It's Funny You Should Ask

How often do you mindlessly browse through your favorite social media app? Do you suddenly find yourself adding things to your online shopping cart? We definitely do - more than we’d like to admit! Sit with us as we talk about what phone addiction even is (or if it’s even a real thing) and how to curb it! 

 

Take the same test K took to see if you are addicted to your phone!: https://virtual-addiction.com/smartphone-compulsion-test/

 

T’s article: Kevin Roose, “Do Not Disturb: How I Ditched My Phone and Unbroke My Brain” (February 23, 2019) from the New York Times, online: https://www.nytimes.com/2019/02/23/business/cell-phone-addiction.html

 

K’s article: Christina Gregory, PhD.,”Internet Addiction Disorder; Signs, symptoms, diagnosis, and treatments for those who may be addicted to the Web on their PC or smart phone” (November 2020) from PSYCOM, online: https://www.psycom.net/iadcriteria.html

Have you ever felt like you don’t have enough friends, or felt guilty for not keeping in touch with an old friend? We have! Today we discuss why making friends as an adult is hard and clarify the difference between a clique and a group of friends. 

 

Also help us decide if K’s signature move to make friends is creepy. She doesn’t think so. 

 

T’s article: Emily Burns, “How to make friends as an adult” (November 23, 2020) online: https://www.thecut.com/article/how-to-make-friends-as-an-adult.html

See this too: Dr. Miriam Kirmayer’s research- https://www.miriamkirmayer.com/friendship-research/

K’s Article: Sherri Gordon, “How to Tell the Difference Between a Clique and Friends” May 17, 2020 online: https://www.verywellfamily.com/a-clique-or-friends-how-to-tell-the-difference

Today we talk about the dreaded “b” word--budgeting. We discuss our mistakes with money and why we avoided actually talking about them for so long. Guess what, if you don’t have a budget already, we’re going to suggest that you make one now!

 

T’s article: Stephanie Horan, “How different generations spend money” Jan 16, 2020 online: https://smartasset.com/checking-account/how-different-generations-spend-money-2020

K’s article: Think Money, “8 reasons it can be hard to stick to a budget – and how to beat them” Nov 2014 online:https://www.thinkmoney.co.uk/blog/8-reasons-it-can-be-hard-to-stick-to-a-budget

In this episode, T & K reflect on what it was like growing up with their siblings. T discusses the birth order theory (which she 100% thinks is a thing) and K discusses how culture indirectly impacts the number of children in a family.

 

T & K also get into a discussion of traditions and celebrations around the birth of a boy or a girl and some changes that they’ve seen.

 

T’s article: Corinna Hartman & Sara Goudarzi, “Does Birth Order Affect Personality?” August 8, 2019, Scientific American online at: https://www.scientificamerican.com/article/does-birth-order-affect-personality/

K’s article: Euan McKirdy, “Why India’s Gender Gap has led to Millions of Unwanted Girls” CNN, January 30, 2018, online at: https://www.cnn.com/2018/01/30/health/india-unwanted-girls-intl

Sometimes it’s hard not to get caught up in gossip--whether or not you know the person. Especially those brown aunties, if you know what we’re talking about! T & K unpack the “why” of gossip, and reflect on their own experiences. 

 

Also - find out how T took down a cyber bullying site all by herself!

 

T’s article: Sophia Gottfried, “The Science Behind Why People Gossip—And When It Can Be a Good Thing” Time Magazine, Sept 25, 2019 online: https://time.com/5680457/why-do-people-gossip/

 

K’s article: Jenny M. Cole, “Short Term Effects of Gossip Behaviour on Self-Esteem” Current Psychology, Sept 13, 2013 online at:

http://link.springer.com/article/10.1007/s12144-013-9176-3)

For International Women’s Day, T & K discuss feminism and what it means to them. T provides a (very) brief history of feminism and K offers an alternative approach to feminism in modern times. (Spoiler alert: We might be bad feminists!)

T’s resources: 

Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie, “We should all be feminists” December 2012, online: https://www.ted.com/talks/chimamanda_ngozi_adichie_we_should_all_be_feminists/transcript?language=en#:~:text=And%20when%20I%20looked%20up,ve%20heard%2C%20was%20a%20feminist. 

McAfee, Noëlle, "Feminist Philosophy", The Stanford Encyclopedia of Philosophy (Fall 2018 Edition), Edward N. Zalta (ed.), URL = .

Constance Grady, “The waves of feminism, and why people keep fighting over them, explained” (20 Jul 2018) online: https://www.vox.com/2018/3/20/16955588/feminism-waves-explained-first-second-third-fourth

Kriti’s Source

The Guardian, “The bad feminist manifesto | Feminism” by Roxane Gay, https://www.theguardian.com/world/2014/aug/02/bad-feminist-roxane-gay-extract

Moving out of your childhood home is always a huge adjustment. Not everyone makes this transition at the same time, especially if your parents don’t expect you to move out until you’re married! T & K reflect on their own experiences of moving out (at 17 vs 24) and discuss the factors that contribute to the decision to leave home.

K’s Article - Article: Evelina Lou & Richard Lalonde & Benjamin Giguere, “Making the Decision to Move Out: Bicultural Young Adults and the Negotiation of Cultural Demands and Family Relationships”, Journal of Cross-cultural Psychology, 43, p.663-670, 2012. 

T’s article:  Elina Lahelma & Tuula Gordon, “Home as a Physical, Social and Mental Space: Young People’s Reflections on Leaving Home” Journal of Youth Studies, Vol. 6, No. 4, 2003

The dreaded question that women are confronted with time and time again--when are you having kids? Our guest, J (a working mother of two adorable kids) weighs in on her decision to have children and continue pursuing her career. We also discuss the implications of having children on women’s careers and lives in general.

K’s Article - Article: The Atlantic, “When Women Choose Children Over a Career”, by Hana Schank and Elizabeth Wallace, December 2016, online: https://www.theatlantic.com/business/archive/2016/12/opting-out/500018/

Today T & K grapple with body image and reflect on their own experiences learning to love their bodies, despite what society has led them to believe. Shout out to @thebirdspapaya and @mikzazon, two body positive influencers on Instagram that can add some positivity to your instagram feed! P.S. Sorry if you hear beeping at the end of this episode!

K’s Article: Halliwell, E., Diedrichs, P. C., & Orbach, S. (2014). Costing the invisible: A review of the evidence examining the links between body image, aspirations, education and workplace confidence

T’s Article: Ella Guest, Bruna Costa, Heidi Williamson, Jane Meyrick, Emma Halliwell, Diana Harcourt, “The effectiveness of interventions aiming to promote positive body image in adults: A systematic review” Body Image, Volume 30, 2019, Pages 10-25.

What was your biggest influence when you picked your career path? Listen in as K and T discuss what they THOUGHT they wanted and what they actually wanted out of their careers. Shout out to that immigrant family guilt! You know what we’re talking about. 

 

T’s Article: Peter Akosah-Twumasi Peter et al., “A Systematic Review of Factors That Influence Youths Career Choices—the Role of Culture”, Frontiers in Education, 2018 VOL 3: 58, https://www.frontiersin.org/article/10.3389/feduc.2018.00058. 

 

K’s Article: Inc. “New Harvard Research - To Be Successful, Chase Your Purpose, Not Your Passion ” by Jessica Stillman, November 2019, online at: https://www.inc.com/jessica-stillman/new-harvard-research-to-be-successful-chase-your-purpose-not-your-passion.html#:~:text=In%20one%20study%20of%20several,nine%20months%20down%20the%20line.%22