It's All BS

The other day I was waiting in the car while a friend went into the store. We were parked near a very busy intersection, and I was just watching out the window as I waited. Across the many lanes of traffic, I noticed a young guy walking down the sidewalk wearing big, noise canceling headphones. As he walked, I kept waiting for him to look behind him or look around for people or cars or anything he might need to be aware of. For the entire time that he was in my line of sight, he did not so much as glance over his shoulder to see if someone was behind him.

It really got me thinking about what a fascinatingly different experience this guy has than a lot of my female friends and I have. I would never in a million years put on noise canceling headphones and walk down the street or anywhere without being able to hear my surroundings. And it started to make me angry that I have to have those thoughts of safety when other people don’t. I was starting to worry about why I didn’t have what somebody else had.

We tend to do this in life, in business, and in relationships. So in today’s episode of It’s All BS, we’re discussing why you will be happier when you stop watching other people.

We talk about:
🔹 Staying in your own lane
🔹 How to keep your brain safe from needing to compare
🔹 Understanding your unique abilities and YOU-ness
🔹 Why following someone else’s path will not get you the same things

You’re doing an amazing job being you, and I promise with all my heart that no one can be as good at being you as YOU. 💕

P.S. If you could use some personalized support around this area of your life, I have a limited number of openings. So let's talk and see if we’re a fit. Book a chat here! 

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Often, in the many facets of our life, we face mountains. Sometimes when we face it, we know that if we can just scale that mountain, we’re going to get to the other side, and it’s going to be awesome. We may face valleys, but we will press on. And then there will be other mountains to climb. So we continue on, one foot in front of the other.

Sometimes you face a mountain so high, the top may even be hidden from your view. The path may look steep and rocky. You may not even see a place to take your next step. But what if your mountain could speak? What if the obstacle you are facing was an entity that could actually encourage you?

In today’s episode of It’s All BS, we’re discussing your mountain, and why you should keep climbing.

We talk about:
🔹 Enjoying the view from the top
🔹 Shifting your perspective
🔹 Allowing your “mountain” to cheer you on
🔹 How you get to choose where you are

Sometimes when you are climbing, it really is just you and the mountain. This is your road to walk. Your mountain and I will be cheering for you. 💕

P.S. If you could use some personalized support around this area of your life, I have a limited number of openings. So let's talk and see if we’re a fit. Book a chat here! 

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When I got my first job, I was so excited to just be there. But whether or not I thought about it at that time, my employer and I had entered into a partnership.

When we are in a partnership, whether business or relationship, there is give and take. We look at what you can provide to me and what I can provide to you in order to make this an equal exchange.  Everyone needs each other on the same level.

But what happens if things start to feel out of balance? This has come up in conversations with several clients lately. So today we’re diving in to find out if you are playing offense or defense with your clients.

We talk about:
🔹 What does it mean to be on the offensive or defensive
🔹 Respecting the partnership line
🔹 Power dynamic shifts
🔹 How to keep the partnership going

Are you playing offense or defense with your business, or are you honoring the partnership and encouraging and inviting your client to also honor the partnership. Everything gets so much simpler when everyone is working in partnership, and everyone is working towards the same goal within the partnership. 💕

P.S. I know there's something something weird with the mic, but I'm not changing it. <3

P.P.S. If you could use some personalized support around this area of your life, I have a limited number of openings. So let's talk and see if we’re a fit. Book a chat here! 

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Today I’m doing something a little different. If you are familiar with me or this podcast, then you probably know that I am a song writer. There is a particular song that I wrote that has been coming up a lot lately. The song was written as kind of a theme song for a book that I love called The Funeral Dress by Susan Greg Gilmore.

I know several friends and acquaintances who are dealing with grief and loss. There are a lot of times where I think we need to make sure that we are truly holding each other up. When we have a moment where we can speak into somebody or help somebody along, I really believe we need to take those opportunities to share experiences.

So today I am actually going to play you a song. I thought that maybe we could all listen to this one and just be reminded that we are in this together. 💕

I Will Hold You Up
Written by Belinda Smith
7th Row Music/BMI

Hello Beautifuls! There are lessons to be learned all throughout life. Last week we talked about things we can learn from timeshare salespeople. This week I’ve been thinking about things we can learn from the people we know and also about the lessons I have learned myself, not just in sales, but in creativity and in my own life.

In this episode of It’s All BS, I want to talk to you about 3 lessons I've learned so you don't have to.

We talk about:
🔹 Gathering data
🔹 Why you shouldn’t become dependent on feedback from others
🔹 Valuing yourself and your energy
🔹 How persistence pays off

I’m sharing these lessons, so that you can take some of this information and apply it to your own life. Maybe it will spark something, and maybe you will be able to recognize some things in your own life that could potentially change. 💕

P.S. If you could use some personalized support around this area of your life, I have a limited number of openings. So let's talk and see if we’re a fit. Book a chat here! 

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Recently, I was asked by a new friend about a timeshare. When it comes to timeshares, I know people on both sides of the debate, those who love them and those who have tried everything to try to get out of them. I also know people who think timeshare associates are complete slime, and all the salespeople are disgusting. There is an entire circle around this, and I’m not here to convince you either way. It makes no difference to me, and it’s really beside the point.

However, in order to share this lesson with you, I want to tell you about my recent experience… how it came about, how it ended, and all the things in between.

In this episode we talk about:
🔹 What it means to leverage relationships
🔹 Things to notice about sales techniques
🔹 Recognizing emotional manipulation
🔹 When people don’t respect your “no”
🔹 How NOT to do sales

When I looked at it all and all the parts of that experience, I thought about how a lot of us work for ourselves. We’re responsible for the marketing, and for the sales, and for the follow-ups. It comes straight down to us. And there is a way to do it to get the people that you want to work with, a way to keep people neutral, and a way to repel people. Decide before you get into it which one you want to be.

P.S. If you could use some personalized support around this area of your life, I have a limited number of openings. So let's talk and see if we’re a fit. Book a chat here! 

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This is going to be short and to the point today. Just a few days after burying 3 children and 3 adults after a mass shooting here in Nashville, there was another mass shooting in a bank in Louisville.

Meanwhile, our governor in Tennessee is focusing on banning drag queens “to protect the children”.

My heart is heavy, so today, I offer you all I have.

Courtesy of Martin Niemöller.

Love and light to you, Beautifuls. 

Hello Beautifuls! Welcome to It’s All BS, the podcast about success and mindset where I’m on a mission to help you get unhooked from what’s keeping you from having the life you want. 

If you follow me on social media, you may have seen a simple quote that I made and decided to sprinkle in here and there. I first put it out a few years ago, and I share it from time to time. What’s interesting is how many people have reached out on the days I have shared it and thanked me because they needed to hear that. The people who are supposed to see it, see it on that day.

So in todays’ episode I’m sharing the main secret I tell my clients, and this just may be the message you need to hear today.

We talk about:
🔹 Feeling like we need permission and encouragement to proceed
🔹 Finding your own pace
🔹 Why it doesn’t matter what it looks like to anyone else
🔹 The key to the entire journey

You are awesome, and I hope this helps you and encourages you to keep going! 💕

P.S. If you could use some personalized support around this area of your life, I have a limited number of openings. So let's talk and see if we’re a fit. Book a chat here! 

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Last year I saw a solo artist on America’s Got Talent that really blew me away. He had the perfect marriage of voice, writing, melody, and the whole thing. I looked him up online and saw that he was actually the lead singer of a band called the Nicotine Dolls who just so happened to be making their first stop on tour in Nashville.

I wasn’t sure how well he would transfer from solo artist to band but decided to go see them perform. When I heard the entire band together, it was perfect. He was crazy talented on his own, but when you add the band, the background vocals, and the musicians, his voice was perfect with it.

You may be fantastic on your own. You may be crazy talented. You may be that person who stands out. But in today’s episode of It’s All BS, we’re talking about why you need the people around you to shine.

We discuss:
🔹 Why you need the right people around you
🔹 How things can be even better than you expect them to be
🔹 Creating the whole package
🔹 Supporting those who support you

I encourage you to make sure that the people in your life are absolutely doing the very best that they can do, that they are supporting you however you need to be supported, and that you are also supporting them. 💕

And if you haven’t heard of the Nicotine Dolls, go check them out on TikTok and Instagram!

P.S. If you could use some personalized support around this area of your life, I have a limited number of openings. So let's talk and see if we’re a fit. Book a chat here! 

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Hello Beautifuls! I have a very special guest today, and I’m excited for you to meet Eileen West, my first scholarship recipient.

Eileen found out about me and my scholarship from a mutual friend and decided to apply. She didn’t know me, and she didn’t think she would win, but she decided to take a chance anyway. Now, Eileen and I have been working together for several years, and today Eileen is a successful transformational mindset coach for women at The Mind-Body Badass.

In this episode we talk about:
🔹 How Eileen’s transformations started by cleaning off her desk
🔹 Creating evidence for yourself
🔹 Why you shouldn’t get discouraged if you don’t succeed on the first try 
🔹 How there is never a “good time” to start
🔹 Overcoming limiting beliefs

Here’s what Eileen had to say about her experience as a scholarship winner: “The Principles that I have learned from you are applicable in every part of life, not just in business or losing 20 pounds.  It’s applicable everywhere.”

Eileen is truly a badass and such an inspiration! Tune in to the full episode to learn more about her incredible journey, and be sure to visit her website and follow her on Instagram!

P.S. If you could use some personalized support around this area of your life, I have a limited number of openings. So let's talk and see if we’re a fit. Book a chat here! 

Remember, it's all about the mindset! Tune back in next week!