Drawing from Ecclesiastes 3 and David’s response to the deaths of Saul and Jonathan, Pastor Ryan Franklin reminded us that while there are situations in life we cannot change, we should not use “it is what it is” to avoid processing grief. Whether the loss is a loved one, a relationship, a dream, or a season of life, unprocessed grief can shape our hearts in unhealthy ways. David showed us the biblical pattern of lament—bringing our pain honestly before God rather than burying it. Grief is not weakness; it is evidence that something mattered. When we grieve well, we grow well, allowing God to deepen us rather than harden us as He prepares us for what comes next.