I felt so awkward and out of place going to the gym after a 7 year pause.

About this podcast:

I was afraid to be myself for years. I pretended to be comfortable in social events, parties, work meetings. But inside I was struggling; afraid of being judged and saying something stupid. Then I read a book called Quiet by Susan Cain. This book changed my life. 

I am learning and want to share this messy stuff about myself and the world. I hope you find this useful.

Want to learn more about your personality? I like these tools:

• ⁠⁠⁠⁠Clearerthinking.org⁠⁠⁠⁠

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This is a rant on things that have been on my mind the last few weeks. This episode was hard to get started. I was nervous and got more comfortable about two thirds into it. Lots of references, books, song links below.

Disclosure: This post contains affiliate links and I receive a commission if you visit a link and buy something on my recommendation. This doesn’t cost you any extra, and I only recommend products I trust and find useful. Mentioned:1491: New Revelations of the Americas Before Columbus by Charles C. Mann  https://amzn.to/2u89BdI (affiliate link)A People's History of the United States: 1492-Present  by Howard Zinn https://amzn.to/2UFIty8 (affiliate link)These two books tell some history we were not taught in school. I can't recommend these books enough.

10/24/25 Update. Not mentioned and recently discovered:

https://gemini.google.com/share/383f2e6cf4db

Cheo Feliciano - Anacaona (Yo Soy La Salsa)https://youtu.be/OvQArMzHt90no le pegue a la negra joe arroyohttps://youtu.be/PqmLPeL8aj4John Leguizamo's Latin History For Moronshttps://www.netflix.com/title/80225421https://youtu.be/23Q2-1AYJCs

About this podcast:

I was afraid to be myself for years. I pretended to be comfortable in social events, parties, work meetings. But inside I was struggling; afraid of being judged and saying something stupid. Then I read a book called Quiet by Susan Cain. This book changed my life. 

I am learning and want to share this messy stuff about myself and the world. I hope you find this useful.

Want to learn more about your personality? I like these tools:

• ⁠⁠⁠⁠Clearerthinking.org⁠⁠⁠⁠

• ⁠⁠⁠⁠16personalities.com⁠⁠⁠⁠

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I can spend a lot of time by myself and I am completely ok with that. I even crave being by myself. I used to feel guilty for wanting to be alone. 

I understand myself better now and there's no guilt. I like this article about Solitude vs Isolation:
https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/articles/200307/what-is-solitude

About this podcast:

I was afraid to be myself for years. I pretended to be comfortable in social events, parties, work meetings. But inside I was struggling; afraid of being judged and saying something stupid. Then I read a book called Quiet by Susan Cain. This book changed my life. 

I am learning and want to share this messy stuff about myself and the world. I hope you find this useful.

Want to learn more about your personality? I like these tools:

• ⁠⁠⁠⁠Clearerthinking.org⁠⁠⁠⁠

• ⁠⁠⁠⁠16personalities.com⁠⁠⁠⁠

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I have this weird thing I don't understand well. I feel guilty for being sick. My health took a dive the last 2 months. I pushed myself hard to keep working on my business and podcast. Eventually I had to stop to rest and get help. I have a hard time saying what is wrong sometimes I don't even tell my doctor. But this time it was different. I told my doctor everything...I am getting help. I am even going to get counseling

About this podcast:

I was afraid to be myself for years. I pretended to be comfortable in social events, parties, work meetings. But inside I was struggling; afraid of being judged and saying something stupid. Then I read a book called Quiet by Susan Cain. This book changed my life. 

I am learning and want to share this messy stuff about myself and the world. I hope you find this useful.

Want to learn more about your personality? I like these tools:

• ⁠⁠⁠⁠Clearerthinking.org⁠⁠⁠⁠

• ⁠⁠⁠⁠16personalities.com⁠⁠⁠⁠

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"What makes you different is your power" Jeff

I met Jeff and Tommy at the 2018 #OREIA convention in Cincinnati (a real estate investors event) Jeff and I connected because we both relate to having some social anxiety of large crowds and events. This is Jeff's story. 

Jeff Rabinowitz

• facebook.com/damntherecession
• biggerpockets.com/users/pharmerjeff 

Tommy Desmond 

• tommydesmond.com/blog
• facebook.com/tommydesmond 

Memorable quotes: 

• "What makes you different is your power" Jeff 
• “Some of the most intimate reserved things designed to be hidden from the world...when you show it to everybody...the fear gets destroyed ” Tommy 
• “No one reaches out to you for compassion or empathy so you can teach them how to behave better. They reach out to us because they believe in our capacity to know our darkness well enough to sit in the dark with them.” Brené Brown 
• “To increase our tolerance for discomfort … you practice being uncomfortable” Brené Brown 

Mentioned: 

• renegadedetroit.com/podcasts/story-time-with-jeff/story-time-with-jeff-ep15-origins
• biggerpockets.com/blogs/4527-con…private-lender
• ron-phillips.com 
• oreiaconvention.com 
• lisabilyeu.libsyn.com 

About this podcast:

I was afraid to be myself for years. I pretended to be comfortable in social events, parties, work meetings. But inside I was struggling; afraid of being judged and saying something stupid. Then I read a book called Quiet by Susan Cain. This book changed my life. 

I am learning and want to share this messy stuff about myself and the world. I hope you find this useful.

Want to learn more about your personality? I like these tools:

• ⁠⁠⁠⁠Clearerthinking.org⁠⁠⁠⁠

• ⁠⁠⁠⁠16personalities.com⁠⁠⁠⁠

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Recorded with different mics so audio sucks. 

Mentioned

headspace.com 

wtfpod.com/podcast/episode-955-anna-faris 

About this podcast:

I was afraid to be myself for years. I pretended to be comfortable in social events, parties, work meetings. But inside I was struggling; afraid of being judged and saying something stupid. Then I read a book called Quiet by Susan Cain. This book changed my life. 

I am learning and want to share this messy stuff about myself and the world. I hope you find this useful.

Want to learn more about your personality? I like these tools:

• ⁠⁠⁠⁠Clearerthinking.org⁠⁠⁠⁠

• ⁠⁠⁠⁠16personalities.com⁠⁠⁠⁠

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Finding myself and trying to be a good parent is one of my biggest challenges. Sometimes I get it right sometimes I screw up. I am grateful my older kids lived with the worst me and seem to be turning out ok. 

About this podcast:

I was afraid to be myself for years. I pretended to be comfortable in social events, parties, work meetings. But inside I was struggling; afraid of being judged and saying something stupid. Then I read a book called Quiet by Susan Cain. This book changed my life. 

I am learning and want to share this messy stuff about myself and the world. I hope you find this useful.

Want to learn more about your personality? I like these tools:

• ⁠⁠⁠⁠Clearerthinking.org⁠⁠⁠⁠

• ⁠⁠⁠⁠16personalities.com⁠⁠⁠⁠

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Going to events with many people I don't know has never been easy. A few months ago I signed up to go to a Real Estate Investing convention. Here's what happened. 

About this podcast:

I was afraid to be myself for years. I pretended to be comfortable in social events, parties, work meetings. But inside I was struggling; afraid of being judged and saying something stupid. Then I read a book called Quiet by Susan Cain. This book changed my life. 

I am learning and want to share this messy stuff about myself and the world. I hope you find this useful.

Want to learn more about your personality? I like these tools:

• ⁠⁠⁠⁠Clearerthinking.org⁠⁠⁠⁠

• ⁠⁠⁠⁠16personalities.com⁠⁠⁠⁠

Please leave a rating and review on:

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Some years ago my wrists started hurting when I typed on my computer. I ignored the pain like any other Macho man. That was stupid and after a few years of not taking this serious, the pain was horrible and 24/7. I spent years seeing doctors, therapists, surgery and doing alternative medicines searching for a cure. And I didn't know exactly what was wrong!? The pain started in my wrists and after many years it spread to my forearms, hands, back, neck, feet! I am still not 100% sure what this is. 

After many tests and doctors, I was give many diagnosis. It may be Carpal Tunnel, repetitive stress, tendonitis, spine issues or my mind. Reading books like “It’s Not carpal Tunnel Syndrome” by Suparna Damany, physical therapy, rest, exercise, posture and meditation helped me. I am now able to manage the pain and I believe I will heal myself with time. 

10/24/25 update: After years navigating this messy health stuff, reading, learning and experimenting with exercise, meditation, counseling i feel around 90% better. I manage the little pain i sometimes get and it rarely limits me now. It would be hard to believe it if i could read this update years ago. Thank you to old, young me for not giving up. I love you or me lol.

Disclosure: This post contains affiliate links and I receive a commission if you visit a link and buy something on my recommendation. This doesn’t cost you any extra, and I only recommend products I trust and find useful.  

Mentioned:

It’s Not carpal Tunnel Syndrome by Suparna Damany
https://amzn.to/2BIeVIS (affiliate link)

Borderline Idealist (borderlineidealist.com)

The Art of Authenticity Dr. Shefali Tsabary: Conscious Parenting ( artofauthenticity.libsyn.com/dr-shefali-tsabary )

"Relaxing Piano Music" 

• Kevin MacLeod (incompetech.com) Licensed under Creative Commons: By Attribution 3.0 License creativecommons.org/licenses/by/3.0/ 

About this podcast:

I was afraid to be myself for years. I pretended to be comfortable in social events, parties, work meetings. But inside I was struggling; afraid of being judged and saying something stupid. Then I read a book called Quiet by Susan Cain. This book changed my life. 

I am learning and want to share this messy stuff about myself and the world. I hope you find this useful.

Want to learn more about your personality? I like these tools:

• ⁠⁠⁠⁠Clearerthinking.org⁠⁠⁠⁠

• ⁠⁠⁠⁠16personalities.com⁠⁠⁠⁠

Please leave a rating and review on:

• ⁠⁠⁠⁠iTunes⁠⁠⁠⁠

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I had some misunderstandings about introverts. 

• I thought I was an introvert but really what does that mean? I thought I was stuck! I am not just an introvert its way more complicted. 
• We screw up all the time. I used to be too critical of myself for messing up. If I did something stupid I would criticize myself harshly. 
• Its ok to mess up 
• Thank you AJ and Christian at the Borderline Idealist podcast for inspiring me to continue recording! 

About this podcast:

I was afraid to be myself for years. I pretended to be comfortable in social events, parties, work meetings. But inside I was struggling; afraid of being judged and saying something stupid. Then I read a book called Quiet by Susan Cain. This book changed my life. 

I am learning and want to share this messy stuff about myself and the world. I hope you find this useful.

Want to learn more about your personality? I like these tools:

• ⁠⁠⁠⁠Clearerthinking.org⁠⁠⁠⁠

• ⁠⁠⁠⁠16personalities.com⁠⁠⁠⁠

Please leave a rating and review on:

• ⁠⁠⁠⁠iTunes⁠⁠⁠⁠

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You can reach me on 

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