Keep Them Coming with Kristen Thomas

My guest has been a Physical Therapist for 21 years, and she's done a little bit of everything, but Katy Rush decided to be a Pelvic Floor Therapist 16 years ago because she realized how underserved this part, our inner core, really was and how much it effects other areas of people's lives and health when something is off kilter. Did you know it takes a woman an average of 8 years to get to the point where she sees a pelvic floor therapist for her issues? This is why I'm having 2 on in a month's time because this issue is so important. And gentlemen, don't turn this episode off just because I'm talking to a pelvic PT, we talk about things you really need to learn about too! Men need to know about periods. You could learn something that helps you support the ladies in your life.

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Katy's website is theperfectpelvis.com

Most people would call Booker a boudoir photographer, but he's so much more. His work with intimate portraiture helps women, and even some men, with things like self acceptance, body positivity, and something that makes my heart happy, sex positivity! It's still World Sexual Health Month, so I am happy to round out the month with my friend Booker. We discussed the process of doing a shoot, why and when you should do one, and what he's seen from his clients after. "Sexiness cannot be given," he said during the interview, but it can grown inside you, and a shoot like this can be a catalyst for that. I talked about my own personal experience with a boudoir shoot a few years ago. We also discussed why you should wear sexy panties daily, what you can learn from burlesque, and what you should do if you're wanting to learn more about the BDSM scene here in KC.

I had someone ask me about why I made a recommendation on a lube, and since I'm super slammed finishing school with Sex Coach U, I gave a list of what I'm reading, watching, and listening to.

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Reading: Pleasure Activism by Adrienne Maree Brown

Watching: Euphoria on HBO

Listening to: Call Your Girlfriend on any podcast platform

LPC and personal trainer Jessica Nickels joined me for this weeks show. She's such a sex positive counselor I would love to just replicate her! Since it's still World Sexual Health Month, we discussed what sexual health means to her, how sexual illiteracy is playing out in issues with intimacy and healthy sexual expression, and that intimacy is more than intercourse. Hallelujah, Jessica! You're singing my song.

Since September is World Sexual Health Month, I hosted Max Sheffield-Baird on Keep Them Coming this week. They shared a lot about their journey, including healing past trauma, exploring kink, why pronouns matter, and how the power of story can transform us. A night of incredible storytelling by Amanda Palmer at her June concert got both of us in the feels. AFP said, “If you can share your story, you must.” So thank you to Max for sharing their story with all of us.

There is no magic wand that will change the world overnight and make it a safe place for trans folx. However, we have to start somewhere. What can allies do to learn more, to grow, and to create acceptance for trans and non-binary people in their lives and networks? One small action we can take is to start talking about our pronouns – She/Her/Hers, He/Him/His, and They/Them/Their, and I explain why it matters for cis gendered people.

Two things you probably didn’t know before listening to this episode – there’s a World Sexual Health Day, and that there’s such a thing as Pelvic PT. I talked to Kelsey Beech, DPT of Foundational Concepts about why people need to think about their pelvic floor health. She explained what pelvic floor therapy is all about. Take note – this conversation is not just for women! Men have pain in their genitals too that can be solved by seeing someone like a pelvic floor therapist. Kelsey even taught me to do Kegels correctly! We also talked about what our parents think of what we do (hint: her mom was shocked when she found out sometimes she has to put her finger in someone’s anus or vagina), how a whole generation of women were done a disservice by having unnecessary hysterectomies, her work with MTF Trans patients, and how we are owning what we do respectively for people’s sexual health.

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Find Kelsey Beach, DPT and other practitioners from Foundational Concepts via their website, Instagram and Facebook.

Today I'm answering listener questions! The first was about what to do about body hair removal, so I reviewed lots of options, which includes maybe you don't remove it at all! The second listener question was from my first piece of "fan mail". The listener asked what they should do about a very awkward topic - the dude she's dating has a small penis. I love answering listener questions like this! Keep them coming by emailing me at [email protected].

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The Womanizer - You can find all the models they make at their website www.womanizer.com.

Ever wake up and think, "I just need to write a book about all my embarrassing sex stories"? Well, Shelby Simpson did, and then she turned her book tour into a stage performance that was absolutely delightful, funny, and oh so relatable. We talked about her journey to becoming an author, her travels around the world, why women talk about our embarrassing sex stories (and men don't) how she's not considered a "sexpert" and invited to talks that also happen to involved panels about dildos on a stick and your first threesome, and most importantly, how she's embracing what she bring people - freedom and empowerment.

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We're All Bad In Bed by Shelby Simpson, who you can find on Twitter and Instagram

Your mom may have said to you before to "watch your dirty mouth". The only time I want you to watch your dirty mouth is when you're practicing how to say something sexy to your partner in the mirror. Dirty talk can actually enhance your experiences in the bedroom for a number of reasons, and if you're not any good at it, you can practice with Slutbot. Yes, there's a bot that can text you and practice with you so you can get really good at dirty talk without ruining the moment with your partner.

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