Is it Me or is it Them? with April Boyd

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In this episode, I share a piece of advice my sister gave me  about how to treat myself better, raise my standards and improve my quality of life one with one tiny upgrade.

Have you ever considered how small upgrades in your daily environment can drastically boost your mood and momentum?  Today we're talking about how to make one tiny change that will reduce the frustration and increase the flow of your daily life. 

By replacing worn-out items, like that broken toaster or creaky cupboard door, you can significantly reduce daily frustrations and enhance your well-being.  Join me as we explore how these seemingly minor changes can create a ripple effect, improving not just your day-to-day life but also your mental clarity and productivity. 

I'll guide you through identifying one simple change you can make right now to reduce these micro frustrations and reclaim your mental bandwidth. Don't miss out on this discussion, and be sure to share this episode with a friend who could benefit from a little more ease and flow in their life.

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What do you do when someone refuses to acknowledge their wrongdoing?

Often times, we can find ourselves trying to explain and justify why you're hurt or how they've harmed you, hoping that if you can just get them to understand and acknowledge what they did to you, that you'll be able to move on.

However, when someone refuses to see your point of view, and won't take responsibility for their actions, regardless of how much evidence, facts or information you give them, you need to stop and realize that you are in a futile game of tug of war.

Trying to do repair and reconciliation with someone who is full of denial and defensiveness, can be incredibly frustrating, hurtful and exhausting.

So in today's episode of Is it Me or is it Them?  I'm sharing five questions you need to ask yourself to get out of gridlock. 

This episode is going to help you:

* take back some power
* protect your own wellbeing
* stop wasting energy by trying to explain and justify yourself
* start finding more clarity and peace in the midst of a really crappy situation.
* find a faster route to peace.

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Ever felt like you need to change your body before you can feel free to enjoy your life? 

Like you go to the beach but hide under a towel? 

Or you get invited to a pool party but all you feel is dread? 

 Today we’re talking about the thinking traps that stop us from feeling more confident and free in our bodies and how we hold ourselves back from having fun and living fully. 

I’m sharing some personal experiences and powerful insights from my work as a therapist and breaking down how societal pressures lead to self-loathing and inhibit us from fully participating in life's beautiful moments. 

We need to stop chasing perfection and start living more fully right now, instead of waiting for the elusive magical moment when we suddenly feel good enough.  

By examining the fear of judgment and the elusive quest for physical perfection, I highlight the deep emotional and relational costs of these beliefs. Let's shift our focus together, moving from self-criticism to self-acceptance and paving the way for true freedom and joy.

This episode is a celebration of the present. Don’t wait for a flatter tummy or a bigger butt to start living fully. Embrace who you are right now and appreciate the amazing things your body can do today. I'll share inspiring stories and practical tips to help you seize the moment and move through your day with confidence. Your future self will thank you for recognizing your worth today. As I head off to enjoy a breathtaking hike along the cliffs of Lagos, Portugal, I invite you to appreciate your own journey and leave a review if this message resonates with you. Let's spread this empowering mindset far and wide!

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Ever find yourself at a crossroads, paralyzed by what your future might hold if you choose one path over another?    Or worried that one day you'll look back on your life with regret and mourn your missed opportunities?

Today we are unravelling the complex web of life's decisions and the daunting fear of regret that often lurks behind our choices.   We're diving deep into the struggle to distinguish genuine desires from the hefty weight of societal expectations, social media comparisons and endless possibility.  

For those of you seeking clarity, authenticity and satisfaction in your choices, this episode is a coaching call to help you figure out what is right for you and how to tell the difference between a true desire and a distraction. 

So press play and listen in—because this episode is not just a conversation, it’s a map toward living a life brimming with contentment and free of regret.

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Have you ever found yourself hesitantly mumbling 'yes' when every fiber of your being was screaming 'no'? Welcome to the club. I'm April Boyd, and in our latest episode, we navigate the tricky waters of upholding our own boundaries without compromising the commitments and relationships we cherish.  I'm sharing how to distinguish between when you're saying yes because people pleasing and when it's truly the right thing to do, even if it's something you don't really want to do.  This episode is not just about preserving our sanity, but about living with integrity. 

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Today,  we pull back the layer of an over-scheduled life to see what is really going on with that part of us that can't slow down, can't relax and has somehow managed to turn even "self-care" into something to excel at. 

Listen in to hear about:

* why you turn even the things that are enjoyable into a chore
* what it looks like when you are in the energy of anxiety and control
* how to create a life that doesn't just look good, but actually feels good
* finding a better balance between obligation and flow

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Why are so many women downplaying their brilliance, their skills and procrastinating on their big dreams?

Imposter syndrome is a word that gets thrown around a lot in the personal development world and while there are times when I'm speaking to to someone who is truly doubting and disconnecting from their capabilities, often what I see is a women who knowns deep down that she's really great at what she does- but is hiding anyway.

So in today's episode we're unpacking fear of claiming our talents, gifts and desires so we can be more of who we really are and feel more free to go after the things we really want. 

•  the difference between imposter syndrome and just plain old fear
• how to train your brain to feel more confident & capable
• why you need to celebrate your successes
• how to get more free to be yourself and go after your dreams

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Ever avoid doing something you really want to do because you're worried you're going to be judged or feel like you're not good enough?

Like maybe you want to start going to the gym but you're afraid people will look at you like you don't belong there...

Or maybe there's a dream you've always wanted to go after but you're embarrassed to tell your friends...

Or maybe you've been showing up and making things happen but still find yourself feeling like you don't measure up to everyone else at the table...

Comparison and judgment are really normal human thought patterns, but when we let our insecurities and worries run wild, we can end up living a life that feels safe to our nervous system, but really frustrating and unfulfilling for our hearts.

In today's episode I'm sharing:

•  the one realization you need to hear to start taking action
• what showing up at the gym with my muffin top showed me about competition
• how you can move from comparison and competition mean girl energy to big alpha female energy- kind, ambitious, caring, and powerful
  
  
  
  
  

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Ever catch yourself doubting your instincts or second guessing your decisions?  
Ever feel like you've outgrown a relationship or situation but you stick around anyway?
Ever feel like you know in your gut that something's not good for you but you keep toughening it out anyway?

In today's episode I'm breaking down what the real issue is that makes it hard to trust yourself and that stops you from taking action, even when you know that something isn't the right match for you.

Many of us have been conditioned to "make do" and "make it work", causing us to stay in situations and relationships that are no longer good for us or are not what we hoped they would be.  And  while there may be very real times in our lives when we really do need to just toughen it out, push through or stay put for the time being for a variety of reasons, many of us have adopted the idea of settling as a way of life. 

So press play and get a deeper understanding of why you stay in the places that aren't right for you and consider this invitation to raise your standards and allow more joy and goodness into your life.

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Today we have a special guest!  And I got to tell you, I have never laughed so much while talking about really hard topics.   

Tuck Cornelius is a comedian, artist, poet, filmmaker and trans rights advocate who bends steel and breaks stereotypes.  He's joining us today for a conversation about defying social expectations, surviving traumatic things and having the audacity to be yourself even when the costs are high.

In this episode Tucks tells us about his experiences with domestic abuse, suicide and violence as he unfolds his powerful story of survival, tenacity, love and connection.

He is a breathe of fresh air and a trailblazer in the field of authenticity and courage.  I'm sure you will enjoy this conversation as much as I did.

And as mentioned, we get into potentially triggering and activating topics, so get yourself some extra support from the resources below. 
You matter. You belong here.  You have the right to feel safe. 


Connect with Tuck and thank him for his courage and openness on instagram here.

SUPPORTS & RESOURCES:

United States:

Trevorproject text 678-678

Translifeline Call 877-565-8860

Crisis Textline: Text home to 741741

The National Domestic Violence Hotline (200 languages): 1-800-799-7233 or 1-800-787-3224 (TTY). Advocacy information and safety planning. Email (English) and chat (English and Spanish) are also available.

Forge Forward: Support for trans people & trans victims of violence. 

Crisis Services Canada:  Established in 2002, Crisis Services Canada is a nonprofit national network of existing distress, crisis, and suicide prevention line services that assist populations across Canada.

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