It's Not Me, It's You

It's Not Me, It's You

By John Kim and Vanessa BennettSociety & CultureRelationships
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It's Not Me, It's You episodes

  • Ep 9 The Relationship Dance

    So many relationship dances, so little time: Avoidant/Anxious, Overfunctioner/Underfunctioner, CODA/Compulsive, Enabler/Enabled. We dive into how we are always trying to become more aware when the cycles start and old patterns take over, and how we can work to break them through naming them.

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    35 min
  • Ep 8 Rewiring Through Love
    We get into the importance of feeling an experience or a change in your habits, behaviors or needs in your body - having a full system experience - in order for you to eventually rewire your brain and make the change stick. We also talk about some personal examples where we have felt the integration happening in real time.

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    33 min
  • Ep 7 Our Love Lessons
    In this episode we each go through 3 love lessons we’ve learned on our journeys. Some learned through past love experiences and some new lessons learned with each other.

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    36 min
  • Ep 6 Reflections 2020
    This episode is part review of all the crazy things that happened this year, part learnings that came from those experiences, and part excitement for what’s to come. Thank you for being on this journey with us so far, and here’s to 2021!

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    37 min
  • Ep 5 Finding Beauty in the Contrast
    In this episode, we talk about the double edged sword that is our contrasting personalities. The things we love about each other are also the same things that can activate the shit out of us. How do we continue to remind ourselves that our differences can actually be what helps us stretch and the relationship go deeper?

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    45 min
  • Ep 4 How Our Stars Line Up
    In this episode we take a look at our star charts and how they both align as well as conflict. We know, we know, but trust us you can actually learn so much from doing a deep dive into this stuff. We talk through how our inner emotional worlds are almost the exact opposite and how differences like this can make or break us depending on how much we understand, empathize, and adjust our expectations accordingly

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    54 min
  • Ep 3 How Our Codependency Shows Up
    We take a different approach in this episode with a deep dive into codependency and how it affects our relationship. In working through her own codependency, as well as with clients who almost all struggle in some way or another, Vanessa has made it a personal mission to speak openly with whoever will listen about the different ways it can show up.

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    36 min
  • Ep 2 The Whale Under the Water
    In this episode, John and Vanessa explore what’s happening underneath their relationship. John not feeling desired, Vanessa not feeling good enough, and patterns they were not aware of.

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    48 min
  • Ep 1 The Three Year Itch
    Welcome to It’s Not Me, It’s You - the podcast. In this episode, Vanessa and John explore the evolution of their relationship, love languages, how flirting differently can mean we miss each other, and John’s avoidance of his 3 year relationship pattern.

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    36 min

About It's Not Me, It's You

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A therapist couple explores and processes their own issues, disproving the misconception that therapists have their shit together and that their relationships are perfect.John Kim, aka The Angry…

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