Keep Them Coming with Kristen Thomas

I want to talk about how courting is back! Basically, unless you are married or living with your significant other, everybody is in long distance relationship mode. So this episode is for you, whether you are single and you are on the dating scene, or you are in a relationship but you're currently separated, this episode is to help you all out.

This episode is special to me. I interviewed one of my oldest and dearest friends and we just went completely off the rails talking about whatever just is kind of came to mind. You're really gonna feel like a fly on the wall between two best friends just go into town and telling sex stories - some that are hilarious, some that are cringe-worthy, some that were just really good learning lessons. But the main topic I had Kelly come on to talk about today was her experiences with cancer. She's had a double mastectomy and a hysterectomy, and I really wanted someone's perspective on what it's like to keep your sexuality going after you've had surgery and change like this in life.We talked about femininity, kink and BDSM, and what dating was like when she was going through treatment. And it didn't necessarily slow her down, but she definitely had to alter her thinking and gain some perspectives that she could move forward as a sexual being after all of this.

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I live in Kansas City, Missouri, and on Thursday 3-12-2020 our Mayor declared a state of emergency. Any events of a thousand people or more are banned, canceled, whatever. Who knows how far this is going to go, but we like to party here in Kansas City (it's also known as the Paris of the Plains), so a friend of mine is going to host a party at his office today. And of course he posted in the event on socials, "Will Kristen be talking better sex stuff in small groups? Come find out." Someone asked, "Will she be teaching us how to safely have intercourse with our sick partners? I'm asking for myself in hopes that I meet a man with a cough." I like a girl with a good sense of humor. Thank you for that question and I'm happy to answer in this episode.

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Pegging, Part 2: a female perspective. This episode was a hell of a lot of fun to record. I learned so much. My guest, HardToHandle is going by a pseudonym because while we are talking about pegging, she's also going to talk about her cam work, as she does live cam work online. That was a really fun conversation talking about some of her experiences with camming and how she is building that into a side hustle. We told some funny dating stories, some good, bad and ugly ones, including some stories about oral sex gone wrong and a story about champagne and anal play. So, I know you're going to enjoy this episode.

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My guest, Tim, came on this show to discuss a lot of aspects of his sex life, his marriage, and his relationships outside of that. We talked about pegging, rimming, and basically all things anal play, non-monogamy, amateur porn, BDSM, and so much more. I've said on my show before that I do not believe that monogamy is the only way to structure a relationship. So, if you are a monogamous person, I would simply encourage you to approach this episode with an open mind. I am not here to judge how anyone lives their lives. I am simply here as a facilitator for honest conversations about what we actually do in the world when it comes to sexual expression and gratification. Let me know what you think about this conversation with Tim. You can email me [email protected] or DM me on any of my social media channels, but I think you'll enjoy this conversation as it really is an honest and unique look at what it's like to find fulfillment for something that you really enjoy when your partner simply isn't into it.

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With a title like "let the bra revolution begin," you might think that this episode is just for the ladies, but let me tell you, it is not just for breast owners. Gentlemen, I think you'll enjoy this episode because, I mean, come on... We talk about boobs, a lot, about boobs, a lot about tits. I even strip down and get fitted for a bra on this episode. So if you want to hear me talk about my tits, you'll enjoy this episode. But beyond that, Kerry Phillips is an entrepreneur. She has started her own fashion business, Firebrand Revolutionary Bras. We talked about the history of bras and their evolution, how you can make your own, how to make a bra fit properly, and we discussed an upcoming event called Bra Couture KC. I know you will enjoy this episode if you like talking about boobs. Feel free to send me anytime about episodes at [email protected].

My guest today shared some very personal stories of abuse while brief and short on detail, some listeners should consider this their content warning. Victoria Henderson is a burgeoning life coach, a trauma survivor, and a student of the universe. I gave her that moniker. She did not give that to herself. I think that thats that's a great way to describe her. And I think you will too, after you listen to our conversation, she dealt with abuse from both family and partners, but the bulk of our conversation focused on healing and moving forward. I want to thank her for telling her story so perhaps, you know, for some of you listening, you can hear the hope in her words . I want to thank Allen Little, who is a life coach who introduced us.

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Find Keli Jackson at grownupsexed.com

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Nyla Foster is a youth advocate, community leader, and political activist. She is the reigning Ms. Black Trans International. She sued the state of Kansas and won, making national headlines and she helps LGBTQ youth in crisis in Kansas city. We talked about her trans experience, what good sex is like, sex parties in Atlanta, and staying in her feminine energy. This is not a conversation to be missed!

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You can find Nyla at www.nylafoster.com, Facebook as Nyla Foster, or Instagram as @AfroPrepster

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Timmy Gibson, who is a fellow life and relationship coach here in Kansas city was on this episode of Keep Them Coming. I asked about his perspective about something - since he used to be a clergy person, I asked him what he thought about post-divorce celibacy. It was just an interesting topic to explore with someone who used to be a minister. We talked about divorce, building new lives altogether and even some of the stigma that that can hold for us as relationship, dating, and for myself, a sex coach. We talked a little bit about our perspectives on failure versus things just ending.

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You can find Timmy at Timmygibson.com