Keep Them Coming with Kristen Thomas

I truly want people to have painful sex no more. By the way , to the male listeners of this show, this is going to be good information for you to know as well so that you can know how to support your partner, or if you yourself have pain during intercourse. If this is something you or your lover has been ignoring, and it's time for solutions. In this episode, I will walk you through steps for reducing pain or eliminating it all together.

I was thrilled to have Alesha Bowman, Owner of unLESHed+, on this episode of Keep Them Coming! Alesha is founded her brand in 2017 to cater to the lifestyle of a plus sized woman. She is way more than just a clothing resale store! We discussed events she's hosted like Trap Burlesque, Poolpalooza, and her plans for a weekend festival celebrating all things for bigger bodies. Of course I asked her about dating! We got into some deep topics about race, dating, authenticity, going Dutch, and fetishization of black and plus sized bodies. "There's a fine line between admiration and fetishization," she says.

Find Alesha Bowman and her shop unLESHed+ at 4243 Troost Ave, KCMO again beginning March 19th, 2021 or online at www.shopunleshed.com, Facebook, or Instagram.

I don't know any single person that's tried internet dating that isn't frustrated with most of their experiences on swipe apps. Enter a totally new experience for you to try! I'm joined today by Zach Schleien from Filter Off. Filter Off is a totally new way to approach those first dates. It's virtual speed dating, so rather than swiping you get to video chat with your potential matches. When was the last time you got 5 first dates in a night while hanging at home?

Find Filter Off at getfilteroff.com, or on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter.

Connecting through touch is important for both solo and partnered play. This episode dives into the power of touch, how to ask for what you want, and what really is sensate focus all about. How do you get your mind and body ready for better experiences? How do you ask your partner for something different and get what you really desire? Gigi Chaurand Kammerer, a yoga teacher, Reiki master and fellow podcaster, joined me for a conversation all about how to apply sensate focus in practical ways.

Find Gigi at mysonandmoon.com. Her podcast Portable Magic is available anywhere you listen to podcasts.

The Oldest Profession, or sex work, is something that has fascinated me ever since I wrote a paper about Mata Hari. Guest Kaytlin Bailey and I discuss some of the ways sex work is portrayed vs how it is in the real world, what decriminalization means for sex workers, how we can work to decrease exploitation in our culture, and much more. She's a stand-up comic too, so you're in for some serious laughs!

Kaytlin Bailey is the host of The Oldest Profession Podcast and Founder of the #OldProProject. Keep with her work on social media @kaytlinbailey, @oldpropodcast, and sign up for the Old Pro Newsletter. Go to the website to get your tickets for the January 25th event mentioned in the episode.

Dr Kelsey Beach is back for her third appearance on Keep Them Coming! This time, she's preggers! As one of my most fun and real guests, I knew she's talk about the not so Instagram worthy aspects of being pregnant. While there can be many wonderful things about expecting a baby, there's a lot that people don't talk about, that your doctor doesn't understand, and your friends are afraid to tell you. So tune in to this episode for the good, the bad, and the ugly about what to expect. We discussed bodily shifts, vaginal secretions, libido rollercoasters, and boobs. Lots of boob talk on this one.

Fangirling can pay off. I reached out to a burlesque dancer I've admired on Instagram for a while and Petite Renard was more than happy to chat with me on Keep Them Coming. We dished about some of the behind the scenes drama, the drive to create a sexy yet intellectual show, and what's next for burlesque in COVID times and beyond. Whether you've never been to a show or you miss supporting your favorite local dancers, this episode will give you some insight, make you crave live entertainment again, and perhaps get you a little turned on.

Find Petite Renard on Instagram @petite_renard

I'm joined today by Dr Lanae St. John. She's a sexuality educator and an author, and I was so pleased to be able to host her on my show and talk about her book. I know Dr Lanae because of our affiliation with Sex Coach U. This was such a wonderful conversation about how do you have "The Talk" with your kids. This wasn't a how-to guide about ages and stages. This is really about some key pillars that she feels are necessary for parents to be able to first process themselves - things like communication, consent, respect, pleasure, and fantasy. We also answered it a listener question -one of my listeners found out that her twelve-year-old even after they had a talk about it has still been looking at porn. This is not the first time I've had people reach out to ask the question of what do I do about my kid looking things they really shouldn't be looking at? And especially with as much screen time is some kids are getting right now with lockdown, maybe you're needing to have some awkward conversations.

We need to talk about how to prepare them for real world relationships one day. How do they build respect with other people? How do they understand pleasure? All these things and more... you'll seriously love this episode. And even if you don't have kids listen to learn more about yourself or how to help young people that you have in your life.

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Dr Lanae St. John can be reached by email or on Facebook and Instagram. Her Book "Read Me: A Parental Primer for 'The Talk'" is available at local bookstores and online retailers. Go to her website for more information.

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