Kinfolk

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  • 19. Before You Quit, Consider This

    In this episode, Romika believes she can convince you not to quit on your goals in under an hour...

    This episode is 58 minutes and 12 seconds and it is packed full of so many practical steps to help you understand how to make your goals more manageable, the reasons you couldn't be successful in the past, and what needs to change or be altered in order for you to do what you always sought out to do.


    This episode includes practicals and insights on:

    • How to know when to move on from a goal or dream
    • Understanding the difference between personality types and how you're wired
    • The difference between movement vs. action
    • How to quiet noise
    • How to get advice
    • Leveraging resources
    • Obsession
    • a scarcity mindset
    • Eliminating distractions
    • Changing your environment
    • The difference between comfort vs. character
    • Making your goals more achievable
    • When and how to form a plan

    • Please rate and leave a review the podcast, as this helps so much to get this podcast out there to more Kinfolk!


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      59 min
    • 18. Responsibility Displacement: When Helping Hurts

      In this episode, Romika shares why it is so hard to allow others to be responsible. She challenges you to give responsibly for others' loads back to them, and shares why it is so important to only carry burdens.


      In this episode, you will hear:

      • The definition of responsibility displacement
      • The difference between a "load" and a "burden
      • When helping hurts - what you need to do
      • The "Let them" Theory
      • Appropriately responding to others

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        38 min
      • 17. Refusing to be a People-Pleaser

        The reason most of have chosen to show up as a people-pleasers is because most of us don't see it as a problem, or haven't considered that we made this decision as a response to our trauma.

        In this episode, Romika shares exactly why people-pleasing is a problem, and how to reflect on the time in your life when you decided to show up this way, and practicals to show up differently.

        This episode includes:

        • A reference to the book "Atomic Habits" by James Clear
        • highlights previous episodes, "The Four Principles to Establishing Healthy Boundaries (Episode 2) and "How to stay out of Trauma (Episode 14).
        • Several mindset shifts to help process why you people-please and how to overcome it

        • Please do leave a review, comment, like and share this podcast so that those that need to hear can come heal too! You can also follow along on social media, including

          Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠@kinfolk_podcast⁠⁠⁠

          43 min
        • 16. Becoming Less Awkward

          We're all awkward. It just that some of us just may be a little more awkward than others...and that's okay!

          This episode is for my awkward people who are ready to become more tactful in building new relationships, or going deeper with relationships that may be at a shallow standstill.

          In this episode, Romika discusses:

          • How to embrace discomfort
          • How to have more interesting conversations
          • and drafting a signature question
          • She references the book, "Year of Yes" by Shonda Rhimes. Linked here for you.

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            23 min
          • 15. Living an Unbothered Life

            Sometimes it can feel like no matter how hard you try, things just always seem to bother you. If that sounds like you - this episode is the perfect place to start.

            In this episode, Romika shares 3 key areas that might be preventing you from living your best, unbothered life.

            This episode includes practicals on how to:

            • Identify weak points in your accessibility
            • work towards acceptance instead of resentment/indifference
            • Narrow down a more unbothered network
            • Please do leave a review, comment, like and share this podcast so that those that need to hear can come heal too! You can also follow along on social media, including

              Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠@kinfolk_podcast⁠⁠⁠

              28 min
            • 14. How to stay out of Trauma

              The way you stay free requires a completely different approach than the strategy you used to get free.

              In this episode, Romika shares a lot about Game Theory - the science of strategy - so that you can learn how to strategize ways to win at life, instead of just settling to play the game not to lose.

              This episode includes:

              • Examples of what it looks like to play not to lose
              • 12 thought pattern examples from a worksheet sent to Romika by her therapist from one of their sessions
              • 4 practicals on how to enforce a strategy that helps you play to win
              • Please do leave a review, comment, like and share this podcast so that those that need to hear can come heal too! You can also follow along on social media, including

                Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠@kinfolk_podcast⁠⁠⁠

                38 min
              • 13. Maintaining Old Friendships

                It may seem as though there is a completely different approach needed when it comes to maintaining old friendships (as compared to new friendships), but the truth is: many of the fundamentals are the same!

                In this episode, Romika shares easy to apply practicals to help strengthen, deepen and maintain the bonds in your older friendships.

                • Define the Relationship (DTR)
                • Make new memories
                • Focus/Prioritize the connection, not the issue
                • Don't assume (good or bad) - ask

                • Please do leave a review, comment, like and share this podcast so that those that need to hear can come heal too! You can also follow along on social media, including

                  Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠@kinfolk_podcast⁠⁠⁠


                    32 min
                  • 12. The Paralysis of Perfectionism (and how to heal)

                    Perfectionism is the silent filter that curates your perspective on life - and many times, it's filtering your life, unbeknownst to you.

                    In this episode, Romika wants to help you self-identify the different types of perfectionism. Most perfectionists fall in and out of these 3 categories: the self-oriented perfectionist, the other-oriented perfectionist, and the socially-oriented perfectionist.

                    In short, there are 3 key principles:

                    1. Learning that everything you do, doesn't need to be the best you've ever done
                    2. Does it have to be perfect, or is it okay that it's done?
                    3. Inventory and Delegate
                    4. Please do leave a review, comment, like and share this podcast so that those that need to hear can come heal too! You can also follow along on social media, including

                      Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠@kinfolk_podcast⁠⁠⁠

                      43 min
                    5. 11. Scarcity Mindset Recovery

                      It's hard to talk about life without also addressing your limiting beliefs...we all have them, the hope is that we'll all become more aware of the ones that are influencing our decisions in a negative way.

                      If unchecked, limiting beliefs take on a scarcity mindset. In this episode, Romika takes a deep dive into some of the groundwork that will hopefully help you begin to heal your scarcity mindset by targeting your limiting beliefs first.

                      In short, it comes down to 3 main areas:

                      1. Your narrative
                      2. Your influenced decisions, and lastly,
                      3. Stretching your capacity to give more
                      4. Please do leave a review, comment, like and share this podcast so that those that need to hear can come heal too! You can also follow along on social media, including

                        Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠@kinfolk_podcast⁠⁠⁠

                        38 min
                      5. 10. The Courage to be Disliked

                        The courage to be disliked is all about risking rejection. If you are anything like Romika, everything in you will tempt you to skip over this episode, but please stick it out.

                        It'll be worth it if you're a recovering people pleaser who wants to show up more genuinely in life and relationships.

                        • 07:07 - Introducing "constraints"
                        • 20:28 - You're a people pleaser
                        • 26:34 - You don't always need to relate to others
                        • 32:55 - Let them
                        • The book referenced is called, The Courage to be Disliked by  ⁠Ichiro Kishimi⁠ and ⁠Fumitake Koga⁠ 


                          Please do leave a review, comment, like and share this podcast so that more people can listen and heal too! You can also follow along on social media, including: Instagram and Facebook!

                          Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠@kinfolk_podcast⁠⁠⁠


                          37 min

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                        This is our space where I share everything I know about how to outlive and heal from childhood trauma. I truly believe it comes down to two concepts: learning how to love in a healthy way, and…