When we say that we love someone, it is understood that we have a figurative affection for him. All Muslims, regardless of whether they are ignorant Muslims, bid’at holders, or pure and faithful Muslims, love Rasûlullah in this manner. Affection that much will suffice for being a Muslim. To attain love that will facilitate the reception of fayd, one must learn and love his words, actions, behaviour and morals. Someone is obeyed when he is loved in the full sense; he will be followed in every matter. A person will forget everything else if the love he has is powerful. This type of forgetting is called (Fanâ-i qalb). He will even forget himself. The forgetting of the self is also called (Fanâi nafs). In Makâtîb-i Sherîfa, in the 90th letter, it is stated that “When Fanâ-i qalb is attained, the hâtira (thinking of creatures) will not stay in the heart. But they still stay in mind. When Fanâ-yi nafs is attained, they will leave mind, too. Only the ahl-i tasawwuf can understand this writing of ours. It is not learned by being educated in high schools or universities.” So, when Fanâ is attained, that is, when an ’ârif is loved very much, fayd, lights, and sacred blessings, which are coming to that ’ârif from Rasûlullah, ‘sall-Allâhu ta’âlâ ’alaihi wa sallam’ flow toward the heart of these lovers and they attain real ikhlâs. Hence, they enjoy worshipping, and they obtain the grace of Allâhu ta’âlâ. After this stage, “Fanâfir-Rasûl” will be obtained; that is, by deeply loving Rasûlullah ‘sall-Allâhu ta’âlâ ’alaihi wa sallam’, a person receives fayd directly from his blessed heart. In this case, he no longer needs a murshid (a spiritual guide).