People pleasers let me hear you say ayyyoooo! I see you, I hear you, we've all been there to some degree, and hey, look, it's ok but you're exhausted from it all right? Ok, get your fave mug, make a cuppa, go for a walk, lie horizontal on your sofa and get stuck into this episode.

When we people please we often feel we're an "inconvenience" to other people, so what do we do? Well it's what we don't do for ourselves - that's the problem. We do everything for everyone else in the hope that they "like us" and then we forget to like ourselves. We forget that we have needs too.

Our actions might be "inconvenient" for others, but hey, it's just how life spins and guess what, it goes on. We're opening up the conversation on recognising those people pleasing behaviours and how to manage them a little bit better. Because, after all, do you want to go through your life never picking up the last tin of beans? Listen to hear what I'm talking about!

LOVE AND HUGS

INMIY. x

Essentially stepping into your higher power is leaving behind what no longer serves you. If we go back to what we know just because it's comfortable, but not necessarily beneficial, we are essentially telling ourselves that we don't deserve more. You do deserve more, you deserve to be happy and to go and explore what makes you happy. The brain is wired to keep us safe and not happy, so sometimes we have to work a little bit harder to push past our comfort zone and walk into new experiences not having a clue but knowing it'll benefit us in some way. It's scary I know, but you got this!

Enjoy listening beauties and don't forget to send this to someone who needs a brain hug, rate the podcast and send me a message on Instagram: @itsnotmeitsyou.pod

Remember to answer honestly when the truth calls.

Love you bye!

INMIY x

Caring less about what other people think is actually super hard, but walking around trying to make others comfortable, instead of ourselves, is like walking around with a big fat wedgie all the time - it gets uncomfortable.

If we're not doing the things we enjoy because we fear what others think, then we're not really living. Let's be honest, there are probably countless times where you've wanted to do something but told yourself you can't or shouldn't because of what other people might think. What would happen if you did those things that made you happy?

On this episode I'm talking about dancing in the cereal aisle, how to care a little less about what others think, and how doing you will attract your kinda people into your life. I have not got to a place where I literally don't care at all what people think, I'm on this journey with you, but HELLLOOO to it feeling so good when I don't give a rat's bottom! I promise that listening to this will make you laugh, especially at minutes 21.

Giving you all a huge hug.

INMIY x

LADIES AND GENTLEMEN - this is for EVERYBODY!

It's all fragile stuff and I'm getting raw about my feels, physical and mental, about endometriosis, my identity and self-love. I feel there is a gap that needs to be filled where we feel safe in exploring our experiences, reaching out to others and knowing that our feels (physical and emotional) are SO valid. I struggle with humanising my experiences and give myself a hard time for what I feel. I find myself trying to validate what I go through and even question if it's actually "that bad". Sometimes we need to learn how to slow down and meet ourselves where we are, in order to flourish as the sunshine souls we are.

If you have endo I'd love to hear from you and give you a big metaphorical hug. Send me a DM on Instagram: itsnotmeitsyou.pod and together we can fill that gap where so many people feel lost.

Know someone who would benefit from listening? Send it to them! Give them a hug through the earphones.

Happy listening peapods (will that stick?) xxx

Ever feel like you just need to give yourself a big hug? Well that’s what coming home to yourself feels like. 

In this episode I explore what it can feel like to feel lost, I talk about how to make our inner child happy, and how starting to steer towards what brings you joy can open your mind and create opportunities. 

Remember, when the truth calls answer honestly.

Happy listening, muffins.

Love as an End Point. 

Do you ever feel that you’re rushing to love? That love is where you need to get to, it’s a means to an end - without even realising that’s what you’re doing? 

This seems to be the answer to a lot of questions as to;

How do I know if they’re the one?

When will I find the one?

Slow down and enjoy the process of getting to know someone, and then you’ll know. Love is a journey, not a tick-box on a list. 

E N J O Y I N G your now, and if you’re not, then switch it up. Do things you enjoy, BE the person you enjoy being. Enjoy yourself. (Trying to find) Love isn’t the means or the end. It’s a journey. How well do you know this version of yourself? Probably not as well as you think if you’re putting pressure on yourself to find love. It’s getting to know someone, enjoying the places you go, finding new cafes, new picnic spots, putting boundaries in, getting to know yourself. You can still have good vibes with someone and them not be the person for you. It’s about listening to yourself, not rushing yourself. 

It’s the process, it’s the feeling, it’s the journey, and it won’t always be about love - because not everyone you meet will you love, friends, romantic partners, and that doesn’t mean you’re failing, it’s a part of the journey. 

I am chatting with the lovely Chloe, who is a pilates coach and passionate dancer, about the approach to love and how we can really find what is right for us. Chloe comes out with a jaw-dropping explanation of how we can rush love, one that makes you really take a step back and think about your approach and where you are, right now. Chloe and I were having a chat after class and I just had to hit that record button, to share this insightful and gorgeous chat we were having.

Enjoy peapods! (I don't know that that name will stick).

(No cats were harmed in the making of this episode.)

Dating… aaaah I LOVE this topic. It’s so interesting, the approach we can have, the loss of intuition - basically the loss of our common sense, WHY DOES THIS HAPPEN? WELLL, let me paint the picture for you…

It’s all to do with the pictures we paint and how easily we attach them to others. Men and women do this differently, both know what they want, but the process is different. 

Why do we lose ourselves, why do we find it harder to detach from someone that isn’t actually what we want? It’s time to be honest with ourselves, let’s get vulnerable, so the next time you go on a date, you’ll be able to see someone’s true colours. 

I talk validation, dating approaches, attaching and detaching, knowing yourself and losing yourself a little when it comes to dating.

Knowing someone else’s true colours is knowing yours first.

Ever feel like your brain is giving you super 'weird' thoughts that you really don't want to act on, yet you feel scared that you might? You know those ones, where you're making a sandwich and you just suddenly want to wave the knife around, or you just wanna break out into a dance - yeh, they're intrusive thoughts. Some are absolutely harmless (depending on your dance moves) and some are more concerning. But these thoughts are part of being human. It's not your thoughts that determine who you are, it's your actions.

Hopefully this resonates and you feel a little calmer next time those instruive thoughts invite themselves to your brain party!

Enjoy and don't forget to rate the episode, thanks guys! Remember to answer honestly when the truth calls.

What a "perfect" first episode...

Trying to be perfect is like trying to make a human experience less human-experiency.

Are you trying to make things perfect? What does that even mean to you? What does it mean if it doesn't turn out "perfectly"? Perfect doesn't exist, so what are you really trying to do? Let's explore it together, because the truth is calling - are you ready to answer honestly?

The book I am currently reading, and reference, is "How to stop breaking your own heart" by Megann Roxanne.

Get your favourite snack, beverage, or go on your favourite walk, because it's time to start listening. Enjoy.

Hello there! So why have I named it 'It's Not Me, It's You'? Fab question, I explore that all in this first little episode. Grab yourself a cuppa, water, protein shake, whatever you fancy and pop this in your ears (the podcast, not your beverage).

Enjoy guys!