This week Jess & Jack have a conversation about prom: our own prom experiences, whether we got lucky after, and what we wish had been different—from fashion to our gender expression and the number and gender of our dates.

We also talk about the queer prom that Jack is planning with their church, All Saints Church in Pasadena, CA, on June 10th at 6:00pm. The event is free and open to LGBTQ adults and teens, as well as allies. Hope to see you there!

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This week Jess & Jack have a conversation about time. We talk about time travel: whether it’s possible and where/when we would go if we could.

We also talk about the ways in which queer people relate to time differently from our cishet counterparts: the what and why of “Queer People Time,” as well as how milestone events in queer lives often occur later or in different orders than those in straight lives.

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This week Jess & Jack have a conversation about queer friend break-ups. We talk about how queer friendships often blur lines between friendship and romantic/sexual relationships, and how that complicates the ending of friendships among queer people, as well as how to navigate a friend break-up when everyone knows everyone else.

We also talk about some of the reasons queer friendships come to an end, reflect on some friend break-ups that we’re particularly painful, and what it would take for us to reconcile with those friends.

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This week Jess & Jack have a conversation about evangelism. We talk about The Eyes of Tammy Faye, what we think of when we think of evangelists, and the ways our previous faith contexts used shame and fear to push evangelism strategies of emotional manipulation.

We also talk about why our current faith contexts have no place for evangelism, why universalism doesn’t have to be anti-evangelistic,and how we can reclaim evangelism as an anti-colonialist and consent-respecting pursuit of queer liberation.

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This week Jess & Jack respond to a listener question about what we think about trans people seeking to be re-baptized after transitioning. We talk about the meaning of baptism, how to weigh theological vs. pastoral concerns, as well as the ways that we are (and aren’t) the same people after transition. Jess & Jack have a spirited disagreement, even disagreeing on what kind of disagreement they’re having.

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This week Jess & Jack have a conversation about faith. We talk about what it is (and isn’t) and how our previous and current faith contexts talk about it, including whether it’s like sitting on a chair.

We also talk about what it looks like for each of us to put our faith into action, from social justice and advocacy to therapy and partaking of the Eucharist.

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This week Jess & Jack respond to a queer listener who wants to know in what order it’s best to come out: friends, then family, or vice-versa.

We talk about how there’s no one-size-fits-all order to

coming out, the pros and cons of dipping a toe in the water vs. jumping in the deep end, and the family/friend social dynamics involved in coming out.

We also talk about the importance of taking care of your emotional and mental health through the process, including establishing safety nets for yourself, if you can.

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This week Jess & Jack have a conversation about cults. We talk about what they are, how to spot them, and the differences between cults and other religious groups.

We also talk about the ways the churches of our conservative Christian were very cult-like, as well as the ways that progressive faith spaces replicate the same cult-like qualities of the churches we escaped from.

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This week Jess & Jack share the story of Kit, a listener who grew up steeped in the purity culture of conservative evangelicalism, walked away from her faith in college, and came back to it recently, only to find their home church’s teachings sickening (and not in the good way).

By learning to queer Jesus, embracing God’s love for her, and blowing up most of what she was taught in church, she’s finding there are parts of Christianity she still wants to keep.

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This week Jess & Jack have a conversation about the recent viral TikTok song and certified bop  “God Is a Freak,” by Peach PRC.

We talk about Christian purity culture’s obsession with sex, how they project that onto God, and the ways God does (and doesn’t) care about what you do/is done to you in your bedroom or on your couch.

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