive that God intentionally created when marriage isn't your current reality? Scripture doesn't offer easy shortcuts, but it does offer wisdom, hope, and practical disciplines that help you honor God without pretending the struggle isn't real.

You'll discover:

• Why your God-given sex drive isn't something to be ashamed of.
• Practical, biblical ways to steward sexual desire when you're unmarried.
• The hidden trap that keeps men stuck long after they've fallen.
• What recovery psychology reveals about the "one-more-time" spiral.
• A simple five-minute strategy to stop shame before it gains momentum.
• How one honest phone call can change the direction of your entire night.
• Biblical hope for men who are weary of starting over.

If you've ever promised God, "Never again," only to find yourself back in the same place, this episode is for you.

You are not defined by your worst night.
You are not disqualified by your struggle.
You are not fighting alone.

The righteous man isn't the one who never falls—he's the one who keeps getting back up.

It's time to break the spiral, understand the purpose behind the sex drive God gave you, and discover that restoration is always one honest step away.

Scripture: Proverbs 24:16 • Psalm 51 • Matthew 5 • 1 Corinthians 7

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What happens when you've spent years believing your failures define you?

In this powerful conversation on The Intentional Guy Podcast, Michael Chestnut sits down with Eli Brackenbury, author of Finding God at 50, to discuss how God meets us in our brokenness—not after we've cleaned up our lives, but right in the middle of the mess.

After two divorces, years of chasing success, and believing he had disqualified himself from God's purpose, Eli reached the end of himself. In complete surrender, he invited God to take control—and everything changed. What followed was a journey of healing, restoration, and discovering that God was after his heart, not his performance.

Michael and Eli also share their own experiences with divorce, shame, rebuilding their identities, and the importance of surrounding yourself with godly men who will challenge, encourage, and carry you when life gets hard. Their conversation is filled with practical wisdom and hope for anyone wondering if God can still use their story.

• Why surrender is the beginning of restoration.
• How failure and divorce don't have to define your identity.
• The difference between religion and a personal relationship with Jesus.
• Why every man needs strong, godly friendships.
• How God uses our deepest wounds to prepare us for our greatest purpose.
• What it means to trust God even when you can't see the next step.

If you've ever felt like you've gone too far, failed too much, or wondered if God could still use you, this episode is for you.

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Chapters

• 00:00 The Journey of Surrender
• 07:35 The Impact of Surrender
• 16:30 The Role of Community
• 27:18 The Power of Faith and Trust
• 42:40 Encouragement and Support

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Competency Cancels Fear: From Pulpit to Bureau — An FBI Agent's Guide to Fearless Living

What happens when you take a small-town Baptist pastor who's never held a gun and hand him a badge for the FBI? You get 24 years of stories that sound made up — teenage prostitutes, gang members, terrorists, SWAT raids — and a man who never lost sight of the fact that he was still, first and foremost, a shepherd.

In this episode, Michael sits down with Eric Robinson — former pastor, 24-year FBI veteran, and SWAT operator — for a conversation that goes far beyond cop stories. Eric unpacks the concept that changed how he thinks about fear entirely: competency cancels fear. Not the absence of danger — the presence of preparation.

They talk about:

* Why Eric's headaches disappeared the day he left ministry for the FBI — and what his body was trying to tell him
* The danger of carrying everyone else's burdens without anyone to carry yours
* What "the flinch test" taught Eric about welcoming people the church often turns away
* Why judgment on your face costs you influence later
* The SWAT practice of "after action reviews" — and how it's a model every man could use in marriage, parenting, and recovery
* Owning your mistakes before anyone calls you out on them, and why that's a mark of strength, not weakness
* Redefining masculinity through the person of Jesus — kindness, availability, and truth spoken in love, not condemnation

Whether you've never met an FBI agent or you've never sat with your own failures long enough to learn from them, this episode will challenge you to stop running from fear and start preparing for it.

Eric's book, releasing this October, tells the full story — find out more at http://preachertobreacher.com.

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The conversation delves into the deceptive nature of privacy, the tragic consequences of exposure, the impact of isolation, the truth about incognito mode, the collateral damage of sin, the weight of shame, the choice to walk in the light, and the hope for restoration. It emphasizes the importance of seeking support and refusing to believe the lies of isolation and shame.

Takeaways

• Isolation is a liar
• Restoration happens across a table with someone who refuses to quit on you

Chapters

• 00:00 The Promise of Privacy
• 02:32 The Tragedy of Exposure
• 03:31 The Impact of Isolation
• 08:03 The Truth About Incognito Mode
• 09:31 The Collateral Damage of Sin
• 11:40 The Weight of Shame
• 14:33 The Choice to Walk in the Light
• 16:05 The Hope for Restoration

What if your biggest battle isn't just temptation... it's a system that's learning your weaknesses?

Every day, the algorithm studies what you watch, what you click, when you're most vulnerable, and what keeps you scrolling. But this isn't a new strategy. Long before smartphones and social media, the enemy was already using personalized temptation in the Garden of Eden.

In this episode, Mike Chestnut explores the surprising connection between today's algorithms and Genesis 3, revealing how Satan has always studied our weaknesses—and how we can fight back.

You'll discover:

• Why the algorithm knows your weakest moments
• The connection between Genesis 3 and today's digital world
• How small compromises become life-altering decisions
• Why awareness is one of your greatest spiritual weapons
• One practical challenge to help you break the pattern this week

If you're tired of feeling trapped in the same cycle, this episode is for you.

• Episode chapters
• 00:01 — The Algorithm Is Studying You

  How platforms learn your habits and build tomorrow’s bait.

• 01:39 — The Oldest Algorithm: The Serpent’s Strategy

  Connecting personalized temptation to Genesis 3.

• 03:53 — The “Just One Tap” Lie

  Why small choices still shape who—and what—has influence over you.

• 06:04 — Awareness, Accountability, and Resistance

  The host’s personal story and the call to recognize vulnerable patterns.

• 07:44 — This Week’s Challenge: Disrupt the Pattern

Practical steps for changing the habit, followed by a closing invitation.

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Scripture References:

• Genesis 3
• Genesis 3:6
• 2 Corinthians 11:3

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The conversation delves into the hidden struggles of individuals in the church, particularly the fear of divorce and the isolation experienced in a failing marriage. It emphasizes the importance of safe and supportive relationships, the role of the church, and the path to restoration and reconciliation. The episode concludes with a call to action, encouraging individuals to seek support and not walk through their struggles alone.

Takeaways

• Fear of divorce in the church
• The importance of safe and supportive relationships

Chapters

• 00:00 — Hidden pain in struggling marriages
  02:13 — Understanding hurts, hang-ups, and habits
  10:48 — Finding a safe person to talk to
  14:40 — How to support someone in a hurting marriage
  17:26 — When is a marriage worth fighting for?
  19:56 — Safety, abuse, and unfaithfulness
  21:01 — Four practical steps toward reconciliation
  23:13 — Hope and restoration through Hosea
  24:27 — A personal story of isolation and rebuilding
  26:44 — This week’s challenge: one honest conversation

The conversation delves into the rarely discussed topic of masturbation in the context of Christianity, exploring its implications on marriage and relationships. It emphasizes the impact of self-gratification on individuals and the importance of surrendering this primal aspect to God, leading to transformation and growth.

Takeaways

• Masturbation and its implications in the context of Christianity
• The impact of self-gratification on marriage and relationships

Chapters

• 00:00 The Start of the Conversation
• 03:42 The Bible and Masturbation
• 07:50 The Sin of Self-Gratification
• 11:41 The Impact on Marriage
• 13:41 Chronic Use and Its Effects
• 16:26 God's Design for Intimacy
• 17:20 The Transformation and Challenge

The conversation delves into the complexities of forgiveness, trust, and restoration in relationships. It emphasizes the need for patience, consistency, and intentional pursuit in rebuilding trust and healing from betrayal. The focus is on understanding the process of forgiveness, actively pursuing restoration, and allowing time for healing and rebuilding trust.

Takeaways

• Forgiveness is a decision to release the debt, made new, sometimes daily, while the healing catches up to the decision.
• Rebuilding trust takes time and consistency, and it's not about big gestures but about ten thousand small, faithful days.

Chapters

• 00:00 Understanding Forgiveness
• 01:24 Rebuilding Trust
• 03:55 Actively Pursuing Restoration
• 06:16 Healing and Patience
• 08:03 Love, Patience, and Rebuilding
• 09:24 The Journey of Healing

In this episode, we explore what true strength looks like for men today—how to stand firm in your convictions while leading with humility. We examine how society often mislabels resilience and what it really means to be courageous in the face of opposition.

• The societal fear of strong men and how control is the real motive behind suppression
• The story of Shadrach, Meshach, and Abendigo as an example of unwavering faith and courage
• The difference between passive complacency and active backbone in leadership
• Why true strength isn’t about dominance, but about refusal to compromise on what matters
• Practical steps to stand in your convictions even when it’s uncomfortable
• The importance of aligning actions with personal faith and family leadership
• How societal messages promote weakness through labels like “toxic masculinity”
• The call to embrace vulnerability and honesty without sacrificing integrity

00:00 - Why society fears strong men, not confusion about masculinity 00:40 - The impact of societal labels: rigid, controlling, toxic

1:09 - The trap: balancing strength and approachability

1:37 - The story of Shadrach, Meshach, and Abendigo:

2:06 - Faithfulness vs. safety: what’s the real purpose of strength

2:36 - The nature of godly strength: refusing to be moved from truth

3:04 - The misperception: strength is about dominance, not backbone 3:32 - Leadership for your family: being immovable yet gentle

4:02 - Personal failure: when folding under pressure becomes a habit 4:32 - The challenge: stand in one area you've been shrinking back

5:01 - A prayer for backbone, humility, and true strength

5:34 - Moving forward: finding community and walking in intentionalityResources & Links:

• Daniel 3 - The story of Shadrach, Meshach, and Abendigo

Your Son's Phone Is Not His Friend — It's Not About Trust, It's About Protection When I was a kid, seeing pornography took real effort — you had to go looking for it. Today, your son doesn't have to look for anything. It's already in his pocket.

In this episode, I talk directly to parents about the generation being raised on smartphones — and why "I trust my kid" is the wrong starting point. This isn't about whether your son is trustworthy. It's about knowing what he's up against.

In this episode:
✅ Why "trust" is the wrong lens for parenting in the smartphone era
✅ Warning signs something may be going on
✅ Tools like Covenant Eyes and the unannounced phone check
✅ What to do — and what not to do — if you catch your son
✅ Why parents have to be just as informed as we're asking our kids to be honest

This is a call to every parent listening: protection isn't paranoia. It's love with its eyes open.

If this episode challenged you, share it with another parent who needs to hear it.

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