Lasting Transformation with Alun Parry - The Memory Reconsolidation Podcast

We’ve all experienced an impasse in our therapy and coaching work. The same pattern keeps recurring, the client wants a change but just can’t seem to achieve it, or they want to stop doing something but find it almost impossible to stop.

This is what we call an impasse, and there are three different ways an impasse can be overcome.

Yet many practitioners become too focused on the first one, forgetting that the other two exist.

Yet when we overlook these other two possibilities, we risk adopting a stance that makes us part of the problem, becoming another obstacle to change rather than a facilitator of it.

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Memory Reconsolidation Elite Coaching AcademyFinally understand why transformation happens - so you can achieve it every time https://freshtherapists.com/coaching

Working with me for your own personal developmentWant to work with me to unlock your own bigger life?Find out more at https://alunparry.com

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You offer an intervention that seems like it should land perfectly. It makes sense, it challenges exactly what seems to be keeping the client stuck. And nothing happens.

So what do you do next? Push harder? Try another intervention? Or could the fact that it didn’t work actually be telling you something important?

In this episode, I explore why a “failed” intervention can give you vital new information about what’s really driving the client’s problem - and how that knowledge can power the work forward.Links

Memory Reconsolidation Elite Coaching AcademyFinally understand why transformation happens - so you can achieve it every time https://freshtherapists.com/coaching

Resources for Therapists & CoachesGet free training and resources on memory reconsolidationhttps://freshtherapists.com

Working with me for your own personal developmentWant to work with me to unlock your own bigger life?Find out more at https://alunparry.com

Get the bookHow To Remove Trauma Response: A Memory Reconsolidation Guidebook For Therapists and Coaches by Alun Parry is available in book, ebook and audiobook formats.Get it here

In this episode, I help you navigate sessions where the client wants to go deep but worries that they may get flooded.

How do you, as the practitioner, navigate these two competing issues? You want to help them explore the issues driving their problem. Yet you want to keep them safe as they do so.

I will talk you through The Thermometer Technique. This is the tool that I use in these exact situations.

It helps clients to explore without being triggered. Moreover, the very fact that this framework is in operation provides a legitimate feeling of safety that often lowers activation.

This is something you can quickly learn and apply in your own sessions right away.

This is one of many approaches and skillsets taught within The Memory Reconsolidation Coaching Academy. Click here to join us.

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Memory Reconsolidation Elite Coaching AcademyFinally understand why transformation happens - so you can achieve it every time https://freshtherapists.com/coaching

Resources for Therapists & CoachesGet free training and resources on memory reconsolidationhttps://freshtherapists.com

Working with me for your own personal developmentWant to work with me to unlock your own bigger life?Find out more at https://alunparry.com

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Do you ever have the impulse to talk some sense into your clients? Does your training maybe even encourage it? And doesn’t it feel hard and frustrating and circular too?In this episode, I show you why this approach is hard work, why it gets in the way of transformational outcomes, and what to do instead.

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Memory Reconsolidation Elite Coaching AcademyFinally understand why transformation happens - so you can achieve it every time https://freshtherapists.com/coaching

Resources for Therapists & CoachesGet free training and resources on memory reconsolidationhttps://freshtherapists.comWorking with me for your own personal developmentWant to work with me to unlock your own bigger life?Find out more at https://alunparry.com

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Three things helped me become a transformational practitioner who works in an optimal way.

Surprisingly, only one has to do with my mastery of memory reconsolidation with my clients. And one has nothing to do with memory reconsolidation at all.

All three have benefited my clients enormously. Yet two of them are not about my clients at all. They are about how I took account of me.

If you want to know the truth behind showing up present, potent, and effective, session after session, this one’s for you.

If you’d like to master this work with me, the Memory Reconsolidation Elite Coaching Academy is open at freshtherapists.com/coaching

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Memory Reconsolidation Elite Coaching AcademyFinally understand why transformation happens - so you can achieve it every time https://freshtherapists.com/coaching

Working with me for your own personal developmentWant to work with me to unlock your own bigger life?Find out more at https://alunparry.com

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A part of every client doesn’t want them to change - and it has a very good reason. Many approaches train us to soothe that part with “yeah but” responses, or argue with it, or push beyond it with willpower.

In this episode, I make the case for none of those three. I look at why staying with that resistance, and going deeper into it, is what actually moves the work forward.This is the discovery work that sharpens everything downstream: a clearer worldview, a sharper mismatch, and a memory reconsolidation that actually holds.

If you've ever nailed a session and then couldn't explain why, or felt yourself soothing a client's concern instead of following it, this one's for you.If you’d like to master this work with me, the Memory Reconsolidation Elite Coaching Academy is open at freshtherapists.com/coaching

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Memory Reconsolidation Elite Coaching AcademyFinally understand why transformation happens - so you can achieve it every time https://freshtherapists.com/coaching

Working with me for your own personal developmentWant to work with me to unlock your own bigger life?Find out more at https://alunparry.com

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You know about memory reconsolidation. You understand the process. So why are results still inconsistent?

Often it comes down to one thing: you're mismatching the right way. But with the wrong emotional learning.

In this episode, I examine one of the most common mistakes practitioners make, even when they are aware of memory reconsolidation - focusing on the surface trigger and overlooking the deeper emotional learning that lies beneath.I show you the difference between working on the surface and going deeper, and why it matters if you want consistent client transformations.

If you’d like to master this work with me, the Memory Reconsolidation Elite Coaching Academy is open at freshtherapists.com/coaching

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Memory Reconsolidation Elite Coaching AcademyFinally understand why transformation happens - so you can achieve it every time https://freshtherapists.com/coaching

Working with me for your own personal developmentWant to work with me to unlock your own bigger life?Find out more at https://alunparry.com

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Most therapists carry a question into their sessions: am I doing this the right way? Is my style of work valid?

You watch someone else work in a completely different style, getting results, and that small flicker of doubt arrives - should I be doing it like that instead?

In this episode, I want to take that question off your shoulders.

I’ll share:

* why your client’s brain doesn’t care which style you lean into,

* the liberating difference between following a map and following a protocol,

* and the better question to ask yourself in session - one that’s much easier to answer, feels lighter in the body, and puts your focus where it matters.

If you ever wonder whether your way of working is good enough or whether you have to throw everything out and start over, this one’s for you.

If you’d like to master this work with me, the Memory Reconsolidation Elite Coaching Academy is open at freshtherapists.com/coaching

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Memory Reconsolidation Elite Coaching AcademyFinally understand why transformation happens - so you can achieve it every time https://freshtherapists.com/coaching

Working with me for your own personal developmentWant to work with me to unlock your own bigger life?Find out more at https://alunparry.com

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In this episode of Lasting Transformation, I turn the dominant mental health paradigm on its head - the one that says there’s something wrong with you. Our problems and blocks aren’t a sign of brokenness. They make sense. And more than that - on some level, they’re essential.I’ll show you

* Why “it makes sense” is a more transformational stance than “there’s something wrong with you”

* A quick tool to uncover why a problem is essential, and the core emotional learnings driving it

* Why asking “how is this essential?” stops you from doing reconsolidation work on the wrong thing - the single most common mistake in this approach.

If you’d like to master this work with me, the Memory Reconsolidation Elite Coaching Academy is open at freshtherapists.com/coaching

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Memory Reconsolidation Elite Coaching AcademyFinally understand why transformation happens - so you can achieve it every time https://freshtherapists.com/coaching

Working with me for your own personal developmentWant to work with me to unlock your own bigger life?Find out more at https://alunparry.com

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Some sessions flow, and you get great results. But in others, nothing lands. You leave the room more confused than when you entered it.

Most training never explains why that gap exists. It hands you protocols and expects the results to follow. But when they don’t, there’s nowhere to look.

This episode offers a different orientation entirely.

The Invisible Twin Framework reframes what a presenting problem actually is - and what needs to happen before any intervention makes sense. When you understand what a symptom is protecting, the work stops feeling like guesswork.

In this episode:

* Why the problem isn’t the problem - so look elsewhere

* How to identify the real reason a client's problem is happening - and why that changes everything

* The key question to discover what keeps client problems alive

Want to understand the mechanism behind every transformation you create - so you can trigger it reliably, with any client? The Memory Reconsolidation Elite Coaching Academy is open.

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Memory Reconsolidation Elite Coaching AcademyFinally understand why transformation happens - so you can achieve it every time https://freshtherapists.com/coaching

Other ways I can help you as a practitionerYou can get my book, access my free audio training course, and a whole host of other stuff at FRESHTherapists.com

Working with me for your own personal developmentWant to work with me to unlock your own bigger life?Find out more at https://alunparry.com

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