Just Be Your Bad Self

In this episode, I had a deeply insightful conversation with Melanie Hill, a human design coach for life and business. We dove into the world of human design and how it can be a powerful tool for self-discovery, self-acceptance, and embracing our inherent value. We also explored the importance of facing our shadow selves and the emotions that arise, such as guilt and shame. Through human design, we learn to integrate our shadows and cultivate self-compassion, building a community of self-love and understanding. Join us on this transformative journey toward self-exploration and growth, and remember, you can totally do this!

Find Kimber on instagram @thatkimbergirl and Melanie on Instagram @melaniehillcoaching

Chapters:

(0:00:00) - Human Design and Self-Acceptance

(0:15:08) - Owning Your Inherent Value

(0:18:46) - Embracing Our Shadow Selves

(0:27:40) - Healing and Embracing Shadow Selves

(0:38:11) - Exploring Self-Compassion Through Human Design

(0:46:48) - Building Self-Love Community

(0:53:49) - You Can Totally Do This

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In this episode of the Just Be Your Bad Self podcast, host Kimber Dutton shares her personal journey towards finding a feeling of enoughness. Despite her message of self-worth and acceptance, Dutton has been struggling to embody these qualities in her own life. She seeks to move away from the constant chasing of happiness and prove that she is enough as she is. Dutton encourages listeners to also embrace a sense of enoughness in their own lives and not fall into the trap of constantly chasing something that is already within reach.

[00:01:18] The Year of Enough.

 [00:05:00] Acknowledging your inner critic.

 [00:11:16] The Never Pleased. 

[00:13:39] Inner Critic and Self-Acceptance.

 [00:19:38] Masking in Neurodiverse People. 

[00:22:25] The Mask We Wear.

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This episode was recorded back in January and somehow missed getting published--I was probably busy ignoring the Never Pleased.  

Also, I'm doing a pay-what-you-can come sit in your own enoughness retreat in Hildale, UT from April 21-23 2023. If this is calling to you, reach out to me on instagram and let's make it happen! 

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Guilt and Shame--something we all struggle with as humans as a consistent basis. 

In this episode I talk about my own battles with guilt and shame, and some tools I use to battle and work through those feelings! 

I recorded this episode a couple of months ago, and ironically have been feeling guilt and shame for not publishing it closer to do the date I recorded it....but listening to this episode as I was getting it ready to publish today really helped me release some of that. 

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Today on the Just Be Your Bad Self Podcast we are talking about

1. An old Zen Story about 3-ft long chopsticks
2. The difference between Rescuing and Empowering
3. The importance of keeping our own cups full
4. An exciting new opportunity to work with Kimber one on one!

If you are interested in working with Kimber 1-1 and would  like to book a free discovery call please visit her website www.kimberdutton.com or email her at [email protected]

Follow Kimber on instagram @thatkimbergirl,  or join the JBYBS facebook community here for more interaction!

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On  the first episode of this new season, Kimber talks about shame, psychedelics, and the wisdom of the beginners mind.

Follow Kimber on instagram @thatkimbergirl, visit her website www.kimberdutton.com  or join the JBYBS facebook community here for more interaction!

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It's the 1 year anniversary of Just Be Your Bad Self and my life has come full circle.  

Apparently I have a "reputation" in my home town...it's not all good...and I'm totally giddy about it.  I'm finally starting to live what I preach. I'm  being my "bad" self  and it feels so good! 

This is the last episode for a bit, so be sure to subscribe and follow me on instagram so that you don't miss when the next season starts!

Until then remember, you are enough. Right now. In THIS moment. So....Just be your bad self!  

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Trigger Warning: There is some discussion about suicidal ideation in this episode from marker 26:07 to 32:38

Join Kimber as she talks  with McKray Jones, a robotics engineer and a friend from high school about:

1. His chaotic upbringing and ow he learned to mask his authentic self in order to fit in.
2. Times when masking is useful and when it is harmful
3. How masking and code-switching blocks the path to true intimacy and growth
4. How to teach our kids that growth comes with making mistakes and actually being our “bad self”
5. Personal growth through divorce and dealing with suicidal ideation
6. Teaching our kids to live their best lives through example

McKray's had an adventurous life so far and has had the benefit of experiencing a great deal of pain and adversity early in life. He endured a severely traumatic childhood and adolescent age before finding his first real community in performance art in high school. He excelled in trombone performance and used those skills to join the United States Marine Corps Band as a trombonist.

Following his four-year career in the Marines, McKray studied Aerospace Engineering at Embry-Riddle Aeronautical University with the intention  becoming a military test pilot. His first engineering job was with the US Navy as a Flight Test Engineer for F/A-18 aircraft and solid-fuel missile engines. From that position, he was selected for the US Navy pilot training program but turned down the dream-opportunity in favor of living a more family-friendly life as an engineer.

His next position took him to the Boston area where he has been since 2017. His sons, Sterling and Findlay, while both born in Mission Viejo, CA, identify Lowell, MA as their home. At his fourth job since moving, McKray found an organization with which he intends to stay for the foreseeable future. He helps develops robotic vehicles with Robotic Research, based in Clarksburg, MD.

McKray began his peace-finding journey in the summer of 2021 where he discovered that he had been living a decade of his life as a projection of himself, created by the expectations someone else. On a path guided mostly by meditations of Stoicism and with support from his family community and mental health professionals, McKray discovered he was ready to begin his new life and be his bad self.

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Join Kimber as she talks  with Kamini Wood–creator of AuthenticMe® and CEO of Live Joy Your Way, a coaching company helping individuals shake free of their limiting beliefs and behaviors in order to have healthy relationships and move forward on the professional path they choose.  

They have an engaging conversation about:

1. Kamini’s own journey as a recovering people-pleaser and perfectionist


2. How to chase your own dreams when you are right in the middle of parenthood


3. Internalizing Self-love


4. Stepping into our authenticity in a way that feels good and whole and enough

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Join Kimber as she talks  with Suzy Benson, a life coach who trained under Dr. Brene Brown. They discuss:

1. How Suzy went from seeing life in black and white to seeing it in color


2. How vulnerability is a strong courageous characteristic


3. The kindness of setting boundaries

Suzy Benson is a certified professional coach and facilitator. She personally trained with Dr. Brené Brown and is certified to deliver her Dare to Lead Program. She splits time working with clients and organizations in her coaching business and taking people on personal development expeditions to Uganda, Africa.

You can find her at suzybensoncoaching.com or africanpromiseexp.com

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Join Kimber for a casual conversation with her little brother (and PHD student) Jared Worwood about:

1. What is capitalism?


2. How capitalism can be a system of oppression


3. Some fun tangents that illustrate the intersectionality of all systems of oppression

Follow Kimber on instagram @justbeyourbadself  or join the JBYBS facebook community here for more interaction!

For guest bios, episode transcripts or to leave a review, please visit: www.justbeyourbadself.com

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