I know there isn't such a thing as a "quick fix" but our non-negotiables can be a sure way to boost our mood. What are your top three things that you have to do in order to feel good? I talk about what others have on their list and why looking at our non-negotiables can be a quick and easy way to find a little spark of joy.

Enjoy!

INMIY.x

Square hole, triangle peg - or however the saying goes. Sometimes we try to make things fit, because it ticks *some* of our boxes, because we’re scared we won’t find better, because there’s nothing tangible and our gut feelings aren’t enough evidence for us to walk away from something. Get to know yourself then you’ll be confident enough to walk towards what’s better for you 🤎

Happy listening, INMIY. X 🤎

Validation. Yeh, I know you felt it.

We crave it, we need it, we go after it, and we change ourselves for it. Why? To fit in. Why? So we know we are liked. Why? Because it makes us feel we're a good person. Does it? Do we really need other people, especially people who don't know us, to tell us that we're a good human?

It's a basic human instinct to want to fit in, it means less enemies, more acceptance into the group dynamic which provides more protection, chances of reproduction and higher survival rates. But that was for when bees were the only thing that had the name "Bumble". Now we can explore our identity and different social groups through a wide variety of; sports, arts, crafts, and so forth... and we're not cavemen anymore. I get it, it feels uncomfortable when someone doesn't "like" us, but you know what's even more uncomfortable? Being someone you're not to try and impress someone you don't know, for the pure sake of getting 100/100 people to like you...let that sink in. I'd rather have soulmates than empty likes. Soulmates keep you warm, support you and encourage you to be YOU.

Are you encouraging yourself to be more you? Or are you running around trying to get those empty likes?

INMIY. X

Beauty is subjective so why do we try and fit into standards that other people set for us?

It's not a scoring system, you don't have points deducted or awarded because you look or don't look a certain way, yet we treat ourselves and others like we're less than or more than based on how we look.

There is only one you, and you can't compare your uniqueness to someone else's uniqueness, it scientifically doesn't work.

You are beautiful as you.

INMIY. X

This is your sign, right now, to take a step in the direction you want to be going in. And no, you don't need to know exactly where you want to go, just ask yourself how do you want to feel, and ask yourself what makes you feel that way - and start stepping in that direction!

On this episode I talk about directions, comparison, purpose, identity and banana bread (the latter is used solely as a metaphor, no banana bread recipes here team soz).

You are your own map, listen, trust and step.

ENJOY

INMIY. X

I get vulnerable here with talking about how my identity has been, and still is, wrapped up in me doing CrossFit, and how "slowing down" doesn't actually mean stopping or being any less productive.

What does slowing down mean to you? What comes to mind when I say that; being lazy? stopping? These things may pop into your head but they're not necessarily true.

Slowing down means truly listening to your body, respecting what it can achieve in the moment, asking what you need and meeting yourself where you are. Slowing down is productive, it's not a pause button on your progress, it's a pause on the unnecessary pressure you're putting yourself under.

Let's press the slow down button and see how much better our productiveness gets.

INMIY. x

Do not get me wrong, Australia is one of the most beautiful places on earth, but that doesn't mean you don't feel lost, lonely, disheartened and feel a constant undercurrent of not feeling settled. This is one for all my working holiday pals, you're not alone, I hear you.

It's a struggle being rejected for work because of your visa, feeling like your friends and family are half way across the world, and literally having to 'start again' with building a new life. You're not alone and this one's for you x

INMIY. x

Have you achieved something in your life that you're really proud of, but if you do something similar and it doesn't have the same great outcome, do you feel a bit defeated? Yes, well that's exactly what I'm talking about here.

When we achieve something, sometimes this can then act as setting the bar for ourselves and anything under that achievement isn't worthy of celebrating. We can't just "go for a run" without feeling that we need to beat our time, well, I'm here to tell you that you can just go for a run without it being competitive, it's time to start doing things for fun again!

Happy listening,

INMIY. X

Yes, YOU. You are a limited edition baby! And why do you not treat yourself like it?

A gentle warning that I touch on body dysmorphia in this episode.

When something is unique or a limited edition it makes us want it more, so why don't we treat ourselves like that? Because after all, we literally are just that, a limited edition.

In a world full of highlight reels and comparisons that can leave us feeling inadequate, I want you to realise that you are unique and that's what makes you special.

The book I mention is: Mitch Albom - Five People We Meet in Heaven.

Enjoy peapods!

INMIY. x

Aren't we always nearly making it?

We're constantly trying new things and not all of those things will we want to keep doing and that is OK! Sometimes the original thing we try might open up a new door and so we go through that instead. The journey that brings us to these new experiences is what shapes us and makes us, the journey helps us to grow. When we look at life as being full of "big milestones" we can feel the weight of not achieving them and feeling less than. Guys, this is not what life is about. Have goals, FOR SURE, but firstly understand why you want that goal, and then work towards it and recognise that life isn't a rat race to the end, it's an opportunity to experience so many different flavours, not just the ones that make up your milestones.

And, let's rewrite the narrative that a life milestone has to be huge, it can also be perfecting that dish you've been making, learning how to do a 3-point turn, or finishing reading a book. All of these things are achievements.

P.S. It's the tenth episode! Aaah that seems kinda wild to me and I'm going to make that a milestone ;)

Happy listening peapods!

INMIY. x