Why is it so hard to stay present during conflict?

In this episode of Kerah Speaks, we’re talking about emotional regulation, healthy conflict resolution, and what it really means to stay in the room when conversations get uncomfortable.

If you tend to shut down, get defensive, over-explain, or emotionally check out, this episode is for you.

We’re unpacking:
• Signs you’re about to leave the room emotionally
• How to stay regulated during hard conversations
• The difference between reacting and responding
• Practicing healthy conflict without losing yourself

Healing is not avoiding conflict. It’s learning how to move through it without abandoning yourself.

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What happens after therapy?

You did the work.
You unpacked the past.
You learned the language.

But living differently on the other side is its own journey.

Kerah Speaks the Podcast is for people who are in therapy, coming out of therapy, or finally ready to stop repeating the same patterns. This is not clinical advice. It’s lived experience. Real conversations about faith, boundaries, discernment, emotional maturity, and choosing yourself without guilt.

If you’re healing on purpose and learning to trust yourself again, you’re in the right place.

Faithful. Healed. Free.

People delay supporting you because they believe they have more time.More time to show up.More time to believe in you.More time to prioritize you.But access isn’t unlimited and neither is alignment.In this video, I talk about why people assume they’ll always have you, why support often comes late instead of on time, and how this same mindset shows up in relationships. Whether it’s your purpose, your healing, your creativity, or your growth, people often wait until results are visible instead of honoring the process.Support has a window.Purpose has seasons.And not everyone is meant to walk with you forever.If you’ve ever felt taken for granted, delayed, or deprioritized, this conversation is for you.⸻Watch if you’re navigating: • People taking you for granted • Delayed support in relationships or friendships • Outgrowing access people assumed they had • Stepping into purpose without external validation • Letting go of who didn’t show up when it mattered⸻Connect With Me🌐 Website: www.KerahSpeaks.com🛍 Merch: https://www.etsy.com/shop/KerahSpeaksApparel📺 YouTube: Kerah Speaks📸 Instagram: @KerahSpeaks⸻Shop the MerchSupport the message and wear the reminder.🧢📖 https://www.etsy.com/shop/KerahSpeaksApparel⸻DisclaimerI am not a therapist or mental health professional. I’m sharing from personal experience and reflection. If you’re navigating emotional or mental health challenges, please consider seeking support from a licensed mental health professional.#KerahSpeaks#TakingPeopleForGranted#DelayedSupport#PurposeDriven#EmotionalGrowth#Boundaries#HealingJourney#Relationships#SelfWorth#Alignment

In this episode of Kerah Speaks, I’m breaking down what the healed version of me actually needs in community now that I’m done with therapy. And the answer is simple: emotional honesty.I’m no longer drawn to people who withhold how they feel, who stay vague to stay in control, or who are emotionally unavailable because of their own abandonment issues. That used to feel familiar to me—because I knew how to perform in that dynamic. I knew how to overextend, overfunction, and prove my worth by carrying the emotional load.But healed me? She doesn’t live there anymore.She needs relationships where she doesn’t have to guess, decode, or shrink. She needs people who are transparent, grounded, and emotionally honest—because that’s where she feels safe enough to thrive.This version of me shows up differently, requires differently, and chooses differently. And I’m finally honoring that.If you’re in a season of redefining your community after healing, this one’s for you.I’m not a mental health professional. Everything I share comes from my own lived experience and healing journey. If you’re seeking support for your mental or emotional health, please connect with a licensed therapist or qualified mental health provider who can give you the care you deserve.#HealingJourney#EmotionalHonesty#CommunityMatters#HealedVersionOfMe#AfterTherapy#HealthyFriendships#EmotionalAvailability#GrowthMindset#InnerWork#BoundariesMatter#KerahSpeaks#FaithAndHealing#PurposeJourney#HealingCostMeEverything#SelfAwareness#ShadowWork#HealingCommunity#EmotionalGrowth#RelearningYourself#NewStandards

Being the fixer is not always a calling.For a lot of us, it was conditioning.In this episode of Kerah Speaks, I talk about unlearning the fixer role and what it means to stop rushing in to save, solve, or stabilize other people at the expense of yourself.This conversation is about: • how being the fixer often starts in childhood • why some people don’t actually want to be fixed • the difference between ability and assignment • learning discernment instead of overextending • trusting God to do the work that was never yours to carryThis isn’t about judgment or superiority.It’s about awareness, healing, and learning how to stay grounded without abandoning yourself.If you’ve ever felt responsible for other people’s healing, this episode is for you.📍 New episodes available on YouTube📖 Healing Cost Me Everything available at kerahspeaks.comAlso available on Amazon and Barnes & Noble#healingjourney #kerahspeaks #selfhealingcommunity #therapy #boundaries #healingtechniques #faith #faithoverfear #podcast #selfawareness

Some people learn to survive by avoiding their feelings.Some rely on emotional numbness to stay afloat.Some use medication to avoid spiraling — but never actually heal the root.Today’s episode of Kerah Speaks goes deeper into the truth:you can’t heal what you refuse to feel.In this reflection, I talk about emotional avoidance, and why real healing requires honesty, courage, and spiritual grounding. This is the difference between numbing and transforming — between staying stuck and becoming who Yahweh called you to be.If you’re navigating your own healing journey, I pray this gives you clarity, peace, and permission to grow for real.Watch more episodes and connect with me:Website: https://www.KerahSpeaks.comYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@KerahSpeaksTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@kerahspeaksInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/kerahspeaksDisclaimer:I am not a therapist or mental health professional. I speak from my own experience and healing journey. If you are struggling with mental health concerns, please reach out to a licensed therapist or mental health provider for support.#TherapyTalk#DepressionAwareness#SelfAwareness#TraumaHealing#HeartbreakRecovery#EmotionalMaturity#NumbnessIsNotHealing#RejectionSensitive#HealingPodcast#GrowthMindset

The world feels unstable right now. Systems are shifting. Identities are being challenged. Emotions are heavy. And if you’re a creative, an artist, or someone who thinks deeply about yourself and the world, you feel it in your body, your spirit, and your work.In this episode of Kerah Speaks, I talk honestly about what it looks like to manage myself during uncertain times, why creatives can’t pretend everything is fine, and why self-care right now is not optional. It’s survival.As Nina Simone said, “An artist’s duty, as far as I’m concerned, is to reflect the times.” That means I can’t talk about healing, grounding, and faith without acknowledging what’s happening in the world and how it impacts our mental health and how we show up, especially when it comes to the identities we carry.For me, what anchors me is my faith. Not as denial, but as a steady ground when everything else feels like it’s shifting.This episode is an invitation to pause and ask yourself:What steadies me when the world feels unstable?If this resonates, make sure to follow me and stay connected.Follow & Connect:Instagram | TikTok | YouTube: @KerahSpeaksWebsite: www.kerahspeaks.comDisclaimer:I am not a licensed therapist or mental health professional. I am speaking from my personal experience and perspective. If you are struggling with your mental health, please consider seeking support from a licensed mental health professional or trusted provider.⸻#KerahSpeaks#FaithAndMentalHealth#HealingInUncertainTimes#CreativeHealing#FaithAsAnAnchor#MentalHealthAwareness#ArtistLife#DeepThinkers#SelfRegulation#GroundedLiving#SpiritualWellness#EmotionalHealth#ContentCreators#InnerStability#HealingJourney

Choosing Yourself Without Making Anyone the VillainIn this episode of Kerah Speaks, I’m talking about something I had to learn the hard way.There was a season where I stayed connected to people who didn’t truly nourish me. Not because they were bad. Not because I was better. But because I hadn’t healed the void inside of me yet.Sometimes we stay in spaces that don’t feed our soul because being alone feels heavier than being misaligned. Sometimes we confuse familiarity with connection. Sometimes we look to others to give us what we haven’t learned to give ourselves.In this episode, I reflect on: • Why we stay in relationships that leave us drained • The difference between connection and distraction • Healing the void instead of filling it • The quote that changed my perspective: We will always be in a relationship with ourselves • Becoming the person you’ve been waiting forThis isn’t about cutting people off in anger. It’s about choosing yourself honestly.If we’re always going to be in relationship with ourselves, why not build one that feels safe, nourishing, and true?⸻📌 DisclaimerI am not a licensed therapist or mental health professional. I am sharing from my personal experience and reflections. This content is for educational and reflective purposes only and is not a substitute for professional mental health care.⸻🔗 Connect With MeFollow Kerah Speaks for more conversations on healing, faith, self-work, and emotional growth:Instagram: @kerahspeaksTikTok: @kerahspeaksWebsite: https://kerahspeaks.com#ChooseYourself#SelfWork#HealingJourney#EmotionalGrowth#InnerHealing#SelfAwareness#PersonalGrowth#MentalHealthConversations#HealingOutLoud#healingjourney #kerahspeaks #selfhealingcommunity #therapy #healingtechniques #boundaries #faith #faithoverfear #podcast #love

In this episode, I talk about what really happens when you pray for alignment and mean it.Alignment doesn’t always feel calm at first. Sometimes it feels fast. Things start falling away without a fight. People, habits, and situations that no longer fit begin to move on, and instead of resisting, you surrender. You trust the process. You trust divine timing.After the pruning comes the growth. And that part can be both fascinating and scary.When you’ve spent years living in survival mode, alignment can feel too good to be true. Ease feels unfamiliar. Momentum feels out of your control because it is. You are no longer trying to manage everything yourself. You are allowing the Holy Spirit to move, and He can do far more than we could ever conceptualize.The fear doesn’t come from God’s inability. It comes from our own limitations, our own conditioning, and what we’re used to carrying. God is able to do exceedingly and abundantly, even when our faith is still catching up.In this video, I talk about: • How alignment accelerates life • Why pruning is part of the process • Why growth can feel uncomfortable after survival mode • The pressure to conform or perform when things start going well • The importance of staying grounded and surrounding yourself with good people • Stewarding the gifts you’ve been given instead of rushing the outcomeIf you’ve been praying for alignment, this is a reminder that this is how things are supposed to work. Good things are coming. Stay rooted. Stay obedient. Stay true to what got you here.Follow me on Instagram for continued reflections and behind-the-scenes thoughts:Instagram: @kerahspeaksDisclaimer: I am not a therapist or a mental health professional. I am speaking from my own personal experience. If you are seeking support for your mental health, please consider reaching out to a licensed mental health professional. #healingjourney #psychology #therapy

In this episode, I reflect on what healing has taught me about myself, my nervous system, and the environments I need in this season of my life.I used to believe that discomfort meant something was wrong with other people or with me. I would assign blame, attach meaning, or try to change myself to fit into spaces that did not support my peace. Now, I understand discomfort as information.Healing taught me that the world will not recalibrate itself to support my nervous system. That responsibility belongs to me. Instead of reacting, lashing out, or abandoning myself, I am learning how to stay present, check in, and regulate in real time.In this episode, I talk about: • The difference between the old me and the healed me • How I stopped pathologizing people when I felt uncomfortable • Learning to allow people to be who they are without casting them away • Honoring my needs without forcing myself to meet everyone else’s • Why calm and steady environments are essential for my mental health • How I recalibrate without guilt or shame • Redefining luxury as time and peaceThis season of my life is about learning who I am and what I need to stay mentally well. Not by controlling others. Not by abandoning myself. But by listening, honoring, and staying grounded.If this resonates with you, you are not alone.⸻Disclaimer: I am not a therapist or licensed mental health professional. I am sharing my personal experiences and reflections. If you are struggling with your mental health, please consider seeking support from a licensed therapist or qualified mental health professional.#psychology #emotionalwithdrawal # mentalhealth