This is looooong episode- lol.  Today we focus on safe sex!  

Shannon & Megan hit on such topics as sexual sovereignty, our sexual evolution as a society, what safe sex really means, the importance of STI testing, when to get tested, and how to have these extremely important convos before being sexually intimate with someone.

We both feel so strongly about this topic.  Please make your sexual health a priority and listen to this before you get hot and heavy!

Health Disclaimer:  We are not medical doctors.  Do not rely on any medical information contained on this podcast in making medical, health-related or other decisions.  The information contained herein is based on our own personal research and personal experiences.  Please consult a doctor or other health professional if you have any concerns regarding your health.

Helpful links:

https://thestiproject.com

https://www.cdc.gov/std/default.htm

https://www.who.int/news-room/fact-sheets/detail/sexually-transmitted-infections-(stis)

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Today Megan & Shannon are satisfying your curiosities by answering some listener questions so….get ready for the ride!

We explore: 

• When do you have the convo about being exclusive?
• When do you have your new person meet your friends and family and when should you meet their friends and family?  What’s important about that?  
• What are your thoughts on timing of overnight and weekend trips with a new person?
• When it comes to conflict, do you believe in agreeing to disagree? 

Megan’s Book Recommendation: The Gaslight Effect by Dr. Robin Stern

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How many F bombs do you think we dropped in this one? Lol

fboy: a man who strings you along to keep your thirst for him going using tactics such as love bombing, ghosting, gaslighting, and breadcrumbing so he gets what he wants which is usually to get laid.

spiritual fboy: in addition to the traditional fboy manipulation tactics, this guy represents himself as being in an enlightened state of mind and being.  He comes across as well spoken, knowledgeable about spirituality and mindfulness, has a therapist or coach, and reads/follows some of the greats like Eckhart Tolle and Michael Singer…but it’s all surface level.

His actions may be intentional (a true f*ckboy) or unintentional (a faker).  Either way, he's not living in his integrity which is a BIG red flag. 

We stress the importance of asking questions to gain a better understanding of who this person is and what they stand for. But if words and actions aren’t aligned…spiritual fboy, bye. 

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Psychology in Seattle (Dr. Kirk Honda)- Love is Blind Season 4 Playlist- it’s sooo good!

https://youtube.com/playlist?list=PLoLeO9hEEd_BzSLq_4QsZ-7FQUT8KFKFi

News flash- Megan and Shannon are declaring that hot girl summer isn’t just for the younger generations- nope.  We chat about what HGS means to us and what our plans are for a hot, hot summer! 

Get ready to express yourself, try new things, shift your mindset, meet new people, celebrate yourself, and light the femme fire within you!!

It’s time for a glow up, babes!

All the things:

Our latest YouTube obsession- Dr. Kirk Honda

https://www.youtube.com/@PsychologyInSeattle 

Megan’s new fave non-alcoholic sparkling rosé

 https://schatziwines.com/wine/nv-leitz-eins-zwei-zero-aparkling-rose-non-alcoholic/

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In this episode Shannon is in the hot seat!  Megan asks some of her top questions to get Shannon’s take.  

The goodies:

·      What does it mean to be single?

·      What has been the biggest learning and/or surprise* as you started dating after being with the same person for 20+ years?

·      Do you need someone to give you closure?

·      Do relationships have to be hard?

·      Can you have chemistry without sex in a LTR?

·      Is sex important in a relationship?

·      Do you subscribe to makeup sex?

·      Do you believe in love at first sight?

·      Do you think chemistry can develop in a relationship?

·      How do I show an interest in someone IRL?

So much good information and advice in this one. We hope you enjoy it!

xo

*Note that Shannon does talk about a triggering situation with someone she refers to as “The Rager” (a verbally abusive man) whom she confronted as part of her healing process to take her power back.  Do not attempt to do this unless a therapist or other healing professional is guiding and supporting you through such a situation and you are at a point in your healing process to do so.  Shannon is a professional and understood the situation and what she needed to do for herself.

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Today the gals are talking about a different kind of DPs- lol.  Dating Profiles!  

We can feel you rolling your eyes.  Ok, ok, we know sometimes online dating can be a bit challenging.  If we see one more pic of a dude holding a fish who wants to go on adventures (translation: camping in the middle of nowhere with no bathroom) we may lose it.  We totally get it.

But if you’re truly serious about connecting with someone we recommend you put thought and effort into your profile, obvi!  This is not the time to phone it in.  Are you serious about wanting to meet someone?  The key is to be authentic and represent yourself in a mature, tasteful way.  

Join us as we talk through what to do and what not to do.  And get ready for some real-life examples.   It didn’t take much for us to find profiles that we promptly filed under NOPE, but we also share some good ones too!


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We’re back with part deux of our convo on comms!

We revisit the importance of keeping text messages short and sweet and also encourage mixing it up with a voice note to foster emotional connection.  It really works!

We also talk about when to send pics and what to do when you get a request from an admirer.  We also get into the DPs!! How could we not??!  Oh does Shannon have some stories for those! Tea anyone?

Shannon also introduces The Girlfriend Experience- what it is and what it means to set boundaries around it.  Don’t give someone that experience and put your heart and hot selfies on the line unless there’s a whole lotta trust there.  Take it from two people who’ve been through it.  We’re here to share it all with you so you can learn from our… umm…temporary inability to make better choices- lol.  Everything is a learning experience, right?

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Your fav gal pals are back talking about the very important topic of communication!  Back in the day we had corded phones- eek! Like a real, actual landline was our only option.  Cell phones and other mobile devices now rule our lives and texting/messaging is a big part of comms.  Some of us have definitely effed up and sent that text we probably shouldn't have...oopsie.   

So, listen in as S&M give some tips and, of course, their own personal experiences and thoughts on this topic.  Shannon opens up her vault- The Dudes of Tinder & Bumble- meet Mr. Paella, Racecar Driver and Cult Guy, among others!  Megan’s story involves a guy who sent her a message that he didn’t want her to wear a bra on their first date-WTF! NOPE.

Enjoy and stay calm :)


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First up is a check in with S&M- Shannon has been busy revving up her engine and Megan shares the next step of her healing journey.

Oofahhhh the babes are on a roll today!  We talk all things manners!  From being on time to all things chivalrous.  And it’s not lost on us that we need to bring our best Ms. Manners etiquette and are also on our best behavior (naughty post date behavior not covered in this episode!) 

Megan stresses the importance of napkin placement and usage.   Olive man is a recurring guest in this one for eating with his hands AND wiping his mouth on his shirt cuff.  Yes, that actually happened!!

Shannon is really into QT on a date which means putting the cell phone away and focusing on each other. She shares her triangle secret that gives off the sexy signal that you’re interested in him.  Hopefully she hasn’t been caught looking at something else- lol!

They get into the hot topic of who pays at the end of the date.  This is a BIG one!

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We talk all things personal maintenance and tending to your little garden down there, first and foremost for yourself!  Shannon shares her love of matching lacey intimates and Megan talks about heels again.  ‘Scuse me while I feel myself… it’s all about being confident AF on the reg but also putting the time and energy into first date prep.  These babes take it seriously! 

Shannon shares her screening process to get to know someone better, what to look for in the initial messages and phone conversation, and reviewing your post flight checklist after the date to assess whether or not he’s sponge worthy (as in, is he getting to a second date…not talking sex just yet!). We also talk about trusting your intuition.  Megan shares a dating experience she had and what she did after a wine filled first date to check in with herself, which came in handy later.

Somehow the topic of meat made into another episode- lol!

Enjoy the riff ride!


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