Joy Fueled and Jesus Led

Sometimes life situations seem impossible and out of our control. From personal situations like “Will my child make it through their emotional struggles? Or Will they ever come to faith?” to “Will God come through and rescue my friends who are in a war-stricken country?” these situations can leave us feeling bedraggled, helpless, and anxious. What is our role? Do we white knuckle it and force ourselves to believe? Or is there a more relational way to live through these moments? A way that does not remove the grief, but allows us to offer hope without the anxiety, striving, and fear. In this season, Toni invites you to listen in on a conversation she has with God about this very topic. She also shares stories of what it looks like to be non-anxious hope-bearers in an uncertain and chaotic world.

Are you done white-knuckling your way through life and faith? Are you longing for a more relational way of living with God instead of just applying principles about God? If so, grab your copy of 4 Keys to parent Fearlessly and sign up for an Intro Call with LK10 today.

This is a surprise bonus episode where we get to hear Krispin Mayfield’s journey into church as healthy attachment and a small way pastors can help create emotional safety for heart-to-heart connection to happen. Krispin’s book Attached to God is a great place to learn more on how our relational connections affect us spiritually. And click here to sign up for Krispin’s workshop Attachment and Spiritual Formation.

Have you ever been deeply served by someone educing your heart and your strengths? It is almost impossible to offer this to others if you have never experienced it yourself. Many of us were lacking mature elders in our lives who could invite us into maturity and healthy attachment. In this episode Toni jumps right into the final S: Serving Others, not pleasing or keeping them comfortable, but deeply serving them in ways that invite relational connection with themselves, each other and God.

If you are longing to be served in these ways so that you can serve others don’t hesitate to start your training with LK10 today. LK10.com is the starting place. 

How often have you been somewhere where they seem to be speaking a different language, yet they do not explain what they are saying or doing? It's like you are just supposed to know how to behave. Or maybe you have been asked to share, but you don’t know how deep to share or what is being asked of you. An effective facilitator makes sure you have all that you need to succeed.

In this episode Toni recaps content from the last few weeks and jumps into the third "S" of effective facilitating: Setting Others Up for Success.

In what ways are you being set up for success in your life right now? Do you have anyone who sets you up for success? Or maybe you are in charge of helping others succeed. Do you know how to set them up well or do they seem to wonder what you expect of them? Do you know the vision, values, practices, and expectations of the community you do life with? If you are hungry to learn how to set people up for success with this kind of attention, don’t hesitate to start your training with LK10 today. Until next time.

What would community be like if you felt safe to share your deepest struggles, knowing that exactly what you needed would be offered, nothing more, nothing less? Do you often automatically give people what you think they need, or do you ask them first what would be most helpful for them and then respond accordingly?

A relational revolution is sweeping through God’s people globally. As the Training Champion for LK10, my key question has been “How do we help facilitate church in ways that grow healthy attachments to God and each other?” In this episode I recap content from the last few weeks and jump into the second S of effective facilitating: Being Safe

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In this episode, Toni recaps what this revolution is all about, clarify what she is not saying, and jumps into the first S of effective facilitating: Seeing. What would it look like if your only agenda when you were with someone was to notice what you notice, seeing them physically and with the eyes and heart of God? If you want to learn to facilitate this kind of love, don’t hesitate to start your training with LK10 today. 

In this episode Toni shares with you two key paradigm shifts that have drawn her to more effective ways of leading small groups, Bible Studies, dinner table conversations, and even larger group gatherings. Teaching ideas is wonderful, otherwise, you would not be listening to this podcast, but it can only get us so far. When we are gathered as community there is a more effective way to relate. If we want true connection we will have to shift some of our old ways of thinking. If you want to learn to facilitate relationally, don’t hesitate to start your training with LK10 today. 

A relational revolution is sweeping through God’s people globally. As the Training Champion for LK10, my key question has been “How do we help facilitate church in ways that help people grow healthy attachments to God and each other?” Duty-driven, guilt-based, programmatic, building center, pastor-led forms of church have proven ineffective in seeing sustained character development and spontaneous multiplication. In this episode, I break down the five key components of this fundamental change that comes from seeing salvation as healthy attachment to God. If this is your first time hearing about being church relationally, you might want to pick up The Other Half of Church by Michel Hendricks and Jim Wilder or LK10’s book Joy Fueled and Jesus led. Until next time.

In this episode, I have the immense privilege of interviewing Krispin Mayfield. In this interview Krispin gets in touch with the anger he feels over how toxic theology has contributed to the people of God insecurely attaching to God and each other. 

If you want to learn to rest in God’s love for you, get Attached to God today. Krispin shares practical exercises that help move us towards a secure attachment. And if you want to belong to a community that sees church as growing a secure attachment with God and each other, sign up for an into with LK10.com today. 

This is a surprise episode on infant-level maturity within the surprise season on child-level maturity! In this episode, Toni backtracks a bit to show how the gaps in her infant level maturity have affected her view of God into adulthood, how scripture was twisted to support that harmful view of God, and what growing a secure attachment looks like at this stage of her life. For more information on attachment, see Attached to God by Krispin Mayfield. For an in-depth personal account of growing a secure attachment, see Toni's Back to Joy. To experience a community of practice that sees church as healthy attachment with God and others, go to LK10.com and sign up for an intro call.