The romantics have a lot to answer for, according to philosopher and author, Alain de Botton. Love, marriage and human relationships are not a bed of roses. There is no such person as ‘the one'. And, despite trying to avoid it, many of us will marry the wrong person. You want to know one of the early warning signs? It’s when someone says to you, "I’m a really easygoing, easy to live with, person". Wrong, says de Botton, we are troubled, so you should run a mile if someone says that to you.