In this episode of Kink Friendly, Mistress Alisa speaks with the vivacious duo from the Adult Buddy Finders podcast: Kerstin and Greenberry. Settle in for one heck of a ride Ladies and goodboys. Kerstin and Greenberry are going to give us the tea on what it’s like finding an adult buddy in 2023!

There is so much conversation going around in the BDSM community surrounding the topic of ‘consent.’ Individuals who are in the community are encouraged to discuss consent before engaging in certain types of play so that the Domme and the submissive can be on the same page. Personally, I have never had a conversation with any of my subs about consent. Listen to today’s episode to find out why.

Men usually regard their horniness as if it were some kind of disease that needed to be cured. Men could do themselves a huge favor if they took the time to understand the different types of horniness that they experience. It would also benefit women to understand the different types of horniness that men tend to experience. Let’s talk about it!

I have noticed that women become increasingly demanding towards their guy when they, themselves, are not engaging with their guy in a sexually satisfying way. In other words, she treats his d*ck like it has the plague – she doesn’t want to be anywhere near it. She treats it like it is diseased and worthless. HOWEVER – she doesn’t want her guy to take it to anyone else to be pleasured. She doesn’t want him to even jerk off. This is unfair; it is cruel and unusual treatment. Let’s talk, ladies!

Every single time that I hear such a statement from a client, I address it. Immediately. First of all, true male submission is a choice, not a fetish. Second of all, a woman cannot take control of a man. She presents herself as Dominant and a man chooses to offer his submission. To put the onus on the woman is nothing more than a sexual game that men play. A man who actively submits doesn’t tell the woman what to do, when and where to do it, and how to do it. He submits. Period.

Hear ye, hear ye! The International Town Hall Meeting of Women will now commence…Okay, that is a stupid name and it is not a real thing. However, ladies, we need to talk. Maybe one of these days a conversation of this nature can be a panel discussion, but for now I’m just going to open my microphone and talk about a couple of things that are on my mind when it comes to women and hypocrisy. Let’s do this!

Ladies, we have all witnessed it. The guy chases you all over the world to ”get some.” Then, as soon as he gets what he was so desperate and thirsty for, he changes on you. He is no longer sweet or attentive. He becomes distant and withdrawn. What is that all about? Well, I’m glad that you asked. Let’s talk about it!

Whenever there are conversations about “real men,” people tend to be superficial in their descriptions of who real men are and of what they do. The truth is that we need to talk about what being a MAN is, and what being a MAN looks like. You’re either a man, or you aren’t. You’re either a man, or you’re a hurt little boy who is too afraid to face himself and to heal. Let’s talk about it, guys.

Valentine’s Day is traditionally viewed as a day for women to feel loved and adored, and put up on a pedestal. However, in today’s episode of Kink Friendly, Mistress Alisa explores the day of lovers from both the male and female perspective. Shifting your perception about Valentine’s Day can make a big difference in the amount of magic that you and your loved one create on this day.

Men use their fantasies to get off. They get bored with those fantasies and tweak them. They blame women for not being good enough, and they keep changing out the parts of the fantasies that no longer satisfy them. They continue this process until there is nothing left but emptiness and a host of regrets. A woman who is caught up in this cycle will also find herself lost. She can quickly find herself just as empty and just as hollow as the men that she allows to use her. Let’s talk about it!