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Powerful Communication Principles

• Seek to first understand, then to be understood.
  • Listen
  • Validate
  • Seek to understand their model
    • What are their circumstances?
    • How do they think?
    • How are they feeling?
    • What are their actions?
    • What are the results they're creating and what results do they want to create?
  • Understand your own model.
  • Show that you either understand, or that you want to understand. 
• Catch and reprogram your automated responses
  • Your automated responses are likely to be unintentional, 
  • Catch it and replace it with an intentional response.
  • It helps me to explore different perspective. 
  • It helps me to explore different driving emotions. 
• Tell the whole truth. 
  • One of the things that kills communication is dishonesty
  • Be honest with yourself and others. 
  • Tell the WHOLE truth, not just the convenient of soft truth. 
• Be committed to YOUR relationship with them.
  • It's powerful to know that NOTHING you can ever do will change how someone feels towards you. 
  • Commit to your relationship with your teen, no matter what!
  • Your teen just wants to be heard, understood, and to belong. 
  • Commit to that.
• Speak from a space of service. 
  • This is a tricky one. 
  • It's not, "How can I fix you?" 
  • It's "How can I help you?"
• Seek to first understand, then to be understood.
  • Part of communication is being understood. 
  • We don't want to ignore this.
  • How can you make things relevant to your teen. 
  • How can you make things easier to understand?

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