Kintsugi Life

It is seductive to be fixated on the results we want to see in our lives, or an end-state that represents where we aspire to get to. In reality, focusing on the prize can divert our attentions and lower our motivation to keep on pushing towards it. Instead, we'd be far better placed to commit our attention and efforts to the process, so that we enjoy the journey as well as the destination.

In this episode, I share a story about my career and how it has emerged, that taught me the need to love each day and every step towards the prize. You can also read an article I wrote on this topic at http://bit.ly/2MVdNXj

If you have any comments or feedback on this episode you can reach out by email on [email protected]

From time to time we all experience emotional reactions when assessing our progress in life. That might come when we're looking at progress with a project or as we work through a time of challenge. It may come when we assess our relationships or look at where we are in life. It seems easier to me to default to a mindset of despondency and failure rather than gratitude and contentedness. Why is that?

In this episode, I share my thoughts on how we can tackle this response and what I believe causes it. You can also read an article I wrote on this topic at http://bit.ly/2MoPGkE

If you have any comments or feedback on this episode you can reach out by email on [email protected]

Toxic and narcissistic relationships (whether romantic or otherwise) have the power to ruin our lives if we let them. And yet, escaping from them even when we can see we're stuck in them can be one of the hardest things to accomplish.

In this episode, I share my experiences of living in a toxic relationship and the struggles that I experienced before recognising that I had to escape from it. You can also read an article I wrote on this topic at http://bit.ly/32oKMK9

If you have any comments or feedback on this episode you can reach out by email on [email protected]

As much as any of us tries to remain focused on the present, we get drawn into reminiscences over the past and fixated on the future, hoping it'll bring happiness and fulfilment. The past can be problematic as we cling to past difficulties and failures, and replay the events through our mind, time and time again.

In this episode, I talk about the steps we can take to start to loosen the hold that the past has over us. You can also read an article I wrote on this topic at http://bit.ly/2Vt4cL5

If you have any comments or feedback on this episode you can reach out by email on [email protected]

In this episode, I share my thoughts on the choices we have when faced with adversity. No matter the issue we're facing, the options are likely to be the same.

I'll outline what these are and how I think we can get distracted by over-analysis of what got us here, rather than adopting the appropriate tactics for getting through it. I'll describe some examples of how these can be applied too.

I wrote an article on this subject which you can also read at: http://bit.ly/2oOIG73

If you have any comments or feedback on this episode you can reach out by email on [email protected]

In this episode, I share how a disagreement with my teenage daughter caused me to reflect on how we learn best, through having failed at something or having been taught the right ways of doing so.

Learning and growth come from multiple sources but often, the people we learn from will identify themselves as experts, or as those who've learned through experience. Through diverse examples I consider how we can learn personally from both experience and those who have knowledge to share.

I wrote an article on this subject which you can also read at: http://bit.ly/2n6CIOu

If you have any comments or feedback on this episode you can reach out by email on [email protected]

In this episode, I discuss what I believe is the best relationship I can offer to those who are seeking relationships in their life, and who wish to learn from their past-breakups; We must be true to ourselves and who we are.

I discuss how I went through the process of a divorce, then dating again, being engaged and the subsequent failure of that relationship to eventually go on to meet my second wife. The process is one of learning from the failures as well as refining ideas of what works.

I wrote an article on this subject which you can also read at: http://bit.ly/2lc0lEE

If you have any comments or feedback on this episode you can reach out by email on [email protected]

Whether we like it or not, life is inherently risky and there are dangers associated with everything we do (and also with doing nothing!)

In this episode, I share some recent experiences in the lives of my family that have demonstrated the risk that exists all around us. I try present the balanced case for looking at each scenario as being a choice between various risks and rewards that need to be considered.

You can read an article that I wrote on this topic at http://bit.ly/2mlaDST

If you have any comments or feedback on this episode you can reach out by email on [email protected]

We can get too fixated at times with grand goals as being the route to happiness and contentment in our lives. 

In this episode, I share a story of how an encounter in my own life, taught me that certainty, or an ability to better handle chaos means more to me than the achievement of success (by any definition).

You can read an article that I wrote on this topic at http://bit.ly/2mkcmb1

If you have any comments or feedback on this episode you can reach out by email on [email protected]

We're bombarded with messages online, on social media and from those around us that occasionally drive us to aspire for more in life, to stretch and grow, and to seek out feeling discomfort in the name of personal development.

In this episode, I share my thoughts on why I think we might all feel better at times in life if we were to be contented more with where we are and what we have.

You can read a recent article I wrote on this very subject at http://bit.ly/2m5kI68

If you have any comments or feedback on this episode you can reach out by email on [email protected]