Are you so consumed with rescuing this person that your putting your own Recovery on hold or at risk?” Imbalanced relationships are when one person does all the supporting and that doesn’t help either person, even the one receiving all the help! If you want to improve poor manners, expand creative outlets or give genuine support that is fair. If you want them to change temperament type, character flaws or religious beliefs, you’re fighting a losing battle. Get ready for the Crash-and Burn! This kind of relationship will lead to feelings of resentment, dependency, and poor self-esteem. People can change, but even then, change can take years and require the help of professionals.