IS THAT LIKE A THING

On this episode of Is That Like a Thing podcast, we are focused in on mental health, and specifically areas many of us struggle with: Anxiety and depression. We asked for help talking through this topic with one of Becky’s friends that also happens to be a mental health professional! Jamie Jaubert is a Licensed Professional Counselor-Supervisor in the state of Texas. She earned a Bachelor of Science in Interdisciplinary Studies from Texas State University and a Master of Arts in Professional Counseling from Texas State University. She is a founder/owner and provider at Mindful Journey Counseling & Wellness, PLLC.

Jamie specializes in individual counseling with adolescents and adults and has notable experience in couples and family counseling. She has extensive training in various modalities of treatment, including Dialectical Behavior Therapy, Cognitive Behavior Therapy, Mindfulness-Based Cognitive Therapy, Mindfulness-Based Stress Reduction and the Gottman method. Jamie is a certified Wellness & Nutrition Consultant and believes in the importance of the mind-body connection. Jamie is highly skilled in treating mood and anxiety disorders including depression and bipolar disorders, Generalized Anxiety Disorder, Panic Disorder, Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder (OCD), Post traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD) and Social Anxiety Disorder. She is also experienced in treating stress and other symptoms caused by adjustments to major life changes such as job loss or change, marriage, birth of children, divorce, retirement, launching children and grief.

You can find Jamie and her wellness center at: https://mindfuljourneycounselingandwellness.com/

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NOTES FROM JAMIE: 

The most basic job of anxiety goes back to the fight or flight we needed physically for survival. 
In caveman days after those fight or flight moments, you go back to the cave and have several hours to calm down, to allow our bodies to normalize and process our thoughts, feelings and emotions.
We often live in fight or flight (even if it’s prolonged stress) and we get used to feeling those heightened emotions without ever restabilizing.
Sometimes we need to be able to “Go back to the cave” and take time to process the things that are happening in our lives.
Negative thoughts actually create grooves in our brain that become like ruts where our thoughts naturally go without even trying to think that way.
We can change these physical ruts by inputting new language and practicing it like a spelling test. We can intentionally think new thoughts over and over and over again to create new pathways of thought.

FAVORITE QUOTES: 

“When we relate it back to our faith, we were given anxiety for a reason. We were given feelings of depression for a reason.” - Jamie 
“When you have negative thought patterns, you create a groove in your brain for those negative thought patterns to travel. The way that negative thoughts work is that of course, it’s like a record player. The needle is going to go to the biggest groove and that’s the past of least resistance. So if you have constant negative thoughts, that’s where the needle’s gonna go.” - Jamie
“Where is your mission field? It’s not appropriate to have 15 mission fields.” - Jamie
“When we shame with insight, that’s counterproductive.” - Jamie

On this episode of Is That Like a Thing podcast, we continue to hear from our producer, Emily Gentiles, on her season of waiting. Her new book, Trying, is now available for purchase on Amazon. Make sure you stay until the end for a special time of prayer. 
Would you like more information? Follow us on facebook, twitter and Instagram! @isthatlikeathing or reach us at: 469-854-9636. We would love to hear about your personal journey in the waiting room as well. And as always, thanks for listening. 

HOSTS / GUESTS
Crystal Yates, Magen Thurman, Becky Leach (feat. Emily Gentiles)

EPISODE NOTES
Emily’s brand new book, Trying,  can be purchased here on amazon. 
https://www.amazon.com/Trying-Reflections-Through-Infertility-Miscarriage/dp/B093RMYF65/ref=sr_1_1?dchild=1&keywords=trying+emily+gentiles&qid=1620088791&s=books&sr=1-1
“And the LORD answered me:
“Write the vision;
make it plain on tablets,
so he may run who reads it.
For still the vision awaits its appointed time;
it hastens to the end—it will not lie.
If it seems slow, wait for it;
it will surely come; it will not delay.”
Habakkuk 2:2-3

The story of Abraham and Isaac can be found in Genesis 22. 

For I am already being poured out as a drink offering, and the time of my departure has come. I have fought the good fight, I have finished the race, I have kept the faith. Henceforth there is laid up for me the crown of righteousness, which the Lord, the righteous judge, will award to me on that day, and not only to me but also to all who have loved his appearing.
2 Timothy 4:6-8

On this episode of Is That Like a Thing podcast, we talk about waiting and waiting well. This episode was recorded before the podcast even began airing, and we have been holding onto it until the Lord gave us a sign that the time was just right. And unbeknownst to ALL of us, our brave Emily has a brand new book about waiting now available for purchase on amazon! (Link below)
This week are thrilled to hear from our producer, Emily Gentiles, on this episode as she waited in a season of infertility only to have it turn out entirely different than she had expected. We really get into the nitty gritty of what it looks like to wait on the Lord and what we do when we don’t actually get the thing we are waiting on. It was SO good, it became a part one and part two situation. 
This episode will encourage you if you find yourself stuck in  a season of waiting, or even if you’re just coming out of one. There is a lot of biblical content shared on this episode (and the next) and we are pumped to share it with you. 
Also, just a quick note— as Becky stated at the beginning of the show, it was recorded in December. We are happy to say that Willa, Magen’s daughter, has gotten a healthy bill of health when it comes to the potentially cancerous spots on her bone. She still has a heart valve stenosis and we continue to pray for her continued healing! 
Would you like more information? Follow us on facebook, twitter and Instagram! @isthatlikeathing or reach us at: 469-854-9636. We would love to hear about your personal journey in the waiting room as well. And as always, thanks for listening. 

HOSTS / GUESTS
Crystal Yates, Magen Thurman, Becky Leach (feat. Emily Gentiles)

EPISODE NOTES
Emily’s brand new book, Trying, is now available for purchase on Amazon. https://www.amazon.com/Trying-Reflections-Through-Infertility-Miscarriage/dp/B093RMYF65/ref=sr_1_1?dchild=1&keywords=trying+emily+gentiles&qid=1620088791&s=books&sr=1-1
“But they who wait for the LORD shall renew their strength; they shall mount up with wings like eagles; they shall run and not be weary; they shall walk and not faint.” (Isaiah 40:31)
“He said to them, ‘Because of your little faith. For truly, I say to you, jif you have faith like a grain of mustard seed, kyou will say to this mountain, ‘Move from here to there,’ and it will move, and nothing will be impossible for you.” Matthew 17:20
“Immediately the father of the child cried out and said, “I believe; help my unbelief!” Mark 9:24
“Delight yourself in the Lord and He will give you the desires of your heart.” Psalm 37:5
“May all your expectations be frustrated, may all your plans be thwarted, may all your desires be withered into nothingness, that you may experience the powerlessness and poverty of a child and sing and dance in the love of God who is the Father, Son and Spirit.” - Brennan Manning (2015). “Abba's Child: The Cry of the Heart for Intimate Belonging”, p.17, NavPress
“Dayenu - It would have been enough” Podcast Link: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/craig-groeschel-leadership-podcast/id1070649025?i=1000473904650
“Dayenu - It would have been enough” Prayer via Wikipedia: https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Dayenu

On this episode of Is That Like a Thing podcast, we are BACK with Krisi Monsivaiz! And we’re covering ALL. THE. THINGS. Krisi is a wife of 30 years, a mom of 5 kids (yes you read that right, and they’re all SO. COOL.), and the author of incredible blog posts on friendship, family, marriage and some amazing recipes, that you can find at her website listed below! We love Krisi and we had so much finishing out our conversation with her. We hope you enjoy this episode on Enemies Of Friendships with Krisi Monsivaiz. 
Thanks for joining us on this episode of Is That Like a Thing!

You can find all things Krisi Monsivaiz at: https://www.thegoodsoil.co
You can also connect with her on instagram and facebook at @thegoodsoil.co
Krisi’s Carnitas: https://www.thegoodsoil.co/2021/02/22/carnita-party/ 
Krisi’s Salsa: https://www.thegoodsoil.co/2021/02/22/carnita-party/ 

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NOTES FROM KRISI: 
Text-ersations are not advised when resolving conflicts with friends.

FAVORITE QUOTES: 
Why the Lord sometimes allows friendships to die: “The Lord will hear conversations that we have not.” - Krisi Monsivaiz
“We can’t change the way we feel, but we can change the way we think, which can change the way we feel.” - Krisi Monsivaiz 
“I feel like as women, we set the bar in sometimes--like, in some ridiculous zone that shouldn’t even exist--of expectations on ourselves in friendship, motherhood, wifehood and all of those things. And we need to have grace on ourselves.” - Krisi Monsivaiz 
“I think if you’re a deep feeler and you love to speak into people’s lives in a way that is encouraging and helpful, you need to realize...they ain’t gotta be your best friend.” - Crystal
“We are called to be friendly with all, but not friends with all.” - Krisi Monsivaiz

On this episode of Is That Like a Thing podcast, we are talking with one of Magen’s mentors from back in her Northern Virginia days! We’re talking with Krisi Monsivaiz! Krisi is a wife, a mom of 5 kids (yes you read that right, and they’re all SO. COOL.), and the author of incredible blog posts on friendship, family, marriage and some amazing recipes, that you can find at her website listed below! Ok y’all, Krisi  is a WELL OF WISDOM. A DEEP DADGUM WELL. We dive into some “Guardrails For Healthy Friendships” (her phrase and we’re loving it), what the main “Enemies of Friendships” and …..ahem…..”Ways  To Get Over Ourselves” (WHEW). We love Krisi and we had so much fun visiting with her. Also? We’re not kidding you--Krisi is so wise and you will LOVE her as much as we do. We hope you enjoy this episode on Enemies Of Friendships with Krisi Monsivaiz. 

Thanks for joining us on this episode of Is That Like a Thing!

You can find all things Krisi Monsivaiz at: https://www.thegoodsoil.co

You can also connect with her on instagram and facebook at @thegoodsoil.co

Krisi’s Carnitas: https://www.thegoodsoil.co/2021/02/22/carnita-party/ 

Krisi’s Salsa: https://www.thegoodsoil.co/2021/02/22/carnita-party/ 

Want more info? Follow us on facebook, twitter and Instagram @isthatlikeathing or reach us at 469-854-9636

NOTES FROM KRISI: 
Identifiers of a Toxic Friendship (aka Enemies of Friendship): 

Lack Of Transparency 

Insecurity 

Unrealistic Expectations 

Guardrails For A Good Friendship (or any relationship, for that matter):

Assume Good Intent

Forgive Quickly 

Love Sacrificially 

Ways To Get Over Ourselves: 

Be honest with yourself and with the Lord. 

Recognize that people go through stuff

FAVORITE QUOTES: 
“If there’s a lack of transparency in a relationship, you can only go so far in your growth, in your intimacy and  in your connection.” - Krisi Monsivaiz

“If there is insecurity and competition that is plaguing your friendship, then your friendship is going to be handicapped.” - Krisi Monsivaiz

“If we can’t get over our own shortcomings and be for our sister, then we’re going to miss out on a genuine and deep friendship where we can have trust.” - Krisi Monsivaiz

“If you have friends that want exclusivity in that friendship, that’s a red flag.” - Krisi Monsivaiz

“Clear is kind. For us to be willing to be clear...transparency on our part to say, “Hey this hurt me…” - Krisi Monsivaiz 

“Life is too short to not say The Thing.” - Krisi Monsivaiz 

“If we do not have capacity for conflict in relationships, they will be handicapped.” - Krisi Monsivaiz

“What God shows us is that Love presses in. Even if it’s for the millionth time.”  - Krisi Monsivaiz

“If you don’t address issues in a friendship, they’re going to lead to unhealthy habits…so .it’s really for our benefit to have the healthy conversations.” - Krisi Monsivaiz

SCRIPTURE REFERENCE: 
“We who are strong ought to bear with the shortcomings of the weak and not to please ourselves.” Romans 15:1

On this episode of Is That Like a Thing podcast, WE ARE BACK with Kelly Needham! We all  get to spend a little more time with Kelly, and her wisdom on “Gospel-Informed Friendships” (we just love this phrase!).  Kelly  is a wife, a mom, and the author of a wonderful book that we will continue discussing today called, “Friendish”. We dive into what Gospel-Informed Friendships look like, how WE can become Gospel-Informed Friends, how to handle conflict within friendships and how to correction and rebuke like the wise person found in Proverbs 9:8. We love Kelly and we had so much fun visiting with her, but what we love best about Kelly is her deep wisdom that is both eye-opening, convicting, and helpful  in our own friendships. We hope you enjoy this episode of Part 2 with Kelly Needham! Thanks for joining us on this episode of Is That Like a Thing. 

You can find all things Kelly Needham and “Friendish” on her website kellyneedham.com. You can also connect with her on instagram or facebook @kellyneedham.

Want more info? Follow us on facebook, twitter and Instagram @isthatlikeathing or reach us at 469-854-9636

“Friendish” by Kelly Needham

https://www.amazon.com/Friend-ish-Reclaiming-Friendship-Culture-Confusion-ebook/dp/B07KF27RZ4/ref=sr_1_1?dchild=1&keywords=friendish&qid=1617626961&sr=8-1

Find Kelly at www.keelyneedham.com or on Instagram and Facebook @kellyneedham

SCRIPTURE REFERENCE: 
Proverbs 9:8  “Do not rebuke a mocker, or he will hate you; rebuke a wise man, and he will love you.”

Proverbs 27:5-6 “Better is open rebuke than hidden love. Faithful are the wounds from a friend, profuse are the kisses of an enemy.” 

QUOTES
“Griefs are less hard together, joys are deeper together.” - Kelly Needham

“No one wins a war by themselves. You have to have friends to battle with you against the enemies of your faith.” - Kelly Needham

“We have no right to point to one particular person and say, “You must be this for me. You can look at your spouse and say, “You must love me this way” because there is a unique ownership element in our marriage. But in friendships there is not that.” - Kelly Needham

“Be the good friend before you have them.” - Kelly Needham 

“Real friendship is wounding.” - Kelly Needham

On this episode of Is That Like a Thing podcast, we get to spend time with our very first and very special guest, Kelly Needham. She is a wife, a mom, and the author of a wonderful book that we will be discussing today called, “Friendish”. We dive into this idea that there are counterfeit friendships that might look good on the outside, but on the inside are not the healthiest or even godly. Kelly helps us to identify what a few of these look like in our own lives, while also dropping a few truth bombs on the way. 

We had so much fun visiting with Kelly on this episode and we each found her wisdom incredibly helpful and eye-opening in our own friendships. We know you will find her a breath of fresh air, incredibly relatable and so very much fun. Thanks for joining us on this episode of Is That Like a Thing. 

You can find all things Kelly Needham and “Friendish” on her website kellyneedham.com. You can also connect with her on instagram or facebook @kellyneedham.

Want more info? Follow us on facebook, twitter and Instagram @isthatlikeathing or reach us at 469-854-9636

HOSTS / GUESTS
Crystal Yates, Magen Thurman, Becky Leach (feat. Emily Gentiles), with Special Guest Kelly Needham

EPISODE NOTES
“Friendish” by Kelly Needham

https://www.amazon.com/Friend-ish-Reclaiming-Friendship-Culture-Confusion-ebook/dp/B07KF27RZ4/ref=sr_1_1?dchild=1&keywords=friendish&qid=1617626961&sr=8-1

Find Kelly at www.keelyneedham.com or on Instagram and Facebook @kellyneedham

QUOTES
“A lot of our [friendship] issues are in the motivation - in the why we do what we do.” - Kelly

“Real friendship is that I care about you, I am for you, and asking how can I serve you and bless you, not myself.” - Kelly

“As soon as we start to need them more than we need Jesus, we start to be selfish with our friendship.” - Kelly

“We should be for our friends’ friendships.” - Kelly

“The thing that’s made the biggest difference in my friendship with Christ is embracing the costs that come with knowing Him. And they’re different from the costs that come with knowing a friend.” - Kelly

“It’s only because of technology that we even have the option to refuse to let a friendship be seasonal.” - Kelly

On this episode of Is That Like a Thing podcast, we’re talking what spending time with the Lord actually looks like for all of us. We break free of the stereotypical term “quiet time” and we break down all the different (and varying) ways to seek Jesus on a daily basis. It’s challenging and encouraging as we learn how to conquer obstacles, lack of desire, and just plain old negative self-talk.  Join us on this episode to get some practical tips on how to study the bible on your own, what has been helpful for each of us in all the different seasons we’ve walked through. We know you’ll find this episode reassuring if your personal time with the Lord doesn’t look like what it used to or even what you think it’s supposed to! Thanks for listening.

Want more info? Follow us on facebook, twitter and Instagram @isthatlikeathing or reach us at 469-854-9636

HOSTS / GUESTS
Crystal Yates, Magen Thurman, Becky Leach (feat. Emily Gentiles)

EPISODE NOTES
“Commit your way to the Lord, trust also in Him and He will do it.” Psalm 37:5

“For as the rain and the snow come down from heaven
    and do not return there but water the earth,
making it bring forth and sprout,
    giving seed to the sower and bread to the eater,
so shall my word be that goes out from my mouth;
    it shall not return to me empty,
but it shall accomplish that which I purpose,
    and shall succeed in the thing for which I sent it.” Isaiah 55:10-11

“But seek first the kingdom of God and his righteousness, and all these things will be added to you.” Matthew 6:33

“Draw near to God and He will draw near to you.” James 4:8

Priscila Shrier’s Armor of God Study : https://www.amazon.com/Armor-God-Priscilla-Shirer/dp/1430040270

Jesus Calling Devotional Book : https://www.amazon.com/Jesus-Calling-Enjoying-Peace-Presence/dp/1591451884/ref=sr_1_3?crid=10M2RRXI11SRR&dchild=1&keywords=jesus+calling+by+sarah+young&qid=1616595688&sprefix=jesus+c%2Caps%2C204&sr=8-3

Becky’s Bible Study Tools : 
www.studylight.org // Use for strong’s interlinear bible to reference original greek or hebrew text. Also great for studying a commentary to go along with the passage of scripture. 

“Life Applications from Every Chapter of the Bible” by G. Campbell Morgan // This book is hard to find because it’s out of print but SO helpful especially in studying the Old Testament

“Come to Me” by Jenn Johnson + Bethel Music

QUOTES
“Our hearts aren’t prone towards Him, they’re prone to wander.” -  Magen
“The Holy Spirit just wants our cooperation.” - Magen
“Sometimes you just have to buck up and do it, even when you don’t feel like it.” - Magen
“If something’s not working, you can change it.” - Crystal
“Listening to the Lord has changed my ability to hear the voice of God.” - Magen

On this episode of Is That Like a Thing, we’re talking about “Venting Up”. Wondering what that means? Listen in! We’d love to have you join this conversation!  Magan had mentioned in “Gossip Girls” (Ep. 8), that her boss would always tell her to “vent up”. Meaning this: don’t go to co-workers or work friends to “process” or “vent” about someone. And then we asked ourselves, what do we do? Do we go to friends, and co-workers, the people who will give us the answers we want? Or do we go UP? Do we go to the Lord? 

As always, we keep it real, y’all! We’re nothing if not honest. Emily talks about how hard it is for her to be honest with the Lord. We talk about the simple fact that, if we don’t have the Lord, who in heaven or earth do we have?! 

We hope you have fun listening to today’s episode and take away a point or two to implement throughout your relationships--both with one another and with the Lord first. 

Want more info? 

Follow us on facebook, twitter and Instagram! @is_that_like_a_thing or reach us at: 469-854-9636

HOSTS / GUESTS
Crystal Yates, Magen Thurman, Becky Leach (feat. Emily Gentiles)

SCRIPTURE REFERENCES 
Psalm 73:25-26 “whom else have I in heaven but you”

Psalm 11:5 

Matthew 18:3 “unless you change and become like children”

Galatians 5:4 

GOOD QUOTES
“I didn’t know we could be honest with the Lord” Em

“I felt like in prayer we needed to protect God from my emotions because He is Holy”

“God wants us to be honest with Him”

“We are created for relationship with God, first”

“What made King David a man after God’s heart was he even though he sinned he always ran back to the Lord”

‘the Lord is my safe place, this is why I vent up”

“the Lord is my safe place because the Lord knows my heart”

“when we vent up we see God allows us to be ourselves with Him but also, He changes us and makes us look more like Him”

‘If we can’t confess and be wrong, we can’t be changed”

“I just choose to believe Him, it’s as simple and as complicated as that”

“there is freedom for us when we cry out to the Lord”

“let go of form and come to God for relationship”

“go to God first”

“we are free from the box”

On this episode of Is That Like a Thing podcast, we’re talking Girls Who Gossip. But WAIT! Before you think, “this is for children…#HARDPASS.” As an adult, the word “Gossip” has been repackaged! Rephrased! It’s been softened and edited! As adults, we might now call it “processing”, “unloading”, it might come in the form of “prayer requests” or “going to a third party”....but listen...if you’re being honest with yourself, it’s probably gossip. And before you think we’re judging you, we’re the FIRST to admit...WE GUILTY. 

But the honest truth is that we probably all are. We’re working on it too! We get practical, we keep it real, we DON’T cry on this episode and we laugh! Join us!!

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HOSTS / GUESTS
Crystal Yates, Magen Thurman, Becky Leach (feat. Emily Gentiles)