Journey Forward with Joree Rose

Anyone who has ever been a people-pleaser can know how hard it is to be in relationships that don’t have reciprocity. It can feel like we give and give and give, and just because we are connected in the relationship, can think it’s enough, when in reality, we end up feeling depleted and resentful. In this joint episode, with my partner in life and love, Dr. John Schinnerer, we talk about 6 areas that people-pleasers can get stuck in or struggle with, along with some of the context that may lead you to becoming a people-pleaser. The 6 areas that we go in depth into are: difficulty drawing boundaries, feeling an overactive sense of guilt, being conflict avoidant, having a fear of loneliness, building resentment and not knowing what your needs are. If you are someone that feels an imbalance in your relationships, and wants greater insight into why you may be doing what you’re doing, and have the tools to shift into healthier relationship patterns, then this episode is for you. 

In this conversation with one of my soul sisters, Shari Teigman, we talk about the journey of self-discovery, the courage to create change in the face of the unknown, how to stop believing the story you tightly hold on to, and how to forge your path using inner wisdom, trust and faith. As a former people pleaser, Shari got lost in a life that wasn’t her, and having always been an out of the box thinker, she used her intuitive skills to embody her own wild woman inside, and now guides others in doing the same. As a performance mentor and creative strategist, Shari’s passion is helping you live your optimal life. If you are someone who is ready to remove the self-imposed, real or perceived roadblocks in your life, then this episode is for you.

About Shari:

Shari is a performance coach and creative business strategist who teaches the Maverick Method to become the optimal you for your optimal life and business. 

She works with high level CEOs, entrepreneurs and startups to unleash their inner Maverick and to remove the bottlenecks that keep them stuck and small to catapult into the next level of well-being and success in all areas. 

Part loving mama part tough love, Shari walks with you to help you change why you don’t stick to what you commit to, teach you a new way to face your future and shift your mindset for your own unique blueprint to create what you want in the next level of your business and life. In business for 9 years, Shari works with private clients and now runs the coaching department for one of the biggest sales and marketing training companies in the UK.

www.shariteigman.com

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One of the most common struggles many couples face is what’s known as the anxious-avoidant dance; it looks like this: one partner has an anxious attachment style and gets triggered by her partner needing a time out during an argument, or threatening to leave. The other partner has an avoidant attachment style and gets emotionally flooded during disagreements. During these challenging moments, the anxious partner seeks to turn towards their partner, needing to reconnect in order to calm their physiology. The avoidant person turns away from the relationship, seeking time and space to calm themselves. The anxious partner pursues the avoidant partner verbally and physically, resulting in neither person getting their needs met. And even though this is one of the most common relational dynamics we have seen in our private practice assisting couples, one of the best ways to get out of this dance is through awareness and insight into what is occurring; only then can couples get back on the path to rekindle their passion and connection. And unfortunately, we have struggled with this dynamic in our relationship as well! Listen in as we explain what this dynamic is and, more importantly, how to break out of it for a happier and more connected relationship. Here’s a hint: It takes a combination of individual work and relational work to evolve beyond it! If you are someone who is wanting to get out of dysfunctional patterns, then this episode is for you.

To find out more about our upcoming monthly Relationship Master Classes, please visit https://joreerose.com/loveisntenoughmasterclass/.

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As trauma affects millions of people around the world, the search for how to heal is ongoing. We are now in the beginning of what’s considered to be the psychedelic renaissance as there has been a re-emergence of using psychedelics for healing; the research behind it is not only amazing and abundant, but it’s showing that psychedelics are more effective than any pharmaceutical tool in a psychiatrist’s toolbox. This is a thrilling evolution in the field of psychotherapy and many psychedelics are on the verge of being legalized or therapeutic use. The first time that Matt Zemon went on a guided psychedelic journey, he not only learned about himself in a way that he never had before; the way he looked at the world completely changed - for the better! It allowed him to gain insight into the spiritual interconnectivity of everything and understand how this could lead to impactful and lasting healing in a way that he had never before experienced. In this episode, Matt shares the power of psychedelics on how it can change our brain, heal our traumas and shift out of a scarcity and lack mindset into an abundant worldview. We talk about different psychedelics - ketamine, MDMA, psilocybin (or more commonly known as magic mushrooms), ayahuasca and LSD - and how they each differ and how to understand the psychological and healing abilities of plant medicine. If you are someone interested in healing, then this episode is for you.

About Matt:

Matt Zemon, MSc, is a dedicated explorer of the inner world, and a passionate advocate for the thoughtful and responsible use of psychedelics. With a Master of Science in Psychology and Neuroscience of Mental Health with honors from King’s College London, Matt has studied the effects of psychedelics on the mind and the potential for these experiences to serve as a catalyst for positive transformations. His work in this field is motivated by a profound desire to help people navigate the sometimes challenging terrain of the psychedelic experience, and emerge from it with a deeper sense of purpose, connection, and understanding. To reclaim their true self.

http://www.mattzemon.com/

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For many women, making decisions on the direction of their life isn’t easy. What divorce lawyer and author of the new book She Who Wins, Renee Bauer has discovered is that at the root of these challenges is often worthiness issues, the fear of being uncomfortable, especially in the unknown, and being in the habit of being a people pleaser. Renee has identified that many women are stuck in a “good girl complex” in which they were socialized to smile, be polite and not disappoint, which has not only prevented authenticity but leads to an inability to expand themselves and their lives. In this episode, Renee shares her framework to guide women to winning in all aspects of their lives. It comes down to this: how you nurture your soul impacts how you show up in the world. If you are ready to let go of the habits and mindsets that are holding you back, then this episode is for you.

About Renee: Renee has been a divorce attorney for over 20 years. She is founder and Managing attorney of Happily Even After Family Law located in Connecticut. She is an international speaker, author of 3 other books – Divorce in Connecticut, The

Ultimate Guide to Solo and Small Firm Success, and the children’s book Percy’s Imperfectly Perfect Family.

She hosts the annual She Who Wins Summit, a live event created to inspire, motivate and challenge women to move forward bravely in their personal and business lives. Her impact has been recognized by Success Magazine where she was nominated as a Woman of Influence and with awards such as Litigator of the Year, Women-Owned Business of the Year, and New Leaders in the Law. She has been featured in multiple media outlets such as the International Business Times, Comment Central, AP News, NBC, FOX, and iHeart Radio.

https://shewhowinsbook.com/

IG: https://www.instagram.com/msreneebauer/

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Let’s face it: couples argue. Disagreements are inevitable. Arguing is not a problem; in fact, there’s a lot of authenticity & freedom in being able to express yourself fully, even when you’re angry. The problem is when arguing is ineffective & anger & insults damage the safety & security of your relationship. However, there are proven ways that you can argue better; ways that actually benefit your partnership. In this episode, you’ll learn the scientifically-proven rules to fight fair, argue well, repair quickly & ultimately resolve those long-standing disagreements. This is actually a recording based on a live workshop we did, and thought it was too good not to share. So, if you are someone who is finding yourself in repeating cycles of conflict with your partner, and you’re not sure how to get out of the cycle of disconnection and into a pattern of more aligned connection, despite any challenge you face, then this episode is for you.

As a therapist, Mary Beth is passionate about guiding millennials in modern mental health, which she defines as support that is accessible and relatable so that there is an increase in healing. A main focus of her practice is helping teens and young adults understand how to navigate boundaries and individuation if they are in an enmeshed family system. Enmeshment occurs when there is a lack of boundaries, often rooted in a parent (often the mother) getting her emotional needs met by her children, rather than from a partner or friends. This dynamic prevents young adults from easily voicing their own needs, wants or desires because the expectation puts the parent’s needs above theirs. Mary Beth shares strategies, tools and insights on how to shift out of these unhealthy patterns so that they can develop healthy relational dynamics in their future. If you are someone who has been affected by an enmeshed family system or would like to support someone who you know is, then this episode is for you!

About Mary Beth: Mary Beth Somich is a licensed therapist with a group private practice located in North Carolina called Your Journey Through. She completed her graduate training at Columbia University and specializes in family dynamic work with teens and adults. Mary Beth is passionate about promoting modern mental health and making therapy accessible and relatable. She offers courses and business coaching to therapists to help them expand their reach on social media, build thriving private practices, and generate passive income streams. 

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/yourjourneythrough/

Therapy Website: https://www.yourjourneythrough.com/

Website for Therapists: https://www.instagrowthfortherapists.com/home

Podcast: https://www.mytherapistthinks.com/

Enmeshment Quiz: https://view.flodesk.com/pages/5f16de5959b56b0026662110?referrer=https%3A%2F%2Fstan.store%2Fyourjourneythrough

Family Enmeshment Exploration Prompts: https://stan.store/yourjourneythrough/p/say-hello-to-healthy-family-boundaries 

Boundary-Setting Blueprint: https://view.flodesk.com/pages/5ef271ba6f58290026109eeb?referrer=https%3A%2F%2Fl.instagram.com%2F

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One of the most important pillars of a happy, thriving life is your relationship with your partner. Yet, so many of us struggle in this area.  What do you need to be more satisfied in your relationship? How do you get your needs met? How do you put an end to having the same frikkin’ arguments over and over? How do you get a handle on your anger so your partner feels safe and secure in the relationship? Listen in on the first Master Class on Relationships and find out! 

This is the overview of all the skills and tools you need to create a loving, fulfilling, positive relationship. John and I were so excited about our first Master Class we wanted to share it with you as a gift. 

Who doesn’t love love? But loving love and wanting to bring love into your life does not always mean that you’re ready for the love you want to experience. In this conversation with Real Love Ready founder Robin Ducharme, we talk about all things love, specifically on the ways we strive to be better in relationships. Building relationship skills, being more vulnerable and understanding our partners from an aware place helps us to navigate the changing seasons of our own lives while also trying to see our partners from an emotionally aware place. Sometimes this is easier said than done, which is why love is not enough. If you are someone who seeks to cultivate or maintain an authentic and loving partnership, this episode is for you.

About Robin: Robin Ducharme is the founder of Real Love Ready, a platform devoted to nurturing connections in both romantic and non-romantic relationships while supporting personal growth.

Real Love Ready provides a joyful space for individuals to acquire essential relationship skills. Robin brings together world-class psychologists, therapists, and relationship coaches to offer guidance for deepening relationships and self-discovery.

Drawing from her experience as a professional matchmaker and love coach, Robin understands the transformative potential of relationships. Under her leadership, Real Love Ready connects a diverse community with relationship experts through various channels, including their weekly podcast, Let’s Talk Love and weekly  Instagram Live Q&A sessions. Each year, RLR hosts In Bloom, a large in-person (and virtual) Love & Relationship Summit in Vancouver, BC. Robin is dedicated to enriching lives and relationships, offering a path to lasting personal and interpersonal growth.

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In this joint episode with my partner Dr. John Schinnerer, we talk with esteemed therapists, Charlie and Linda Bloom, who were an integral part of our healing after our breakup. Married for over 54 years, they have been doing joint couples work for over 40 years, leading workshops and courses all over the world, and are the authors of 5 books; the most recent is An End To Arguing, which we talk about in this episode. Charlie and Linda share valuable, insightful and practical tools for how couples can work towards and maintain a strong relationship, despite hardships, of which they have survived many. Beginning with a shared value of being lifelong learners, they have always taken the time for personal growth which has served as the foundation for their relationship, as they’ve always been inspired to aim higher. In this episode we talk about the 3 words you should never say to your partner in an argument, how you can have a breakdown become a breakthrough instead of a breakup, and how relationships are spiritual practices. When you can self-reflect and take responsibility for your emotions and experience, reveal with vulnerability what you are feeling rather than conceal it, and continue to communicate until you are feeling complete after an argument, then you can truly reside in the safety of a secure relationship. If you are someone who is interested in building an extraordinary relationship, then this episode is for you.

About Linda & Charlie: Linda Bloom, LCSW and Charlie Bloom, MSW have been married since 1972. Trained as psychotherapists and relationship counselors, they have worked with individuals, couples, groups, and organizations since 1975 and have lectured and taught at learning institutes throughout the USA and internationally, including the Esalen Institute, the Kripalu Center for Yoga and Health, and The Northern California Mindfulness Institute. They have authored five books, including the best seller, 101 Things I Wish I Knew When I Got Married: Simple Lessons to Make Love Last (over 100,000 sold), Secrets of Great Marriages, Happily Ever After... and 39 Other Myths about Love, That which Doesn't Kill Us: How One Couple Became Stronger at the Broken Places, and An End to Arguing: 101 Valuable Lessons for All Relationships. They are founders and co-directors of Bloomwork, based in Santa Cruz, California. Their website is www.bloomwork.com

Here are the links for their Esalen and Kripalu Workshops. The Kripalu dates are Feb 9-11 and the Esalen dates are May 24-26.

Kripalu: https://kripalu.org/presenters-programs/secrets-great-relationships

Esalen: https://www.esalen.org/workshops/secrets-of-great-relationships-for-individuals-and-couples-052424