This week on Ladies in PJs we’re answering a listener question from Abi:

How do you stop small conflicts in community from becoming big ones?

We share honest reflections from our own experience the times we’ve avoided, people-pleased, reacted too quickly, or let resentment quietly build and what we’ve learned along the way.

We explore:
• Holding others in compassion (without excusing behaviour)
• Addressing issues calmly and directly
• Setting boundaries that feel grounded and clear
• Preventing escalation before it gathers momentum

It’s a thoughtful, practical conversation about navigating community, relationships, and those tricky “little” moments that can so easily grow arms and legs.

Listener question episode. Real talk. No perfection required.

Next week: Confession and what that might mean for personal growth

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Episode 2: Community That Grows , New Wineskins & Living Faith

In part two, the conversation deepens.

Building on our reflections around safety and belonging, Tre introduces a powerful metaphor wineskins drawn from the idea that new wine needs new wineskins in order to grow and expand.

We explore communities as living systems: what happens when they stay flexible, open, and responsive and what happens when they become rigid and resistant to change.

Whether religious or secular, we ask whether communities allow space for growth, questioning, and becoming, or whether they ask people to shrink to fit.

This episode is an invitation to re-imagine community as something that evolves with us, rather than confines us.

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Episode 1: Community Safety, Belonging & the Tension In Between

Community is something we’re often told we need but what if it also feels complicated?

In this episode of Ladies in PJs, we begin an honest conversation about community, independence, and belonging. Holly reflects on being deeply independent and the discomfort that can arise when communities feel restrictive, misaligned, or no longer safe.

We explore church and faith-based communities, as well as other forms of community, asking important questions: When does belonging become pressure? When does support stop feeling supportive? And how do we recognise communities that are genuinely safe and life-giving?

This episode isn’t about rejecting community it’s about understanding the conditions that make it healthy, nourishing, and sustainable.

We’d love you to listen, reflect, and join the conversation.

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Part Two continues…
In the second part of Tre's spiritual journey, Tre, Holly, and Lee dive deeper into the reality of spiritual journeys not just the peaceful moments, but the messy, uncomfortable, and painful ones too. This is a real and open-hearted conversation that honours the struggle while offering a steady dose of hope.

We’re back and we’re switching things up!
Ladies in PJ’s continues it's new season where Tre trades the co-host mic for the guest chair, sharing her spiritual journey in a raw and meaningful conversation. Holly is joined by the one and only Lee Giles as co-host, bringing insight, warmth, and real talk to the PJ circle.

Life has been realigning for Holly, and we're sitting down to talk about it. In this update episode, we share where we're at, what's shifted, where Tre is finding stretching joy and where this next season of Ladies in JPJ's is headed. Cozy chats, honest updates, and a fresh direction - come catch up with us.

Ladies in PJ’s is back for a brand-new season and this time, the roles are reversed as we continue our conversation . ✨
Holly steps into the guest seat as we take a deep dive into her personal spiritual journey, exploring stories of supernatural intervention, angels, and the big question… is Holly a sinner or not? Co-hosting alongside Tre is one of our all-time favourite guests, the one and only Lee Giles. Expect soul-deep conversation, honesty, and a little holy mischief.

A new season. A new dynamic. The same PJ magic. 💫
Ladies in PJ’s returns with Holly swapping the co-host mic for the guest chair as we explore her own spiritual journey in depth. Co-hosting alongside Tre is the one and only Lee Giles back by popular demand. Get ready for heartfelt stories, spiritual insights, and conversations that go deep.

Holly blurb

We rejoin Andy to talk about the radically inclusive, generous nature of Jesus and how this guides and impacts his work and family life. Where fighting for the badge of true Christianity can lead to moving further away from the real essence of being a Christian... cue his close scrape with an aggressive truck driver.

Why cultivating a community of trust makes all the difference in all of our lives. You can't build resilience on your own.