Kinfolk

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  • 29. No Need to Prove Yourself

    There’s no need to prove yourself…to anyone. Ever. It doesn't make you more or less valuable.


    Because you inherently have value, and once you learn how to respect that, you won’t let anyone else devalue what you know is worthy of respect, love, and consideration.

    This episode is about just that. In this episode, Romika shares: 


    • How to explore our formative beliefs about our worth and inherent value
    • Why you need to stop trying to manage other peoples’ responses to you
    • Where beliefs come from
    • How to clarify your boundaries and communicate them to others and to yourself 
    • Communicating your clear boundaries just one time
    • and more!


    If you have been enjoying the podcast, please leave a review and 5 stars!


    You can also follow at: withinwarmwalls.com on Instagram and Tiktok.



    48 min
  • 28. Unhappy to Help Others

    This is the 4th part of our Rebellion series, and it's all about why you may feel unhappy to help others.

    If you’ve ever felt unhappy to help someone, it’s probably because you haven’t waited until these 3 things happen first before you offer your assistance.

    If you feel like when you try to help others they transfer their failures onto you, or you are met with resistance, or they tend to ask for help for an indefinite amount of time - this episode is for you.

    In this episode, Romika shares the three things she waits for before providing her help: 

    • ​How to wait for others to ask for help
    • ​How to wait until others can clarify the help they need
    • ​How to wait until others no longer have the expectation of perfection


    Romika believes that if you choose to wait for these three things to happen before offering your assistance, you’ll find yourself way happier to help more people.

    40 min
  • 27. Existing With Fear

    This is the 3rd part of our Rebellion Series!

    This episode is all about fear. Romika shares that she does not believe it is possible to live without fear, but we can all learn how to coexist with it as an every day part of our lives without giving it the power to make our decisions.


    Fear informs you, it doesn't have the power to decide your next step. You do.


    In this episode, you will hear:

    • what fear is, and why it is important
    • why we have allowed fear to inform our decisions in the past and present
    • how to align your decisions to your values, not your fears
    • Learn a practice that will help you catastrophize the worst case scenario well
    • when to zoom out vs. zoom in
    • and more!


      If any episodes have been helpful, please leave a 5 star rating so that more people who need to hear these episodes can!


      Follow along on Instagram, Facebook and Tiktok @withinwarmwalls or withinwarmwalls.com.

    42 min
  • 26: Surviving Survivor's Guilt

    This episode is heavy. This is part 2 of the Rebellion Series, and Romika goes into detail about her struggles with processing through her own survivor’s guilt in hopes to help you process through your own. 

    This is an important conversation because if guilt is left unresolved and unprocessed in a healthy way, guilt is the fastest track to shame, and you are bound to repeat the cycles you were desperate to heal (or rebel) from when you choose to operate out of shame. 

    This episode discusses:

      • How to understand survivor's guilt 
      • Why guilt is helpful and important to feel 
      • How to identify your own values and operate from them
      • How to label accurately

    If you've been enjoying the podcast, please leave a 5 star rating, and drop a comment sharing why you like to listen to it, and how its helped you!

    Follow for more on Instagram and Tiktok: @withinwarmwalls

    54 min
  • 25. Becoming a Tactical Negotiator

    This is the very first part of our Rebellion Series! This is the first series ever shared on this podcast, and it’s going to be specific, tactical and practical.


    The first part is all about learning how to be an effective negotiator. Romika shares the fundamental principles that she has learned after being trained as a corporate negotiator in her insurance role.


    What you will realize quickly having gone through trauma is:

    1, You are already skilled in this - Romika is just sharing the language and the framework to do it more effectively.

    And 2, Everything in life is a negotiation. Whether you are negotiating your salary, terms of a relationship, navigating conflict, buying a car, or trying to get a toddler to eat their food - you negotiate all day.

    This episode shares the principles of a negotiation, what being honest in a negotiation looks like, the difference between emotional empathy vs. tactical empathy, the power of walking away and being silent, how to say no, and more.


    Follow along @withinwarmwalls or on the blog at: withinwarmwalls.com

    38 min
  • 24. Becoming Less Desperate

    We’ve all felt desperate. And when you've lived through trauma, there's a reason why you can or have chosen to show up that way, so let's talk about it.


    In this episode, we will discuss where desperation is rooted, how it shows up, and how we can take the next step to heal.

    This episode discusses:

    • why we make decisions out of desperation
    • how to get present
    • what it looks like to show up from a place of security and confidence
    • Identifying the right context to pursue dreams
    • Learning how to complain less about the things we asked for


    If you've been enjoying the podcast, please leave a 5 star rating, and drop a comment sharing why you like to listen to it, and how its helped you!

    Follow for more on Instagram and Tiktok: @withinwarmwalls

    37 min
  • 23. The Balance Between Contentment and Complacency

    It is so hard to know when you're living in contentment or choosing complacency. It's a fine line and a hard balance, and honestly, this episode might not give you the definite answer you're seeking. However, it will help you take the first step.

    In this episode, Romika shares the backstory of why this is even a topic of discussion, and her approach to identifying how to know if she needs to seek out contentment, or make room for more.

    This episode highlights:

    • How to manage what you already have
    • How to build out a mirror of support
    • Making room for a dream or growth


    Please rate the podcast if you've been enjoying, and let Romika know in the comments, or send her a DM!

    @withinwarmwalls on Instagram and Tiktok

    withinwarmwalls.com

    33 min
  • 22. Living Happily Single

    This episode is all about how to live and navigate through life happily single. It shouldn't come as a surprise to you at this point, that it is a deliberate and intentional pursuit to live your life this way.

    Romika shares all of her best tips as someone who is doing the same, right alongside you.


    In this episode, you will hear about:

    • Balancing finances
    • How to take care of yourself well
    • Initiating physical touch
    • Diversifying the backgrounds in your support group
    • Decentering your relationship status


    It goes a long way to rate the podcast if you've been enjoying it!


    Please rate the podcast by giving it a star rating if you've been enjoying it or found anything helpful - it goes such a long way to helping the podcast find those who also need and want to listen with us!

    Follow along at:

    Instagram - @withinwarmwalls

    withinwarmwalls.com

    1 hr 2 min
  • 21. The Pursuit of Happiness

    You'll want to listen to this episode if there's any question in your mind on whether or not happiness is possible for your life. Spoiler: the answer is the loudest, most obnoxious and enthusiastic, "yes!"

    ...and to be honest with you, it's probably a lot less difficult than you think it is to pursue true happiness. The catch is: the process is a little daunting.

    But that's exactly what this episode is about. In this episode, Romika gives you some of the easiest practicals that you'll need to pursue happiness, no matter where you're currently at in life.

    This episode dives into:

    • the difference between happiness and joy
    • how to get in alignment
    • how to simplify the pursuit of happiness
    • the difference between peace making and peace keeping
    • how to disrupt the monotony of life
    • and more!


      Please rate the podcast by giving it a star rating if you've been enjoying it or found anything helpful - it goes such a long way to helping the podcast find those who also need and want to listen with us!


      Follow along at:

      Instagram - @withinwarmwalls

      withinwarmwalls.com



      33 min
    • 20. Sustainable Self-Care

      In this episode, Romika dives into the true meaning of self-care, breaking down the difference between simple pampering and the deeper, more transformative work of nurturing your mind, body, and soul. She explores her perspective on sustainable self-care.

      This episode highlights:

      Romika shares how she began this journey of self-care

      • Pampering vs. True Self-Care: on why self-care isn’t just about indulging in temporary pleasures, and what true, sustainable self-care involves.
      • Episode 7: How to Become Yourself was referenced in this episode
      • Learning how to do what you need to do now
      • Investing in a life that will outlive you
      • and, sharing how to give up your old self
      • If you've been enjoying this podcast, please take a second to rate and review the podcast! Your feedback helps more people find the show and join in on the conversation. Plus, it helps Romika to continue to creating content you love.

        Follow Romika on Instagram @wtihinwarmwalls or visit withinwarmwalls.com for more content!

        47 min

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      This is our space where I share everything I know about how to outlive and heal from childhood trauma. I truly believe it comes down to two concepts: learning how to love in a healthy way, and…