JessDecolonize(d)

When do you know you’re over the pain and hurt? In this sequel to A Case of Healing Pt 1 I discuss how a recent encounter revealed to me how much is truly required to reclaim our time and our hearts after being hurt or betrayed by the people in our lives.

Whether it’s collecting data for my dissertation or for my personal life, digging up the archives of past trauma and pain is no easy task. The journey of discovery is inevitably a journey of healing that requires full commitment. Healing is cute until it gets hard. But man, is it worth it.

What does it mean to return? To return home? What are the ways we can substitute anxiety for humility in our journeys of rediscovery? How can we redefine what it even means to be at home?

Black women are constantly expected to be the “emotional backbone” of the people in our communities, especially for the men in our lives. But where and when do we draw the line? When is emotional investment just emotional exploitation? How can we practice healthier versions of love and support while pushing the people around us do their due diligence when it comes to their own emotional welfare?

Dating while black is hard as fuck. It’s even harder when living in New England. In this episode, we explore the challenges of dating as women of color and the weirdness often associated with dating white men.

Whether it’s with friends or lovers, we sometimes find ourselves settling out of pure insecurity. Listen in on my short reflection on what this says about our self worth.

“Sex Education” is a new Netflix series that is worth the watch! In this episode, I explore the show’s treatment of black sexual identity and what that can mean for black spirituality. Is there room for queerness in the (black) church?

Why are dudes so pressed to “settle down” once they hit their 30s? And what the hell does that have to do with me?

What should you be doing when you’re thinking of marriage and settling down? How can we prepare ourselves for healthy long term relationships without becoming obsessed with FOMO?

Who is Jess? What is this Podcast? What we tryna decolonize? An introduction to my Podcast.