Carrying around defensiveness is a result of identifying with a perspective, belief, or feeling. When there is identification with something, it feels like it is what we are. So when that thing is challenged, it feels like a personal attack. When it feels that way, defensiveness arises. For example, we may identify strongly with a particular role - i.e a wonderful parent or a great student or a hard worker. When that role is challenged, then some defensiveness may arise - "How dare you?!" is what is felt inside. When defensiveness arises, this is not "bad". It is simply an invitation to discover what you are beyond all those beliefs and ideas. What are you beyond all memory and imagination? Let's explore this together.