Joy Fueled and Jesus Led

Ever think you know how someone is feeling? Or you know exactly what they need to do? Toni shares how so often she has parented with that as her base…However this approach to parenting can actually thwart us from getting to know our children better…and it also can stunt their growth. Listen in as Toni shares an amazing story of how her 6 year old managed his own anger and co-created with God a totally new reality with the help of attunement and curiosity! 

Is curiosity hard for you? Do you have a difficult time knowing what you are feeling and how to respond? In 4 Keys to parent Fearlessly, Toni models how to slow ourselves down enough to be curious about ourselves. That’s where our growth begins.  As we learn to be curious about our own emotions, we will grow our capacity for curiosity with others. 

Join in as Toni shares how comfort is extremely important in the child stage of maturity. Many of us have never understood the role of comfort, when we need it or how to ask for it. And yet, the Holy Spirit is actually called the Comforter! So, this must be important! Here Toni shares a story of how this shows up in her parenting.

Do you recognize when you need comfort? How do you respond? How do you receive comfort? LK10 helps families become communities of practice where we get to practice, make mistakes and learn together how to grow healthy emotional attachments to live more Joy Fueled and Jesus led. See LK10.com for more information.

Does it annoy you when people get angry for no reason? In this episode, I share with you how I have been unintentionally shaming my son when he gets mad. I had no idea how much I dislike being with people when they are angry about things that don’t make sense to me. Thankfully, my husband and son gently helped me see these automatic responses in myself. 

If certain emotions bump you out, or you find yourself wanting to tell people that if they just thought differently they would not feel bad, or let them know why they should not feel the way they do, it might be a good time to start your training! LK10 helps the family become a community of practice where we get to make mistakes and learn together how to have healthy attachments to live more Joy Fueled and Jesus led. Go to LK10.com to start your training today.

This is a surprise season on child-level maturity, what it is, why it is important, and what are the key factors in parenting our own children through this stage. In this episode, I share with you the importance of understanding how we each uniquely show up in the world and helping others see their unique contribution as well. It is part of the child's stage of development. Hear a story of how this plays itself out with my son Matt. 

Can you articulate how Christ uniquely shows up through you? Do you know your strengths and how they contribute to your community? Can you help others discover their unique traits as well? If these tasks seemed daunting to you as a parent, maybe it is a good time to work on shoring up your own maturity. LK10.com is a great place to start! We offer a course where you get to listen to God on Your Unique Design! I also mention Strengths Finder and the Enneagram as great resources.

This is somewhat of a surprise season on child-level maturity, what it is, why it is important and what are the key factors in parenting our own children through this stage. In this episode, Toni shares some of the key tasks necessary for helping our children mature emotionally during their school-age years. What their responsibilities are and how we, as their caregiver and their community, can help them grow up to take care of themselves. 

If you realize that you never learned how to take care of yourself well, or articulate your own needs, it could be that it is a good time to work on shoring up your own maturity. LK10 is a great place to start! Go to LK10.com for more information. Until next time.

In this episode, Toni shares a journal entry from 2012 where God took her to a childhood memory to coach her in how He uniquely designed her to show up in the world. Parts of her were sometimes scared to shine because she did not want others to feel bad. In this spontaneous time with God, He reframes that fear and reveals how she was created to inspire and train others to be their best, unleashing her to be the trainer that she is today. How has God uniquely designed you to show up in your world? Do you delight in how marvelous and wonderful you are? Or do you shy away from the greatness you were designed for because of fear or shame? LK10 teaches you the rhythms of attention that help you connect with God around all things, even your design. Go to LK10.com to begin your training.

In this episode, Hilary Kline shares with us key paradigm shifts that had to happen in order for her to embrace a Joy fueled, Jesus-led way of life. She also gives us a peek into personal examples of how interacting with God removes fear and creates new possibilities. There may be some words or concepts that are new to you in this one. If so, stay tuned for season 3, where I will break down some of these terms and share resources that have proven invaluable on this journey. Hope you enjoy.

In this episode, Hilary and I share our story of how God drew us into a mother-daughter relationship that has changed our lives (and our families’ lives) forever. There are countless ways God calls us to provide for each other’s needs through spiritual adoption, whether it may be as a stand-in, supplemental, or replacement family member. That is how the family of God becomes mature and complete - one adoption at a time, as Jesus leads.

However, while spiritual adoption is a crucial part of God’s heart, it is not something we rush into because we want to help and love others. Dr. Wilder and others share more on this in The Life Model: Living from the Heart Jesus Gave you, including the problems to anticipate, principles to follow, and red flags to watch out for. Their wisdom on this matter has been essential for my family as we navigate following Jesus into these adoptions.

Hope you enjoy.

In this episode, Toni shares with you a very intimate moment between her and God that changed her life forever and has become what she calls her “abiding place”, i.e. the place where she returns in order to continuously sense how deeply God enjoys her, and what God wants her to know about any given situation. 

What does Christ abiding in you look like? Do you have a place where you can go in your imagination that instantaneously anchors your body, mind, and soul into God’s deep affection for you and His perspective on your life? The book Back to Joy shares stories and resources that have helped Toni on this journey.  LK10 is a Christian leadership training organization...and If you would like help finding your own abiding place, email [email protected] with “abiding place” in the subject line, and someone from LK10 will contact you. Until next time.

In this episode, Toni shares another story of following the images that she sees in her mind as God leads her into her day. Paying attention plays such a big role in learning to be Jesus Led.  Hope you enjoy.