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This week we are joined by Molly Moore as we talk about this weeks article written by Kayla Lords.

She is a blogger, a photographer, a published author, public speaker, and the operations director for Eroticon. She also living in a 24/7 D/s relationship with her partner DomSigns. She speaks openly about their relationship and has even been on Channel 4 to talk about how it works for them.

We have been wanting to get Molly on the show for some time and this seemed like the perfect opportunity to do it.

There is a lot of fantasy around what that sort of relationship must be like, but the reality is something very different. Like all realtionships it takes a lot of work to understand the other person in the relationship before you can even start to dive deep into the Domination and submission that both sides want.

Molly talks about how it works for her. What she wants and how they get to something that works for the both of them. She also shares her thoughts on what it takes to make this sort of relationship work and gives some tips on things you can do to make it work, and things you should avoid.

A lot of people in these sorts of relationships say they feel a very deep connection with their partner because opening up about how these things make you feel means you have to share a lot about who you are and what you want. But like all things, it takes work.

Thank you too Molly Moore for coming onto the show this week. Make sure you check out Eroticon and come to this amazing event 4th - 5th March. We will be there, and we are really looking forward to it.

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This week we are talking about relationship anarachy, what it means and what it is. This is based on the blog postRelationship Anarchy: A different approach by Screw Taboo

I spoke to a couple of other podcasters this week, they are great and worth talking to.

The Pageist has a podcast on BDSM and Sex-positive book reviews. This week she reviewed our website andpodcast (always a little nerve wrecking). We are actually going to be on her show very soon. Make sure you check her out, even if you are not that interested in erotica. She covers a lot of non-fiction and a fair amount about herself, and is usually very funny.

Check out The Pageist podcast feed

Kinky Discussions is much more focused on BDSM and the personal experiences of the hosts DC Bear and Tiger Stripes. They have a lot of fun talking about the topic very openly and honestly. Nothing is out of bounds but it is fun and approachable.

We had a great chat about education in the BDSM community and where it can be improved.

Check out their show or catch them on twitter.

A bit of a strange concept, but one that is worth understanding. Read the article (more then once) and dig into how you feel about it.

Basically it is all about approaching your relationships from the perspective that you can decide how you want them to be. There doesn't have to be a primary relationship is you don't want one to be, just as your other relationships (sexual or not) can also be very important to you.

You love isn't deminished by loving more than one person.

The basic concept comes from a manifest put out by Andy Nordgren in 2006.

It says:

Love is abundant, and every relationship is unique

Love and respect instead of entitlement

Find your core set of relationship values

Heterosexism is rampant and out there, but don't let fear lead you

Build for the lovely unexpected

Fake it til' you make it

Trust is better

Change through communication

Customize your commitments

If you don't know much about Star Wars Rebels then stop now as this is something of a spoiler. But is it right to bring actors back from the dead to star in films?

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We hope you have had a lovely Christmas and New Year and are all ready for the year ahead. We have started the new year with more earth quakes in New Zealand with another large quake possible.

Something we didn't think about was keeping track of how many things we made this year. A shame would have been fun to tell everyone.

As of the 1st of January your internet service provided is obliged to keep a record of every website you visit. As we have previously talked about the UK government can now do this without any reason to suspect you of anything and will keep the records for a year.

Anyway...

This week we are talking about the article written for us by Molly Moore onWhat's new in 2017.

If you have never done it before why not checkout a fetish market likeBirmingham Bizarre Bazaar or London Alternative Market.

If you are worried there is a great British trick to help you cope. Go and have a cup of tea. Nothing bad can happen while you are having a tea.

There are plenty of other great events you can check out that aren't as scary as going to a full on play event. From Smut UK and their events for erotic writers to the fantastic classes taking place at the Sh Womanstore.

If you are at all worried about going to a sex shop then this is the one to go to, it is only for women (though men can get in accompanied). They are super nice and there to help, or just happy to leave you too it.

Not talking about play events, there are plenty of those happening all the time. But there are also some much more intelectual events you can check out.

Eroticon - for erotic authors and sex bloggers to get together and talk about blogging, making friends, and learning new skills.

ETO - This is the adult trade show that happens every year. This isn't for the public but if you are involved in the industry it is the place to go to see what is new.

Woodhull Sexual Freedom Summit - Another well established event for erotic writers and sex bloggers, this time in the US.

There is some very different toys out there that are very different.

Please note when we recorded this Carrie Fisher was still alive, she died later that day. Our thoughts are with her family.

This week we are talking about New Years resolutions and the articlewritten for us by Rebecca from A Couple of Kinks.

In the news this week the European Court of Justice stepped in on the Snoopers Charter (RIPA). It turns out councils have been using the powers to spy on people for leaving their bins out, or walking their dogs. Not for counter terrorism which is what is supposed to be for.

I think it is fair to say that 2016 has not been the best of years for so many reasons. While every year has it's problems this one seems to be some what special in terms of crappy things happening.

• David Bowie
• Gene Wilder
• Alan Rickman
• George Michael
• Prince
• finally now Carried Fished and Liz Smith

That seems to be an especially sad list because these are all people we have both grown up with, they have all contributed to varying extents to our lives.

It has been an especially sad year for politics with some really terrible situations happening.

• Donald Trump elected
• Brexit
• Digital Economies Bill

• Orlando shooting
• Bombings in Berlin and Brussles
• The garbage truck incident in Paris.
• and so many more
• Zika, Ebola
• Earthquakes in New Zealand, Italy
• Gravity Falls ended

The end of the year is a chance to look at the year and think about the coming year. You can decide if you want to change things and the new year can be a good time to do it.

Personally we both think that if you do want to change something about yourself then you should it at any time of the year. It isn't something that you should only do at the end of the year.

You need to find a way to make it work for you. For some the pressure of doing something big can work. But for others that doesn't work at all.

You need to be realistic in what you can do, and putting a huge amount of pressure on yourself to change and do something bit (like going to the gym every day when you haven't been for 6 months) just isn't going to work.

You need to be realistic about what you can achieve and build yourself up.

You are awesome, this year make a promise to yourself to love yourself just a little bit more. For some it can be very hard, but learning to love who you are can change your life.

Merry Christmas! This week we are talking about Kink at Christmas based on this weeks blog post written for us by Victoria Blisse.

I don't know if it is a English thing but do you find there is a black edge to Christmas. While we both love the giving side of Christmas here in the UK I have always thought there is a darker side to the holiday. Watching a good horror film is something that has to be done during the season.

Turns out this might be a UK thing because it isn't the way things are done in New Zealand. Probably largely because Christmas happens in the middle of summer down there.

Something special seems to happen in London during the Christmas season, it just seems to be what London was made for.

Perhaps it is a sign of the times but another alternative market is closing. For anyone who doesn't know Alt Burlesque is an event that happens once a month up and down the country where all manner of alternative companies come to show their products. It is a real shame because they have been running for 8 years.

Along with that there are shows throughout the day from pole dancing to burlesque. When we were there we saw the amazing Tickerty Boo doing two of her routines and they were stunning. She has a few of them up on YouTube if you are interested.

It also means you won't be able to see companies like Sequin Showstoppers quite so easily any more.

If you do want to see one before it is gone the very last one will be happening in Manchester in January.

Being kinky at Christmas isn't always easy, there is so much to get done that it can be do hard to find the time. But if you are of that persuasion it is part of who you are, so while you don't want the family to see it you still want to have fun.

You are not going to break Christmas if you don't get every single thing done. You are allowed to have fun as well. You are allowed to have some time for yourself at Christmas.

Take a bit of a break this Christmas. Have a good time, enjoy your family, but take a little time for you as well.

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This week we are talking about the wonderful article on how socks are sexy written for us by Molly Moore with the delightful Emmeline Peaches.

Emmeline Peaches is a sex toy reviewer and blogger here in the UK, she writes daily on her blogemmelinepeachesreviews.com or you can find her on twitter.

Not only does she blog but she was also on Channel 4 this year talking about sex toys and got to take a tour around the Bondara factory.

We would just like to say a huge thank you to Emmeline for coming on the show. We are big fans so having her on was a total treat.

Sorry about the audio quality. To be able to record this we had to take a different approach from normal. While it has come out OK there is more work to do.

Well the bill was passed into law and now we have a surveillance state like no other. Not only will our government now be able to track every website you visit (regardless of whether they think you have done something or not).

But now they have even more powers to intercept phone calls, email, text messages, instant messages, pretty much anything.

But more importantly they can hack your devices (computers, phones, routers, printers). This requires oversight but not much.

But something that was snuck into the bill was a section on how they can force companies to open or break their encryptions mechanisms to give the government access to the information they keep.

This is something even the USA hasn't been able to ask for, and something Iran and China can only dream about.

Is it practical, well that is another discussion but the fact is it has been made into law and that is a bad step.

There is a great article by Cory Doctorow in the Guardian on just how insidious it is.

There was a study done into the ability for couples to archive orgasm. Something that was found was when they were wearing socks their ability to reach orgasm went from 50% to 80%

We were very lucky that Emmeline agreed to do a little experiment.

She is normally a sock wearer when she is in bed so to try out this idea she agreed to go sockless for a week to see what would happen.

It turns out there is a lot more to socks than any of us thought there could be. From them looking sexy to being used as a toy for the BDSMers.

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This week we are talking about the article created for use by Molly Moore on 12 gifts for Christmas. This is going to help you decide what you can get someone special this Christmas.

In case you missed it the Top 100 Sex Bloggers list came out (which we happened to sponsor) and it is well worth checking out.

Want to give a special shout out to A Couple of Kinks who we have done some work with, they are a lovely couple and have anamazing blog. Well worth checking out.

Molly has also written a great post on how she put the list together. Who helped out. And how the scoring was actually done. That alone is a good read becuase it shows how much work and effort goes into something like this.

It was amazing how close the scoring was between the top 10, and it was especially close between the top 3.

It is hard to know what to get someone at Christmas, especially if you want to get them something sexy. This list has a great selection of different ideas that are a little out of the norm but well worth looking at.

There is a huge range of choices on the list, some worth really thinking about are:

• Ceramic Pleasures - These are hand made custom painted dildos made from ceramic.
• Idee Du Desir - Hand made wooden toys
• Outlandish Creations - The most beautiful tea sets defiled with the most outragious words.. delightful.
• Ruby Glow - Is a very different take on the classic vibrator designed by someone we happen to know Tabitha Rayne.
• Nippleicious - Very pretty jewlery you wear on your nipples. Totally non-invasive and delightful.
• Eroticon - A fantastic two day conference for erotic authors and bloggers. This has been so much fun the last couple of years and we are looking forward to being at the next one.

There are even more on the list, so go check it out.

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This week we are talking about 9 sexy reads you should curl up with this winter. Written for us by Molly Moore. You can check out the article and see the fully list of books she recommends you check out.

This week the Digital Economies Bill was passed into law here int he UK and it is one of the most disturbing pieces of legislation every to come onto the books here in the UK.

Note at the time of recording it hadn't yet been signed into law, now it has.

It grants the government unpressidented powers to spy on innocent UK citizens. To see a list of every website they visit, hack their computers and phones, break into encryptions, block access to any site, and bring in age verification checks for porn sites.

All in the name of fighting terrorism and protecting the children.

"Those who would give up essential Liberty, to purchase a little temporary Safety, deserve neither Liberty nor Safety." - Benjamin Franklin

It sets up a state of affairs China, Russia, or Iran would be very happy with and it is amazing it has managed to slip passed us all with bearly an eye brow raised. Thanks to things like Brexit and Trump we have taken our eye off the ball.

Check out posts written by Girl on the Net and Pandora Blake to see what this really means.

Checkout the post for a full list of all the sexy books recommended by Molly. There are some great authors in there. As well as some classic books.

One exception we would add if you want something different to read but want some erotica as well is Anaïs Nin. Her subversive stories will leave you with a lot to think about.

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This week we are talking abou the article created for us by Layla calledA Long Explanation from a Lesbian with a Boyfriend. This is a great article by Layla.

This last week there has been a series of huge earthquakes in New Zealand (Pixie's homepand). Fortunuately only a few people have died. But that hasn't stopped the huge devestation that has affects both islannds.

Our thoughts are with you all, hope it is all OK for you.

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This week we are talking about the article created for us by Molly Moore all about Long Distance Relationships.

But before that

It has to be talked about, it is a significant turning point in American history. It is something we honestly didn't think would happen. While we both find it hard to understand there have been a number of programs exploring who voted for Trump. While it is easy to dismiss them when you listen to why they have voted the way they have I can understand it.

What has happened here with Brexit isn't so far away from what has happened in the US. People have become sick of the established politicians and the lies they say to keep their jobs. They want something different and in the US Trump has presented that option.

It is a unique time in world history, it will be interesting to see what happens.

The most worrying part for me isn't the things he might do during his presidency isn't he will do during his time in office. It is the lasting effect he will have on the country through who he puts onto the supreme court. Those will be people who make decisions for the country for 30 years. The wrong person there can reverse some of the progressive decisions the US has made in the last few years.

We wanted Molly to write this one because Molly speaks from experience. Molly was moderating a forum. She started a friendship and that slowly turned into a relationship with Michael being in the US. Now they are happily living together here in the UK.

They are hard work, there is no doubt. But it is entirely possible to get to know someone and fall in love and find a way to make it work.

The most important take away for us was if you do have a LDR. When you do finally get the chance to meet you need to stay focused on enjoying the time you have. You mustn't focus on how short the time is.

Enjoy the time you get to spend with them, and plan to spend more time with them.

Giving little gestures that show you are thinking of the other person go a long way. Sending a hand written letter shows much more care and attention than any email ever could.