K and K Real Talk

In this episode, we continue our deconstruction of Shahrazad Ali's, "The Blackmans Guide to Understanding The Blackwoman," with chapter 10, "Raising Children." It is another heavy chapter that points out our failures as a nation with raising our Black children. Many of these failures are brought on by external influences; however, we have to recognize our faults so that we can implement change. Our babies are counting on us!

In this episode, we deconstruct Chapter 9 of "The Blackman's Guide to Understanding the Blackwoman," by Shahrazad Ali. This chapter is entitled, "Housekeeping." Ladies, the condition of your home is a direct reflection of your current mental state. The time is nigh for us to get our affairs in order! This is not a drill. Get your cleaning products together, bluetooth this episode to your speakers, and get to work! With love always, Kiva & Kahawia.

In this episode, we revisit our discussion from Episode 2, "W.I.T. (Whores in Training)," to clear up a few things. We continue our deconstruction of the book, "The Blackmans Guide to Understanding the Blackwoman," by Shahrazad Ali. This chapter is entitled, "Money," and honey, ain't nothing funny! Pun intended. Lol!

In this episode, we discuss chapter 7 of "The Blackman's Guide to Understanding the Blackwoman," by Shahrazad Ali. This chapter is entitled, "Family Relationships," and our responsibility to prioritize our Black men first, as head of our nation. We shed light on some secrets, lies, and chaos in our lives. We are also blessed with beautiful music from Libby Baeloo & Lewy Lotus. Check us out!

In this episode, we discuss chapter 6 of "The Blackman's Guide to Understanding the Blackwoman," by Shahrazad Ali. This chapter is entitled, "Communications." While we all scream for communication, the fact is that many of us--as Black women--do NOT know how to properly communicate with our Black men. Ladies, change must come in order for us to help rebuild our nation. Speaking of change, we paid homage to Her Thirsty Soul Podcast. Any woman in the dating world needs to subscribe to her show for a real perspective on how to navigate, effectively. Let's put this work in!

In this episode, we discuss chapter 5 of "The Blackman's Guide to Understanding the Blackwoman," by Shahrazad Ali. This chapter is entitled, "Social Integration (Dating and Marrying the Whiteman," and it is explained that there are some traitors among us--in so many words. We revisit Tyler Perry's, Acrimony, as Kahawia further explains her original standpoint on Taraji's character, Melinda. (Listen to Kahawia on the One Take No Chaser Podcast to see where it all began). Kahawia GOES IN to acknowledge her trauma and pain. Grab your tea, wine, fruit juice or water and get into it!

In this episode we wrap up our discussion of Chapter 4 in "The Blackman's Guide to Understanding the Blackwoman," by Shahrazad Ali. We talk about unlearning our bad behaviors and redefining our intentions to be better rather than continuing down our destructive paths. Shout out to One Take of the "One Take No Chaser Podcast," as we revisited Acrimony. Kiva has introduced Kahawia to a new perspective since being featured on his show. Get into this conversation and bring an open mind! We are Kiva & Kahawia.

In this episode, we discuss chapter 4 of "The Blackman's Guide to Understanding the Blackwoman," by Shahrazad Ali. This chapter is entitled, "The Wedding - The Beginning," and it is quite the show! Per usual we dive right into the text and uncover some of our dysfunctions as it relates to being a Black woman in (dis)agreement with our Black Men. We often want to be brides, but do we also strive to be good women and wives to our Black men? Turn to chapter 4 and tune in! If you have more to add, reach out to Kahawia on IG: @kahawia__

In this episode, we continue our discussion of Chapter 3 from "The Blackman's Guide to Understanding the Blackwoman" by Shahrazad Ali. We dive deeper into understanding our roles as Black women and removing ourselves from the negativity we project onto our Black men--as it pertains to 'Adulthood and Marriage.' Trust, it ain't no walk in the park! Be sure to look out for our, "Get You Some Business" list by yours truly, Kiva & Kahawia. 🤎

In this episode, we reintroduce ourselves as Kiva and Kahawia. Find out the reason for our name change. We also discuss the first half of chapter 3 in The Blackman's Guide to Understanding the Blackwoman by Shahrazad Ali as she highlights the problems we have within ourselves. Make sure you have your notebooks and tea ready for this one!