00:00 Introduction 

0:50 “Bully” is defined and introduced as the topic of discussion and the ways and which someone can be defined as such.

2:42 Merisa and Erica discuss bullying from a familial perspective and how it can possibly break one’s relationship with their loved ones or community

5:20 As an adult, it’s important to not allow yourself to be bullied and taking your power back

5:55 Merisa and Erica discuss fake sincerity and “fun” shade that comes from a bad place

7:01 First Impressions and their how it may play a part in bullying also hazing newcomers into social groups.

9:22 Taking accountability for our bullying 

10:09 Bullying in a relationship, does it exist?

10:50 Discussing the ways in which to discern between bullying and help by paying attention to tones and motives

12:18 Merisa and Erica discuss Kevin Samuel’s controversial statements made to a woman seeking counseling

15:00 This segment addresses the infamous rating game college guys play on women volunteers

16:24 Questioning people who pretend to be helpers and counselors but in fact, do not like people

17:33 Merisa and Erica discuss a mutual negative experience with a career counselor in the master’s program

20:42 Using the Real Housewives as an the case study, Merisa and Erica discuss “shade”

23:19 Revenge bullying, and when it may or may not be acceptable 

26:38 Closing 

Kevin Samuels link :https://youtu.be/VI6XWGKvUrE

In Today's episode, Erica and Merisa discuss all aspects of unlearning.

This week Erica and Merisa discuss black conservatism with guest Curt Bender and Christian Williams.

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Boundaries

In this episode, Erica & Merisa discuss boundaries, the set of rules or expectations we place on ourselves to avoid compromising who we are. A boundary can look like not allowing certain people to know private matters, determining who can physically touch you, and simply saying “no.” Not to be confused with standards—qualities that must be present before a certain level of engagement—boundaries are very important when practicing self–love and shift depending on who we’re interacting with at any given moment. 

0:49: Introducing the book that sparked the conversation, Boundaries by Cloud & Townsend

1:32: Merisa and Erica discuss their Boundaries Quiz scores and some of the questions

3:02 Merisa explains her boundaries, or standards rather, regarding the topic of weight

5:15 Defining boundaries as rules created to avoid being used manipulated, used, or violated. Whereas. standards are requirements prior to connecting with someone.

6:51 Merisa and Erica discuss relationship boundaries, specifically concerning passwords and phones

08:34 Discussing whether people truly know if they are crossing a boundary with you and how to solve issues once crossed.

10:18 Erica discusses her struggles with unsolicited relationship advice from friends.

13:08 Merisa discusses people taking her kindness for weakness

14:15 Discussing how our boundaries says a lot about our life goals and aspirations.   

18:02 The different ways we can tell if our boundaries are healthy,  and how to  avoid reactionary boundaries

21:35 Parental boundaries and how your role in people’s lives determine your boundaries for them and yourself

24:00 Personality shapes our boundaries and not feeling the need to make friends therapists

27: Stepparent boundaries & Outro

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Rejection vs. Redirection

In this episode, Erica & Merisa discuss rejection and its consequences on how we think and react to our environment. Social and familial rejection has a profound effect on our mental health causing stress, depression, envy, and anxiety throughout our life if not confronted properly. By simply taking a more optimistic approach to rejection, such as looking at it as a redirection, we are able to move forward with our lives with more confidence & peace.

2:10: Defining rejection & redirection, per Oxford Dictionary

3:00: Discussing where rejection comes from & the evolutionary biology behind it

5:40 Determining if we’re being rejected versus being challenged; Also, understanding when quit especially if your goals are not purpose-driven

10:04 How men versus women handle rejection in romantic relationships & in their career

13:25 The negative effects of dwelling on past relationship trauma

18:40 Rejection from parents; the effects of divorces & having empathy and compassion for our parents

24:07 Cultural rejection and outcasting people based on their political views; cancel culture

28:00 Stop rejecting people who may have some ignorance but are trying to find common ground

32:35 Rejection in friendships, in particular, gift-giving

34:06 Setting friendship expectations, having self-awareness in friendship, & friendship audits

37:28 Discussing “ghosting” and the hypocrisy amongst people who do it but hate when it is done to them

38:54 Understanding that no one owes us anything and taking accountability for your self-esteem by not chasing people who are rejecting you

41:15 Being cautious of people who want to keep you in a rejected mindset & also understanding that rejection is often so painful that their anger can be projected onto the wrong person

46:33 Define yourself so you don’t absorb other people’s opinions or rejections

48:20 Takeaway on rejection and closing  

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This week E. Lew and Merisa catch up and talk about life during COVID-19. They cover everything from Trump checks to cancel culture.

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Do you have wanderlust? Are you itching to get away from reality and go on a vacation?

In the final episode of Season One, Mer and E.Lew discuss one of their favorite bonding activities...Traveling! Both ladies provide their Travel Dos & Don'ts, their favorite places,  and destinations soon to come!  Take a listen as they dive into their lessons, tips, and memorable moments.

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There's a pandemic among us, and we're not talking about Coronavirus. Have you ever felt hopeless? Does joy seem to be missing from your life? Do you have a friend who you know is depressed, but you feel powerless to help them?

In this episode,  E.Lew & Merisa discuss their experience and suggestions on how to overcome sadness we all may feel at a certain point in our lives. Seeing the bigger picture will take work, but anyone can do it. Let's heal!

If you want to express yourself or feel alone, you can always reach out to [email protected]. --  completely anonymous.

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The entrepreneurial mindset is growing rapidly, and many young adults are opting to start their own business rather than securing a “stable” job. Side hustles are also growing in popularity with the rise of freelance websites and the power of social media’s marketing capabilities.  However, there are challenges young entrepreneurs face despite their fearlessness such as student debt, barriers to entry, access to start-up capital or resources, and a fundamental lack of financial literacy.

In this episode, the Lewises discuss entrepreneurship with Latanya White—a business coach, college professor, author and entrepreneur.  Professor White has made a career out of business coaching, stressing the importance of mindset, accountability, resilience, and challenging sources of self-doubt. She walks us through the following topics:

1. Breaking free of familial expectations that do not align with one’s passion- 4:40
2. Creating systems, structure and habits for people who are confident they want to start a business- 8:00
3. The next step after a business idea fails & identity mapping- 11:03
4. How to grow your money in college and responsible self-care- 17:15
5. Work-life Balance for Entrepreneurs- 20:24
6. The importance of valuing your products & services appropriately & fighting Imposter Syndrome- 23:05
7. “Side Hustle of the Month” by Essence- 25:30
8. Ideas on creating passive income by leveraging things you already know - 29:00

You can get more information about LaTanya on her website meetprofwhite.com.

Free guide to start your business! https://www.meetprofwhite.com/ithitsdifferent

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This week E. Lew & Merisa discuss the age old topic of self awareness and quickly find out how much of a burden it can be.

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