Keep Them Coming with Kristen Thomas

"How many times is she going to bother me about that thing I promised to do? She really has become a nag. Why can't she just leave me alone? I'll get to it when I get to it." 

Sound familiar? 

On this episode of Keep Them Coming, Kristen welcomes Zach Watson, aka The Recovering Manchild. Zach’s relatable approach to addressing mental load, invisible labor, and the challenges of modern relationships has really struck a chord with men online, at least men that are willing to examine how they behave in their relationship.

Today, we’re discussing how he uses humor and vulnerability to foster conversations about personal development, communication, and navigating partnerships. 

Watson, an Invisible Labor Coach, was also quoted in my August column "Love and Loads: Why not doing your fair share is killing your sex life." https://www.thepitchkc.com/keep-them-coming-love-and-loads/

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Thanks for listening! XOXO Kristen

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This episode is dedicated to those of you who celebrated the Week of Visibility for Non-monogamy last week (July 15th-21st).

What do you do to work through jealousy in relationships (especially ENM)? And is it something that you can even prevent? 

Have you ever said "I'm too jealous to be in a nonmonogamous relationship"?

Ever heard of "creative monogamy"?

My guest today, Dr. Joli Hamilton is the relationship coach for couples who color outside the lines. She is a research psychologist, TEDx speaker bestselling author - we talked about her book Project Relationship - and she's also an AASECT certified sex educator. She co-hosts the Project Relationship podcast with her  anchor partner, Ken, and she's been featured in the New York times. Vogue. NPR and the Atlantic. 

Find her at jolihamilton.com and her quiz at joliquiz.com

Read my July 2024 Keep Them Coming column via ThePitch.com

Did you know oral sex leads to orgasm 3 times more than intercourse? Did you also know that studies are beginning to prove that STIs are spread more now by oral sex than by other forms of sexual contact? 

 On this episode, I was joined by Melanie Cristol, the founder and CEO of Lorals. Lorals is an FDA-approved product whose mission is to empower people to experience intimacy freely and fully and to connect with our partners in a variety of ways.

They see Lorals as reinventing oral sex - helping everyone have uninhibited maximum oral pleasure every single time.

Thanks for listening! XOXO Kristen

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Welcome to Keep Them Coming. I'm your host, Kristen Thomas, a certified sex coach and clinical sexologist. This episode marks the exciting kickoff of season three, and I promise it's going to be hotter and more educational than ever before.

In this episode, I am joined by fellow sexologist Savannah Rose of Savannah Rose Coaching. We dive deep into the world of solo pleasure in celebration of International Masturbation Month. Discover why we prefer alternative terms to 'masturbation,' and explore fascinating statistics about solo pleasure time, including why many women prefer it over intercourse.

Savannah shares her expertise on closing the orgasm gap, healing from abuse, and living authentically. We discuss the role of pleasure in people's lives, and how to make partnered playtime more connected and hotter. This conversation is filled with profound lessons, practical advice, and plenty of fun.

Don't forget to check out my monthly column in The Pitch and stay tuned for more exciting content this season. Enjoy the episode!

Mentioned in the episode:

Becoming Cliterate by Dr Laurie Mintz

Come As You Are by Dr Emily Nagowski

Sex Coach U and Dr Patti Britton

VITA and Layla Martin

Sex For One by Betty Dodson

Thanks for listening! XOXO Kristen

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It's International Masturbation Month!! My guest is Kya, founder of so(l)o.

Kya is a pleasure activist who believes that pleasure is a key component of living a wholehearted life. After noticing a gap in the market for intimate wellness products that focused on self-pleasure and catered to BIPOC women, Kya founded so(l)o.

so(l)o creates all-natural, sustainable intimate wellness products that are specifically created for self-pleasure. Kya was so passionate about so(l)o that she quit her corporate gig and moved to Berlin....after a great deal of strategy and thought, of course. You can follow Kya’s life in Berlin on @brooklyntoberlin and follow so(l)o @mysoloislove on Instagram.

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This episode features Dr Chelsia Potts, an educator and content creator. Dr Potts and host Kristen Thomas discussed sex and neurodivergency.

Have you found that when you're dating, it's easy to be all hot and heavy when you're still in the new relationship energy but then you suddenly feel disconnected? Are you overwhelmed once you have to merge the emotional and physical in a relationship? Worry that your autism or ADHD will prevent you from finding a caring and understanding partner? This episode is for you.

Topics include:

Aging, shifting, and unmasking - how we mourn removing our mask

Dating with autism or ADHD

Recognizing red flags

Learning to build connections

Overcoming shame

Find Dr Potts TikTok @heavyonthedr

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The conversation you are about to listen to between my guest D Rashaan Gilmore and I is...Maybe not going to make some of you very happy. Sorry, not sorry. I don't really care. We live in Missouri and we no longer have the time to mince words. Our conversation covered topics like houselessness, classism, voter apathy, and allyship.  

D Rashaan is a serial entrepreneur, community connector, organizer,  collaborator, and an Emmy Award winner. He is particularly passionate about making a difference and has found a home for his voice in service of marginalized and stigmatized communities.  He is the founder and CEO of BlaqOut, a grassroots movement organization that seeks to organize and mobilize the black LGBTQ community in Kansas City.

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I know I say this a lot, but I'm constantly excited about the guests that I have on the show. I'm extra excited about today's guest, Alicia Sinclair. She's also a Certified Sex Coach. We went through the same program at Sex Coach U. Sinclair is the CEO and founder of Children of the Revolution, which holds the brand's b vibe, Le Wand, and The Cowgirl.

She'd already been in the sex toy industry for a long time before becoming a Sexologist, and when she saw that there were some holes to fill in that industry (wink, wink), specifically about pleasure education, she got her certification and started her own companies, and a pleasure revolution while she's at it. 

She believes heavily that education and pleasure go hand in hand. If you don't feel like you have learned enough about anal from me and my podcast, then you need to check out their Anal Academy. 

Also since it's Women's History Month, I asked her about women in history that she looks up to. We also discussed overcoming vibrator objections, favorite positions for integrating vibes with a partner, and what's next in sex tech. 

If you are not local to the Kansas City area, or just have not had a chance to pick up your copy of The Pitch on newsstands, read my March column Still Got It: Aging doesn't have to slow you down in the bedroom.

When my guest today came over to my office to hang out and chill one day a couple of weeks ago, I was intrigued with her because it was refreshing that we had had some pretty similar experiences, but this also seemed like someone I could learn some lessons from. Ellie Berland is a sacred life and business coach, and she is a big believer in pretty much everything can be seen as divine - that even includes your kinky side. 

Her pendulum has swung from purity culture into the poly lifestyle, and then into swinging, and now, into a celibate lifestyle as she learns more about herself. We talked about a lot of things in this episode, including BDSM and finding a Dom, connecting to your body, and learning to captain her own ship. 

Find Ellie on Instagram or her BioPage. 

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Curator of the soon-to-be-unveiled KC Rainbow Tour Joel Barrett joined me on this episode of Keep Them Coming. Joel shared stories of this city's queer past, including the influential 1966 meeting of the North American Conference of Homophile Organizations or NACHO, pronounced NAY-KOE, which was the ember of activism that helped spark the Gay Rights Movement; stories of an open lesbian Bunny at the Playboy Club named Lea Hopkins; the Jazz District; the Gay and Lesbian Archives of Mid-America; and Womantown. We also discussed showing respect via pronouns, finding long-lost gay family, and Anita Bryant.

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Happy Singles Appreciation Day! Enjoy this playlist Single and Vibin' on Spotify.