Joyfully Ever After with Heidi Esther

Are you a woman who tries to do it all?  Manage the house and the kids and the cooking and the job and the volunteering and finances? 
Do you ever wonder why your friends and family come to you, all the time? 
Do you ever wonder when you're gonna get just a *wee* bit of a break, to do stuff that you want to do? 

You're reliable. Independent. Loyal. Helpful. A World-Changer. A shoulder to cry on. The Rock.

You're proud of who you are and all you do. 

But sometimes, you're exhausted too. And sometimes, you don't want to make dinner, and not just on your Birthday or Mother's Day! 

Girlfriend, I got you. In this Playshop, I share two eye-opening findings from 100 coffee dates from amazing souls and helpers, just like you. 

I'll share two powerful shifts   - Releasing and Receiving - that will get you to back into the flow of life and ending the cycle of give-give-give-Done. Join me!

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Are you ready to Learn the 5 Steps of Self-Leadership that will help you peel back the layers and Lead you to  Joy, on your own terms? Then go to http://heidiesther.com/steps today!

You can watch all of my episodes on  YouTube @HeidiEsther
or Join my neighborhood online at http://Facebook.com/groups/MyJoyfullyEverAfter

Join me as I connect with fellow author, speaker, and powerful woman on a mission, Holly Melby! We get real and  connect over Impostor Syndrome, Mom-Guilt, Motherhood, and all the lessons she learned. Our conversation flows like we've been friends for years (we only recently met!) yet it goes deep and explores what life is really like in the trenches, with all the learning and lighthearted moments. 

Holly Melby is Author, blogger, mama, wife, and content creator crafting sentences with the intention of empowering women. 👊 Please check out her awesomeness at :

• http://hollymelby.com 
• Watch her story on the That's What She Said stage  
• Check out her backstory on the NPR podcast 
• Purchase her book here on Amazon!

Are you ready to Learn the 5 Steps of Self-Leadership that will help you peel back the layers and Lead you to  Joy, on your own terms? Then go to http://heidiesther.com/steps today!

You can watch all of my episodes on  YouTube @HeidiEsther
or Join my neighborhood online at http://Facebook.com/groups/MyJoyfullyEverAfter

Join me with Love and Light Warrior, Founder of DailyBreadYoga.life and insightful, relatable, heart-centered and hilarious human, Rachel Bass-Guennewig.

In this episode, Rachel shares a little of her story to and yoga, how yoga helped heal her, and how she has intentionally cultivated the Daily Bread Yoga community.  Though we didn't know it, we circled around to the ideas of Expectations and Permission. How we go through life with unconscious expectations (hello disappointment!) and giving our power, or Permission away. We talk about those moments we gave ourselves Permission back and let go of the Expectations that were no longer serving us.

Rachel candidly shares her truth as well as deals out her newly-published pursuit - the Daily Deck of Curiosity and Wonder. An introspective deck that will surprise, empower, and delight everyone! Purchase one today at https://dailybreadyoga.life/product/the-daily-deck-of-curiosity-wonder/  

Join Rachel for a real and inclusive yoga classes - via Zoom, for all levels - no registration required! First CLASS FREE! http://DailyBreadYoga.life

What are Through The Looking Glass Conversations? Convos with different teachers who have new tools for us to know grow ourselves just a *little* more badass. That tool could be yoga or astrology or the enneagram. Just like you grew up and figured out how you thrived and learned - whether that be in a classroom, behind a book, or scraping your knees climbing trees, I bring you different tools, i.e. loving mirrors to heal and see yourself,  so you can find the best ways to see your power, beauty, and joy.

Are you ready to Learn the 5 Steps of Self-Leadership that will help you peel back the layers and Lead you to  Joy, on your own terms? Then go to http://heidiesther.com/steps today!

You can watch all of my episodes on  YouTube @HeidiEsther
or Join my neighborhood online at http://Facebook.com/groups/MyJoyfullyEverAfter

Do you wake up every day with a fire in your belly but less and less energy to answer its call? Do you feel like butter scraped over too much bread? Do you feel like quitting everything because it's all too much to handle, when there was a time that it filled you up? You, my dear, might be experiencing burnout.

Join me as I share some Burnout Balm. I talk about what you can do now, and how you can safeguard yourself in the future!

Want the QUICK answer? Go to https://heidiesther.com/burnout and claim your downloadable workbook today! 

TIMELINE: 
00:00 Intro
03:20 Peppermint Tea
05:41 Story - Loving Mirror Walk
10:34  What IS Burnout, exactly?
14:44 Burnout Balm Part 1 - Loving You
28:37 Burnout Balm Part 2 - Quitting Forward
37:53 Peeling Your Onion?

Are you ready to Learn the 5 Steps of Self-Leadership that will help you peel back the layers and Lead you to  Joy, on your own terms? Then go to http://heidiesther.com/steps today!

You can watch all of my episodes on  YouTube @HeidiEsther
or Join my neighborhood online at http://Facebook.com/groups/MyJoyfullyEverAfter

A new friend recently said she learned that it's nearly impossible to learn from your mistakes and we can only learn from everyone else's.

But, is it?
Would we be wired to evolve without any input from the life we are living? I thought about it.

I am here to say IT IS not only POSSIBLE, but easy to learn from one's mistakes, once you have a shift in mindset. This critical shift in mindset will give you the gift of you learning more about yourself AND ENJOYING MORE OF YOUR LIFE, mistakes and all.

You can learn from their mistakes and yours, too!

TIMELINE
00:00 How are you taking care of yourself?
06:02 Story, The Missing Keys
12:53 The Dark Side of Mistakes
16:04 Step 1, REFRAME
17:29 Step 2, Adulting
19:13 Step 3, Be like Don Miguel
22:40 Step 4, Engage the Baby
25:45 Step 5, The Coin Flip
30:28 The Snowman of Affirmation has Spoken!


 Want a cheat sheet on the steps? Here you go, beautiful!
 
1) REFRAME: Insteaad of using the word mistake, reframe it differently. Like a lesson. YES!   Everything on your path is part of a lesson you need to learn to grow more badass. View everything as a new lesson instead of a potential mistake.
 
2) ADULTING: Disembark the Blame and Shame train. First, take RESPONSIBILITY for your actions and take the focus off of others. Second, PRACTICE RADICAL ACCEPTANCE for what you did. Say "okay, this is what happened" or "Okay, this is what I said" instead of turning on your inner critic.
 
3) BE LIKE DON MIGUEL RUIZ: Adopt two of his four agreements to implement step 2.  First, be IMPECCABLE WITH YOUR WORD: Make a vow to not talk shit about yourself OR others. Second, ALWAYS DO YOUR BEST: We wake up  different people every day. You will be sick some days. You will have anxiety other days. Breathe compassion into your inner critic. Forgive yourself. You KNOW you are trying your best.
 
4) ENGAGE THE BABY:  You are too worthy, too precious to beat yourself up. You are worthy of feeling good all the time. Envision a young, precious version of yourself to remind yourself EVERY TIME you are negative, that precious life gets the beat down, too. For more on Engaging the Baby, see my playshop on Guilt at https://youtu.be/ZQWv8CpTkxM
5) THE FLIP SIDE COIN EXERCISE, Find a coin!
Side 1: So, this happened...
Side 2: Spot the lesson!
What welds the sides together? Gratitude! Practice gratitude for the lesson.
What makes my coin shiny? (Practice being proud of how you showed up  in that instance. 

AFFIRMATION TIME : Practice saying empowering affirmations to yourself daily so that, when the spaghetti hits the fan, you can lean on them instead of engaging your negative self-talk and blame.

Discover more Playshops to Liberate your Heart and Soul from Self-Defeating Patterns like Guilt and Regret. 

Sign up for encouraging, heartwarming inspiring messages from Heidi Esther and get a free Jumpstart to Joy Guide, with playful exercises to get you to joy - no matter what kinda time you have - at https://heidiesther.com/joy

Are you ready to Learn the 5 Steps of Self-Leadership that will help you peel back the layers and Lead you to  Joy, on your own terms? Then go to http://heidiesther.com/steps today!

You can watch all of my episodes on  YouTube @HeidiEsther
or Join my neighborhood online at http://Facebook.com/groups/MyJoyfullyEverAfter

Join Heidi Esther as we have a heart to heart conversation about the tool of self-compassion with professional life coach, Jennifer Erwin. YES! Self-compassion is a powerful tool, once you see the miracles it can perform in every day lives.

Jennifer Erwin is a professional life coach with expertise in serving physicians and others in caregiving positions. She supports women in decreasing burnout and increasing well-being through an evidence based coaching model as well as through her online self-compassion programs.  She has a degree in psychology and masters in education as well as advanced training in NVC (non-violent communication), positive psychology, mindfulness and self-compassion.  She is passionate about helping women grow their confidence and life satisfaction through taming the inner critic and developing an unshakeable sense of trust themselves.

If you want to follow up with Jennifer (and who wouldn't???!?) She can be found at  https://jenniferlifecoaching.com/

Would YOU like a  free ebook "The Perfectionist Guide to Turning Self-Care into Radical Self-Love"?  Then go to https://jenniferlifecoaching.com/ and scroll to the bottom of the page to get it!

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Are you ready to Learn the 5 Steps of Self-Leadership that will help you peel back the layers and Lead you to  Joy, on your own terms? Then go to http://heidiesther.com/steps today!

You can watch all of my episodes on  YouTube @HeidiEsther
or Join my neighborhood online at http://Facebook.com/groups/MyJoyfullyEverAfter

Truth:  I used to be such a better giver than a receiver. I love planning and baking and sharing my love with others. But it was SOOO HARD not to feel bad when the tables were turned.

This spring, instead of celebrating my book launch, I was filled with something other than happiness. It was an old feeling, too. Dread. I viewed each reason for celebration as one check box from an endless to do list.

Listen to one simple practice that I do to enjoy receiving gifts, compliments, AND celebrate all of life's little and big milestones!

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Are you ready to Learn the 5 Steps of Self-Leadership that will help you peel back the layers and Lead you to  Joy, on your own terms? Then go to http://heidiesther.com/steps today!

You can watch all of my episodes on  YouTube @HeidiEsther
or Join my neighborhood online at http://Facebook.com/groups/MyJoyfullyEverAfter

Join Heidi Esther in a Through the Looking Glass Conversation. What is that? A conversation that will give you a new tool to help you uncover more of your inner badass!

Today, Heidi Esther chats with Authors and Energy Healers, Julia Buck Barton and Heather Kokx about, you guessed it, Energy Healing.

We will do a deep dive into what energy healing is, how it can help you, and our experiences with it. Come with your questions, leave with an affirmation from the Snowman of Affirmation!

#SnowmanofAffirmation sneak peek: YOU are a channel for..... 

LINKS REFERENCED
Connect with Heather Kokx at http://heatherkokx.com
Heather's book, Gateway to Healing at https://www.amazon.com/Gateway-Healing-Guide-Happiness-Journey-ebook/dp/B09B2V2DTL
Connect with Julia Barton at http://www.OliveAndBloom.net
Julia's first book https://www.amazon.com/Elevate-Your-Voice-Courageous-Perseverance/dp/1732785821/
Julia's second book Link...coming soon!

Discover more Tools to heal and grow your inner Badass

ACTION STEP! Sign up for encouraging, heartwarming inspiring messages from Heidi Esther and get a free Jumpstart to Joy Guide, with playful exercises to get taking steps to Your #JoyfullyEverAfter  -  https://heidiesther.com/joy

Are you ready to Learn the 5 Steps of Self-Leadership that will help you peel back the layers and Lead you to  Joy, on your own terms? Then go to http://heidiesther.com/steps today!

You can watch all of my episodes on  YouTube @HeidiEsther
or Join my neighborhood online at http://Facebook.com/groups/MyJoyfullyEverAfter

"I got this."
"I can figure it out myself, no problem."
"I'm gonna Hulk through this and get it done."
"They are so lucky I'm here to help."
"I'm totally the rock of our (workplace/family/friend group/church)."
"I would 100% rather GIVE help than RECEIVE it. And HEAVEN FORBID I should have to ASK for any. "

I've LIVED ALL of the above, how about you?  Because, why not?

Self-Reliance.
Independence.
Contributing Citizens

It's what every parent dreams they instill in their kids. So we can be productive, helpful members of society with full medical benefits. Because, so we're taught, noone wants to be living at home when they could be living by themselves. Or do we?

What are the downfalls of this "I don't want or need help" mindset? What are we missing by adopting this way of thinking? What harm are we causing ourselves and our children?  

• We communicate that we're not worthy of needing help. We break the cycle of giving and receiving.
• We value ourselves by what we can do and we don't explore who we are. This keeps us out of discovering our true, divine Joy.
• We communicate that others are better than us (SPOILER ALERT: You are just as wonderful as everyone else!) 
• We close ourselves off to rich, authentic relationships. We build walls  "we're fine and perfect." BAD NEWS: Then our kids don't ask for help either and the vicious cycle perpetuates. 
• We put feeling needed above ofeeling good. 

Join me and listen how to unburden yourself from the Helper-and-never-Helped mantle TO unlock your Genius and Joy! 

How can we let down the mantle and let in support?
1) Practice Shoes: mindset that everything is practice; no black/white right/wrong thinking.
2) Let the crutch go: letting go of what others think; building up from within
3) Take baby steps: practice gratefully receiving
4) Power Voice: asking for help
5)  Power Pants: positive reframe on asking for help

Discover more Playshops to Liberate your Heart and Soul from Self-Defeating Patterns like Guilt and Regret

Sign up for encouraging, heartwarming inspiring messages from Heidi Esther and get a free Jumpstart to Joy Guide, with playful exercises to get you to joy - no matter what kinda time you have - at https://heidiesther.com/joy
 

Are you ready to Learn the 5 Steps of Self-Leadership that will help you peel back the layers and Lead you to  Joy, on your own terms? Then go to http://heidiesther.com/steps today!

You can watch all of my episodes on  YouTube @HeidiEsther
or Join my neighborhood online at http://Facebook.com/groups/MyJoyfullyEverAfter

Howdy! This month we are doing a 30-day gratitude challenge at

http://facebook.com/groups/myJoyfully Ever After

The FREE Prompts can be found at https://HeidiEsther.com/nov2022

Whether or not it's  NOVEMBER when you listen to it, grab the prompts, do a few before bed (MIX IN THE WHY you are grateful) and your heart will thank you for it! You can even do some around the dinner table. 

Why Gratitude? I share about how Gratitude develops Awareness, Acceptance, Positive Mindset, Patience, Curiosity, Compassion and helps chisel away at the crappy-colored glasses you might have been wearing. YASSS! It's totally like a superfood for your heart!

Are you ready to Learn the 5 Steps of Self-Leadership that will help you peel back the layers and Lead you to  Joy, on your own terms? Then go to http://heidiesther.com/steps today!

You can watch all of my episodes on  YouTube @HeidiEsther
or Join my neighborhood online at http://Facebook.com/groups/MyJoyfullyEverAfter