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- He's Not Sure If It Was Sexual Abuse. Was It?
Oli's original video - https://youtu.be/VS7BUoz0C5o?si=0wRa5kqRi5oPZdjm
Age of consent investigation - https://youtu.be/KuCg3UavKcg?si=3rx9540-ynB0B9-X
When Ollie was 13, he entered into a sexual "relationship" with an 18-year-old woman. Now in his 30s, he's still unsure whether what happened to him was sexual abuse.
Ollie describes a relationship in which they genuinely liked each other. He doesn't believe he was groomed or manipulated and he doesn't consider the woman an abuser.
But looking back, he recognises that he wasn't in a position to give informed consent.
In this episode, I watch and reflect on Ollie's story, exploring some difficult questions around childhood sexual abuse, consent, power dynamics and the way we understand our experiences as we grow older.
We also discuss how our reactions might change when the genders are reversed and how the woman's own experiences of childhood sexual abuse may have influenced her behaviour.
I'd really like to hear your thoughts.
Do you consider what happened to Ollie sexual abuse? And does knowing the circumstances change how you feel about it?
Please share your thoughts in the comments. I welcome different perspectives and respectful discussion.
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54 min - Children Keep Secrets Brilliantly. How Do We Get Them to Talk to Us?
YouTube link - https://youtu.be/2plS3Q2oDUs
Children keep secrets brilliantly. As a survivor of child sexual abuse, I know this better than anyone. I was abused between the ages of 8 and 10 and nobody ever found out. I showed no signs at school, I had great friends and I wasn’t scared of the man who did it.
In this talk to a room of safeguarding professionals, I explain why so many children and teenagers never come forward. We look at how easy it is to groom a child, why abuse can feel confusing or even exciting to a teenager and how the internet has given perpetrators direct access to young people.
Most importantly, I share a practical approach to changing this. When staff are trained, parents are confident and young people feel inspired to speak up, we can create an environment where children actually tell us what’s happening to them.
If you’re a DSL, teacher, social worker, police officer or anyone who works with children, this talk is for you.
If anything in this episode has affected you, support is available. Contact NAPAC on 0808 801 0331, the NSPCC helpline on 0808 800 5000 or Childline on 0800 1111.
To book me for training, keynotes or school visits, visit www.jeremyindika.com
#Safeguarding #ChildProtection #DSL #ChildSexualAbuse #grooming
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58 min - Would the Police Be Able to Cope With How Many Offenders This Could Expose?
Could AI generated children be used to catch offenders online? I explore a concept sparked by the film The Artifice Girl and a post I put out that led to a huge response.
In this episode I cover:
- How AI children could run thousands of conversations with those who try to exploit them
- Whether this counts as catching a crime or creating one
- The entrapment argument and how it compares to undercover police work
- Whether the police would be able to cope with how many offenders this would expose
- Whether this could pull police attention away from real children who need it
- Hunting groups and how they already do a version of this without any rules
This is a difficult and sensitive topic and I want to hear what you think too.
Want me to adjust the length, add timestamps, or match it more closely to a description style you've used before?
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29 min - The Man Who Abused Me Walked Free. Now I'm Investigating Why.
In September 2018, I reported the man who sexually abused me when I was 8 years old. The police investigation ended in no further action, and for years I accepted that as the outcome.
But after speaking to others who successfully prosecuted their cases, and after developing training sessions for the police themselves, I started spotting holes in how my own case was handled.
This is the first episode of a new series where I investigate the police, using my own case as the starting point. I've submitted a Subject Access Request to see the full file, they promised a response by 1 September, and that date has already passed with no word.
In this episode I cover:
- Why the man wasn't arrested at his house, and what that meant for the evidence
- What actually counts as "sufficient evidence" in historic abuse cases
- The statement my sister gave that may have opened a second, connected case
- Why I've now sent a Subject Access Request, and what happens next
If you have knowledge of police processes and procedures and want to help with this investigation, get in touch. I want to build this properly and document the whole journey.
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34 min - Girls Posing on Their Phones. Playful or a Problem?
I want to talk through something I saw and can't stop thinking about. Three nine or ten-year-old girls sitting on a park bench, taking selfie after selfie, posing in a way that felt far beyond their years. This isn't about pointing fingers at the girls. It's about asking where this comes from, what they're seeing online, and what it says about the world we've built around them.
In this episode I break down what I actually observed, why I worded it the way I did, and the deeper question underneath it all. Where are children learning to behave like this, and what role do phones, culture, and older influences play in shaping it?
If you see reason in this conversation, I'd really appreciate you sticking with me on it.
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26 min - I'm Worried Police Don't Understand Child Abuse, So I Spoke to Them
To watch this on YouTube - https://youtu.be/Pfra-rn7M3w
In this presentation, I speak to approximately 100 police officers about my experience of reporting historic child abuse and the lessons I believe could help improve the way these cases are investigated.
Using a series of real-life analogies and personal experiences, I explore topics including:
• Why victims often struggle to remember childhood abuse in detail.
• Why children don't always recognise abuse as abuse.
• Why disclosure can take years or even decades.
• How emotions can resurface during police interviews.
• My own police investigation and why it resulted in No Further Action (NFA).
• Questions I've been left asking about the investigation process and safeguarding after cases don't reach court.
My aim isn't to criticise individual officers. It's to contribute to the conversation about how we can better understand victims and continue improving investigations into child abuse cases.
If this video makes you think differently, I'd encourage you to share it with someone else. Conversations are how understanding grows.
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46 min - People Think 10-Year-Olds Are Too Young For This Conversation — What Do You Think?
A live recording of my primary school session exploring emotions, body safety rules, online safety, secrets, speaking up, and the long-term impact of keeping difficult experiences hidden.
In this session, I take Year 5 and 6 pupils through a series of interactive games and challenges while sharing parts of my own life story — from what happened to me as a child, to working in aerospace and supercar engineering, receiving a job offer from Red Bull Racing Formula 1, and the mistakes I made later in life when I reacted emotionally instead of seeking support.
Throughout the session, we explore:
- feeling uncomfortable, unsure, or worried
- body safety and online safety rules
- trusted adults and speaking up
- emotional regulation
- peer support and kindness
- dreams, ambition, and future careers
- the importance of education and listening in class
The session is designed to help children understand that:
- they are never to blame for someone breaking safety rules
- difficult feelings should not be carried alone
- speaking to trusted adults is a sign of strength
- reacting impulsively when angry can have lifelong consequences
- their future ambitions are achievable
This recording is part of my ongoing work developing safeguarding education through storytelling, interactive learning, and lived experience.
Thank you to the staff and pupils involved in this session.
#Safeguarding #PrimarySchool #OnlineSafety #BodySafety #Education #ChildProtection #Schools #PSHE #MentalHealth #Teaching #JeremyIndika #PrimaryEducation #Wellbeing #EmotionalHealth #SpeakingUpBelow are my links
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49 min - What Does the Age of Consent Actually Mean and Why Is It Different in Different Countries?
What does the age of consent actually mean?
And why is it different depending on where you are in the world?
In this episode, I explore those two questions in real time. No script, no over-preparation — just a genuine attempt to understand something that affects young people everywhere, but that most of us can’t confidently explain.
We look at how the law works, where these ages have come from, and why countries have ended up with such different answers — from 13 to 21.
Along the way, this raises bigger questions:
Are we getting this right?
Should it be higher?
Should it be lower?
Or should we be thinking about this in a completely different way?
This isn’t about giving perfect answers. It’s about starting a conversation that we should all feel more confident having — especially when the safety of young people is involved.
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If this episode made you think, share it with someone else and let’s keep the conversation going.
If you’re a parent, teacher, or professional and want to explore these topics further, you can get in touch here: www.jeremyindika.com
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31 min - "Grooming a child would be easy" — I Tried A Completely Different Way To Explain This
This episode works best on my YouTube channel, where you can watch the full talk with the visuals that support it. You can watch it here: https://youtu.be/kRIYbwE04As
This is the full recording of my talk at a conference, where I tried to explain this subject in a different way.
In this presentation, I explore the sexual abuse and exploitation of children and teenagers, both in person and online, and I focus heavily on one challenge that has driven so much of my work over the last decade: how do we communicate this subject in a way that people can truly understand?
Throughout the talk, I break down difficult concepts around grooming, secrecy, silence, manipulation, and disclosure. I also share parts of my own story and explain why I believe we need better conversations in schools, homes, and organisations if we are serious about prevention and early intervention.
This talk includes three questions that many people will find uncomfortable, but I ask them for a reason. My goal is not to shock. My goal is to help people think more deeply, speak more openly, and feel more confident beginning conversations that too often never happen.
Topics covered include:
- child sexual abuse and exploitation
- grooming in person and online
- why children and teenagers may not speak up
- the difference between pre-pubescent children and post-pubescent teenagers
- how schools, parents, and professionals can create safer environments
- why better communication is central to prevention
Please take care while listening. Some parts of this talk may be difficult to hear.
If something in this episode stands out to you, I encourage you to use it to begin a conversation with someone else. That is one of the main aims of my work.
More about the charity who held the event where this was recorded:
Kaleidoscopic are a charitable organisation of survivors for survivors of domestic abuse in ALL its forms. We are based in the Thames Valley and provide support services throughout England and Wales.
Kaleidoscopic UK’s objectives are: The relief of need and the promotion of good health for children and adults in England and Wales who have been subjected to or exposed to domestic abuse through survivor-led support services and by educating and informing voluntary and statutory services, as well as the public at large, about all forms of domestic abuse and its harmful effects.
For more infomation: https://www.kaleidoscopic.uk/
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58 min - 73-Year-Old Former Child Decoy Explains How Hunting Teams Work
In this episode, I speak with Danny, a 73-year-old who spent eight years working as an online child decoy as part of an activist team. He explains how these teams operate, how they gather evidence, how cases are passed to police, and what the process can look like from first message to court.
We talk about:
- how quickly adults can approach a decoy profile online
- the roles inside these teams (decoying, vetting, research, tracking, meet teams)
- why teams say they are not “vigilantes” and how they view their role
- training standards, screening, and why not everyone is suited to the work
- live-streaming stings, the criticism around it, and the arguments for “awareness”
- sentencing, delays, and what can happen after evidence is submitted
- the responsibility of tech companies and what meaningful change could look like
This conversation is direct, honest, and focused on helping people understand what’s happening online and why these teams exist.
If you found this useful, subscribe for more long-form conversations on safeguarding, online harm, prevention, and the realities behind the headlines.Below are my links
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