Welcome to part two of Bethanie Lunn’s conversation with holistic relationship coach, Ali Hendry. In this episode, Beth discusses ‘the relationship after’, when you try to love again post breakup and how frikkin hard it is!
At the same time as trying to fall in love - this time, perhaps in a different way to the way it didn't work out, you're also full of trying. Trying to heal, trying to trust, trying to enjoy, trying to unlearn all the behaviours that were moulded in the last relationship. There's a lot of propaganda out there carrying messages such as, 'if it is true love, it won't be hard. It will just happen', but I'm calling BS on that.
Starting with Ali’s story on being twice divorced and ripping up the rule book when it comes to love, in this episode we discuss:
The impact of going through divorce “You are exactly where you need to be”
Getting support “I’m not an island” , “having those difficult conversations will help you”
Making relationships work “every relationship worth having takes work”
Attachment styles “different partners may bring out different attachment styles”Follow Beth on Instagram: @bethanielunn
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Resources for this episode:
Couples Therapy Workbook for Healing: emotionally focused therapy techniques to restore your relationship. Lori Cluff Schade
The Attachment Theory Workbook: powerful tools to promote understanding, increase stability and build lasting relationships. Annie Chen.
The Abandonment Recovery Workbook: guidance through the 5 stages of healing from abandonment, heartbreak and loss. Susan Anderson.
Daring to Trust: opening ourselves to real love and intimacy. David Richo.
Mating In Captivity: unlocking erotic intelligence. Esther Perel.
Tongue Tied: untangling communication in sex, kink, and relationships. Stella Harris.
The surprising truth about desire everyone needs to know | Dr Karen Gurney | TEDxRoyalTunbridgeWells - YouTube
RADAR — Multiamory
Podcasts | Esther PerelAli is offering listeners a free 30-minute relationship coaching taster. Book here: https://calendly.com/alihendrycoaching/initial-meeting