Today we open it all up when it comes to faking it.  Gasp!

We talk about how we’re impacted by what we see on tv and in porn with the pressure on women to have cinematic orgasms sans pleasure. 

IRL performative sex is really about goal-oriented sex and satisfying your partner. We’re here to tell you that sex is more than orgasm!  Yes, you heard that right.  It is about giving and receiving pleasure and the connection you have with another person. 

So, why do women fake it?  We discuss a number of reasons why and if you’re faking it, we encourage you to ask yourself why.  It’s time to get real about your pleasure.  

We talk about the importance of understanding your own body and what turns you on, being present in the moment, and communication being lubrication when it comes to voicing your needs in the boudoir. 

You deserve all the pleasure and connection you desire!

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Get ready for the introduction of the fire pussy… don’t judge us…you just have to listen.

In today’s episode Megan & Shannon talk about judgments and assumptions that occur on the dating apps (and IRL too).  We’d be kidding ourselves if we didn’t admit that most people do this.  You’re assessing information based on what you see in a profile or what you learn about someone when you first meet them.  Never married, no kids- does that mean there’s a permanent heavy bag tag attached to their (emotional) luggage?  Or maybe they possibly just didn’t meet the person to have that with yet? Or neither?

We talk about pushing judgements or assumptions aside and being open to getting to know someone.  There’s also the importance of self-assessment when it comes those judgements and also around what you want and what you put out there. 

Also, everyone is busy so if you really want to date then you’ll make time for it.  And be open to what’s out there!

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Accepting an apology and forgiving someone aren’t the same thing- mic drop.

Today Megan and Shannon talk about what forgiveness is and how to process and release it, the myth of forgive and forget, and the importance of forgiving in order to free yourself.  

We discuss the process of forgiveness using The Fourfold Path from The Book of Forgiving by Desmond Tutu and Mpho Tutu.

1.     Telling the Story

2.     Naming the Hurt

3.     Granting Forgiveness

4.     Renewing or Releasing the Relationship

We are all flawed humans, and we make mistakes.  
And it’s up to YOU to work through it.  

You have a choice.  

Forgiveness is freedom!

The goodies:

Gala Darling- The EFT Tapping Queen

https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLuxsZTBMy6DOrqXNMzKR4j0UCIFMw0qb_

The Book of Forgiving 

https://www.harpercollins.com/products/the-book-of-forgiving-desmond-tutumpho-tutu?variant=32122225983522
Esther Perel

https://www.estherperel.com/blog/the-power-of-apologizing-relearn-how-to-say-im-sorry


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Before we get into effective apologies Shannon offers advice on how to address someone when you feel that things are still unresolved post that person’s initial apology.  We also provide some tips on getting yourself into the right mindset to have the convo.  

You know we love us some Dr. Honda!  We find his components of an effective apology super thorough and impressive, so we talk through each of his points.  Take notes!  

Dr. Honda’s 10 Components of an Effective Apology

1.     Accurately and fully acknowledge the transgression.

2.    Accurately and fully acknowledge the harm caused by the transgression.

3.    Take responsibility for the transgression.

4.    Sincerely express guilt, regret, shame and/or remorse.

5.    Explain why it happened without making excuses.

6.    Offer remedy – if necessary.

7.    Provide a plan to address the cause of the transgression to reduce the chance of repeat transgression.

8.    Request acknowledgement of each component – if possible.

9.    Request confirmation of accuracy – if possible.

10.  Request forgiveness – if possible.

We also cover how to ask for an apology and how to handle a situation if someone thinks you owe them an apology but you’re not in agreement.

The cool stuff:

Dr. Honda’s Take on Will Smith’s Apology Video

https://youtu.be/1oDFBGcl-go

Dr. Honda’s Scandoval Playlist

https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLoLeO9hEEd_DSihs5YX2oIT2dm7t9yepH

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Oh yeah, we’re dropping some goodies today!  We get a wee bit fired up over bad apologies and how much they suck, but we also offer some good responses to such sorry ass apologies. 

We all f*ck up- FACT.  It’s important to understand that good apologies are crucial for healthy relationships.  And we’re not talking about just checking a box.  It’s so much more than that (stay tuned for more in Part 2!)

Common communication killers (aka bad apologies):

·      “I’m sorry you feel that way.”

·      “That wasn’t my intention.” or “I had good intentions.”

·      “I’m sorry but…” or “I’m sorry if…”

·      “It’s not my job to make you happy.”

·      “I’m just joking.”

·      “I’m not going to keep saying I’m sorry.”

·      “I shouldn’t have to apologize.  I’m just being honest.”

We also talk about why this shit is so hard for some, and the difference between saying “I’m sorry” versus “I apologize.”

Get out a pen and paper because you’re going to want to take some notes!

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Well, we initially thought this was going to be a quickie, but we ended up chatting for so long that we decided to post it as a full one.  Lucky you! Welcome to Pop Culture Happy Hour where the gals go off!

Oh and there may have been some wine and/or gummies involved in this one. Oopsie! Consider yourself warned. I mean, it was a Friday night!  Permission granted.
Shannon calls this episode talking shit about shit we don’t know shit about. We’re not really talking shit.  We actually riffed in this one covering three current pop culture topics: Kyle Richards and late in life lesbianism, the Jonah Hill texts with his ex, and Kevin Costner’s divorce and prenups. 
We certainly do not have the intimate details nor the diplomas to speak to any of these topics in a professional capacity. And we fully admit that there are certain topics we don’t know much about, but we do have life experience, inquisitive minds, and thoughts to share. It’s raw and real so let’s go! Weeeee!

We just can’t get enough Dr. Honda! 

https://www.youtube.com/c/PsychologyInSeattle

His Real Housewives playlist

https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLoLeO9hEEd_DBIUBcG53Q43RKnqGTaqxc

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How is it the end of July already??  Today Shannon and Megan are giving you a Hot Girl Summer update! 

 Shannon’s coming in hot with her cowgirl boots and some country dancing- yee haw!  She also ventured out for a solo karaoke date with herself.  You go girl!

Megan’s still riding the pole- lol!  While also taking sultry body movement classes, playing some tennis and loving the bronzed life this summer.

Who knew Hot Girl Summer also involves shadow work?  Yeah, that’s a thing.  The babes get in deeper with some Healing Girl Summer talk as they keep it real with Megan reflecting on a recent experience out in the wild that got her thinking about trust, boundaries, and the importance of standing up for herself.  They share an emotional moment so get ready! 

We end on a high note- what’s left for the summer?  River float, concerts, improv class, travel, and wearing daisy dukes. 

Buckle up and enjoy the ride!

Megan's EFT Tapping Guru- Gala Darling
https://galadarling.mykajabi.com/highvibehoney

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Today we hit on a hot topic- whether or not to share passwords with your significant other.  Do they really need an all access pass to your phone which, for some people, is like their diary?  And what's with location sharing?  Do you need to track their every move?

Enter in TRUST...does sharing passwords really indicate a level of trust between you?  What's at the core of that?  Insecurity from a past relationship, perhaps?  Damn, that (emotional) baggage can be heavy! 

Brené comes to the rescue with her BRAVING inventory which serves as a conversation guide in creating trust with others.  "When we trust we are BRAVING a connection with someone."

Shannon also offers some food for thought when it comes to why your partner may ask for your password and what to do if you're the one who wants all the access.


Dr. Brené Brown: The Anatomy of Trust https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/oprahs-super-soul/id1264843400?i=1000434936869

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Today we talk all things phasing and pacing when it comes to dating with a committed and connected relationship in mind.  And yes, it includes some sex talk, of course!

We dive into the progression of dates, provide recommendations of what to do on a first date, questions to ask on dates and how those evolve over time, how often to go on dates, going deeper as you continue to spend more time with someone, continuing to reference your checklist along the way, and when to introduce some time in the boudoir.  Shannon’s advice- don’t go to the M&M factory! (Now you have to listen to know what that means) 
We graduate into what Shannon refers to as The Girlfriend Experience. She shares more details about what that means as a relationship progresses to the next level.  Don’t be givin’ all them goodies away too fast!  

Find our deal breakers checklist from Episode 2 here: https://chipper-inventor-8862.ck.page/065afb4a0f

Book recommendations:

Jay Shetty’s 8 Rules Of Love https://8rulesoflove.com

Lewis Howes’ The Greatness Mindset https://info.lewishowes.com/the-greatness-mindset 

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It’s our first quickie!  Episode, that is. 😉

Today we extend our STI convo to talk more about contraception, the mutual responsibility around it, and some of our personal experiences and thoughts around the various options.  

For any men that are listening, Megan reminds them that when it comes to sex we want to be revved up!  “You don’t just stick it in and we’re good.” 

Health Disclaimer:  We are not medical doctors.  Do not rely on any medical information contained on this podcast in making medical, health-related or other decisions.  The information contained herein is based on our own personal research and personal experiences.  Please consult a doctor or other health professional if you have any concerns regarding your health.

Helpful links:

 https://www.plannedparenthood.org/learn/birth-control

 https://www.cdc.gov/reproductivehealth/contraception/index.htm

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