Episode 14: When Professional Meets Petty – Leading Through Disrespect with Emotional Intelligence

What do you do when professionalism meets pettiness — when the person you supervise challenges your authority, your patience, and your peace?

In this powerful episode, Dr. Fredrick Lee sits down with Morshelle Tease, a newly promoted leader facing disrespect from a former peer. Together, they unpack what happens when leadership transitions trigger resentment — and how emotional intelligence becomes the key to leading through it. You’ll hear a real-time coaching session that demonstrates how to pause, assess, and respond with purpose using Dr. Lee’s signature Change Moves framework. Discover how to protect your credibility, uphold accountability, and lead with composure when others forget their professionalism. Suppose you’ve ever struggled with staying professional when others aren’t. In that case, this episode will help you reclaim your confidence, maintain your calm, and lead with emotional maturity — even in the face of pettiness.

🎧 Listen now to learn how emotional intelligence transforms tension into leadership growth.

🧭 Show Notes

🗣️ Episode Theme

Leadership is tested not in moments of calm, but in moments of conflict. This episode explores how emotionally intelligent leaders can stay grounded and effective when faced with disrespect or resistance — especially from team members who once were peers.

👥 Guest

Morshelle Tease – A newly promoted leader navigating the challenges of leading former peers and confronting unprofessional behavior with grace and authority.

💡 Key Topics

• The emotional toll of being promoted over a peer
• Recognizing and managing disrespect in the workplace
• Applying emotional intelligence in real-world leadership conflicts
• The 4 Dimensions of E.I.: Self-Awareness, Self-Regulation, Social Awareness, and Relationship Management
• Using the Change Moves coaching method to respond with clarity and confidence

🔄 Dr. Lee’s Change Moves Framework

1. Self-Awareness – Identify the emotion you’re leading with
2. Self-Regulation – Pause before reacting; respond with authority, not emotion
3. Social Awareness – Understand the motives behind the behavior
4. Relationship Management – Set and reinforce boundaries through accountability
5. Integration – Define your personal leadership code for consistency and composure

🪞 Leadership Takeaways

• Disrespect reflects others’ insecurity, not your inadequacy
• Boundaries are a form of respect — for yourself and your team
• Composure is leadership in action
• Professionalism is your power; consistency is your credibility

✨ Quotable Moment

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In this follow-up to Bonus Episode 6 – Men Are Not OK, Dr. Fredrick D. Lee II sits down with Te’Ana (she/her) — an esthetician from McKinney, Texas — for a raw, honest, and heartfelt conversation about the emotional conditioning of men and its impact on relationships, leadership, and mental health.

Drawing from Social Cognitive Theory (SCT) and observational learning, Dr. Lee explores how cultural modeling teaches boys to hide their emotions — and how that message, reinforced through generations, becomes an identity built on suppression rather than self-awareness.

Te’Ana shares her lived experience growing up in a community where men were told that emotional vulnerability was “feminine” or “gay,” reflecting the silent pain behind those beliefs and the relational cost of emotional disconnection. Together, they unpack how women experience that silence, how it affects communication and trust, and how both men and women can begin to rewrite the script.

This candid discussion challenges outdated gender norms and invites listeners into a new definition of strength — one grounded in courage, empathy, and authenticity.

🎯 Strength isn’t the absence of emotion. It’s the courage to feel.

🧭 Episode Highlights

• How Social Cognitive Theory explains men’s emotional conditioning
• Why “Boys Don’t Cry” is more than a phrase — it’s a lifelong script
• The emotional and relational cost of suppression in men
• A woman’s perspective on what it’s like to love and support emotionally guarded men
• The power of modeling vulnerability and creating emotional safety
• How men and women can build “emotional equity” together

⚙️ Change Moves (Takeaways)

1. Normalize Emotion as Human, Not Gendered – Feelings are universal, not masculine or feminine.
2. Create Emotional Safety in Relationships – Replace interrogation with curiosity.
3. Model the Behavior You Wish to See – Lead with openness; others will mirror it.
4. Redefine Masculine Strength – Courage is the ability to face emotion, not suppress it.
5. Heal in Community, Not Isolation – Vulnerability builds connection; connection builds strength.

💬 Memorable Quote

👥 Guest

Te’Ana (she/her) – Esthetician from McKinney, Texas
Known for her humor, honesty, and insight, Te’Ana brings lived experience to the conversation on men’s emotional health. She’s seen firsthand how societal conditioning shapes the men around her — and why unlearning silence begins with awareness, compassion, and courage.

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Summary

In this episode of Leadership Lessons, Dr. Fredrick Lee II engages in a profound conversation with Dr. Cynthia Payne, a breast cancer survivor and healthcare leader. They explore the intersection of personal experience and leadership, discussing the emotional intelligence required to navigate the challenges of a cancer diagnosis. Dr. Payne shares her journey from diagnosis to recovery, emphasizing the importance of self-efficacy, advocacy, and the role of intersectionality in healthcare. The conversation highlights the need for emotional support, the significance of trust in patient-provider relationships, and the transformative power of sharing one's story to inspire others.

Takeaways

Real leadership is born from lived experience.
Surviving breast cancer is the beginning of a new story.
Self-efficacy plays a crucial role in navigating health challenges.
Trust in healthcare providers enhances patient compliance.
Emotional intelligence is essential in leadership roles.
Advocacy can save lives by encouraging early detection.
Healing is a layered process that includes emotional and spiritual dimensions.
Sharing personal stories can empower others facing similar challenges.
Intersectionality impacts patient experiences in healthcare.
Survivorship involves ongoing management and awareness of health. 

Titles

Transforming Adversity into Leadership
The Intersection of Health and Leadership

Sound Bites

"Healing isn't linear, it's layered."
"Your voice matters."
"Surviving is not the finish line."

Chapters

00:00 Introduction to Leadership Lessons
02:21 The Journey of a Breast Cancer Survivor
03:55 Navigating the Healthcare System
06:24 The Role of Self-Efficacy in Healing
09:06 Intersectionality and Access to Care
11:32 Emotional Intelligence in Leadership
14:11 The Importance of Patient Advocacy
18:51 The Importance of Time in Healing
20:15 Mentorship and Leadership Through Adversity
21:28 Advocacy for Women's Health
23:05 The Ongoing Journey of Survivorship
24:00 Sharing Stories to Inspire Others
26:20 Encouragement for Those Facing Cancer
29:59 The Power of Awareness and Advocacy

Summary

In this episode of Leadership Lessons, Dr. Fredrick Lee II explores the profound connection between emotional intelligence, healing, and leadership. He emphasizes that healing is not merely a physical process but an emotional and relational journey. Through the lens of Black women's experiences, he discusses how emotional intelligence fosters resilience, self-leadership, and the ability to navigate life's challenges. The episode concludes with practical strategies for applying emotional intelligence in everyday life, highlighting its transformative power in both personal and professional contexts.

Takeaways

Emotional intelligence is crucial for healing and leadership.
Healing is about becoming wiser through pain, not returning to the past.
Self-awareness and self-regulation are key components of emotional intelligence.
Emotions provide valuable information during crises and challenges.
Isolation hinders healing; connection fosters it.
Self-leadership involves managing one's emotions and mindset.
Empathy and curiosity strengthen relationships and trust.
Purpose helps maintain motivation during difficult times.
Emotional intelligence can be practiced and developed.
Healing and leadership are intertwined processes of transformation.

Sound Bites

"Healing is not about returning to who we were."
"Emotional disconnection breeds isolation."
"Feel, then frame your emotions before reacting."

Chapters

00:00 The Intersection of Emotional Intelligence and Healing
05:43 Self-Leadership Through Emotional Intelligence
08:19 Practical Applications of Emotional Intelligence in Leadership

In this bonus episode of the Leadership Lessons Podcast, Dr. Fredrick Lee II takes listeners into one of the most urgent and human conversations of our time: the intersection of race, gender, and trust in healthcare.

Drawing on the voices and lived experiences of Black women navigating breast cancer, this episode uncovers the layered challenges that go far beyond medical treatment. It’s about battling inequities in access, racial bias in care, financial strain, gendered assumptions, and the deep historical wounds that shape trust—or distrust—in the healthcare system.

But the story does not stop at barriers. These women reveal how resilience, self-efficacy, and emotional intelligence become lifelines in their journeys. From advocating for themselves in dismissive environments to reframing stress into strategy to building support networks that multiply strength, their courage offers timeless lessons for leaders everywhere.

Listeners will discover:

• Why trust and cultural competence are essential in care, leadership, and community.
• How emotional intelligence competencies, such as empathy, self-awareness, stress tolerance, and reality testing, empower resilience.
• Practical Change Moves to lead with equity, build communities of voice, and transform stress into strategic growth.

This is more than a conversation about cancer. It is about leadership in the face of inequity, about honoring stories often left unheard, and about learning how resilience at the intersections can inform how we live, lead, and heal.

🔑 Key Themes

• Race, gender, and healthcare disparities
• Trust and cultural competence in medicine and leadership
• Emotional intelligence and resilience in adversity
• Breast cancer survivorship stories
• Equity, access, and advocacy
• Leadership lessons from lived experiences

🎯 Why You Should Listen

Whether you are a leader in healthcare, business, education, or the community, this episode challenges you to view inequity differently—and to lead with courage, clarity, and compassion. These stories will shift the way you think about resilience, equity, and leadership at the intersections.

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In Bonus Episode 7 of the Leadership Lessons Podcast, Dr. Fredrick Lee II explores the powerful connection between self-efficacy, resilience, and health through the lived experiences of Black women navigating breast cancer. This conversation goes far beyond medicine—it’s about survival, advocacy, and leadership at the intersections of race, gender, and healthcare equity.

Drawing on real-life stories of perseverance, Dr. Lee highlights how emotional intelligence—encompassing self-awareness, empathy, self-regard, and resilience—shapes both health outcomes and leadership growth. Listeners will hear how women transformed fear into confidence, turned financial and systemic barriers into strategy, and found strength in community while navigating disparities.

Whether you’re a leader in healthcare, business, or community life, this episode offers timeless lessons on how to lead with courage, build resilience, and practice empathy in the face of adversity.

🎯 Key themes: resilience in breast cancer, self-efficacy in health, leadership lessons from Black women, emotional intelligence and healing, healthcare equity.

Subscribe today and discover why resilience in leadership and life starts with believing in your own capacity to endure, adapt, and thrive.

Episode 13: The Mirror Isn’t Broken – Redefining Confidence and Self-Trust

Have you ever straightened your tie, adjusted your blouse, or rehearsed your lines before a big moment—only to look in the mirror and wonder, “Am I enough?”

In this episode of Leadership Lessons with Dr. Fredrick Lee II, we’re unpacking one of the most common struggles leaders face: confidence. Not the loud, performative bravado that often gets mistaken for confidence, but the steady alignment that comes from trusting yourself. Because here’s the truth: the mirror isn’t broken—what’s broken sometimes is our self-trust.

🔑 What you’ll learn in this episode:

• The difference between confidence and bravado—and why bravado drains trust instead of building it.
• How emotional intelligence (EI) becomes the compass for self-trust through self-awareness, self-regulation, reality testing, and self-regard.
• Real-world examples of how leaders sabotage their credibility when they perform confidence instead of practicing it.
• Research-backed insights on what makes leaders truly trustworthy and resilient.
• Practical Change Moves you can apply right away to rebuild confidence—choice by choice, promise by promise.

💡 Key Takeaways:

• Confidence isn’t bravado—it’s alignment.
• Self-trust grows when we keep small promises to ourselves.
• The mirror doesn’t lie—it reflects a work in progress that’s already worthy of trust.

Whether you’re navigating self-doubt, rebuilding after a setback, or simply wanting to lead with greater authenticity, this episode will help you redefine confidence as something deeper, stronger, and more sustainable than performance.

🎧 Listen to Episode 13: “The Mirror Isn’t Broken – Redefining Confidence and Self-Trust” now.

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Men Are Not OK – Leadership Lessons Bonus Episode

In this bonus episode of Leadership Lessons with Dr. Fredrick Lee II, we confront a quiet crisis: men’s mental and emotional health. From the childhood message that “boys don’t cry” to the adult struggles of burnout, loneliness, and broken connection, Dr. Lee unpacks how cultural scripts around masculinity have left too many men without the tools to regulate, connect, and lead with compassion.

Drawing on Social Cognitive Theory, emotional intelligence research, and decades of leadership insight, this episode explores:

• How emotional suppression in boyhood shapes adult relationships, leadership, and workplace culture.
• The toll of loneliness and unexpressed emotions on men’s health and well-being.
• Practical strategies for men—and those who love, lead, and work with them—to rewrite the harmful script and reclaim strength through vulnerability.

This isn’t just a men’s issue—it’s a human issue. Because when men heal, everyone heals: families thrive, workplaces grow, and communities become stronger.

Listen now to learn why men are not okay—and how together we can change that.

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Bonus Episode: Reality Testing – A Step-by-Step Process

🎯 From TikTok Follower @ErikaLove’s Request

Reality Testing is leadership’s truth serum — it keeps you honest with yourself and fair with others. In this bonus episode of Leadership Lessons with Dr. Fredrick Lee II, we dive deep into one of the most underused — yet most powerful — Emotional Intelligence skills.

You’ll learn:

• Why Reality Testing is the difference between reacting to the story in your head and responding to the facts in front of you.
• The risks leaders face when they skip this skill (and how credibility gets lost).
• How to integrate Self-Awareness, Impulse Control, Empathy, and Problem-Solving to strengthen your Reality Testing.
• A proven 5-step process to slow down snap judgments, separate fact from fiction, and make clear, credible decisions — even under pressure.

💡 This episode isn’t just theory — each step is designed to be a 90-second, actionable leadership shift you can apply immediately. Whether you lead a small team or an entire organization, Reality Testing will help you manage bias, navigate conflict, and build trust.

This topic came directly from TikTok follower @ErikaLove — proof that your questions and challenges help shape this podcast. If you have a leadership skill, dilemma, or topic you’d like broken down, DM me on TikTok, comment on a post, or email me through the podcast site. You might hear your name in a future episode.

📌 Next on Leadership Lessons: Episode 13 – The Mirror Isn’t Broken – Redefining Confidence and Self-Trust. We’ll explore how confidence isn’t about bravado — it’s about self-alignment, and how to rebuild trust in yourself one choice at a time.

🎧 Subscribe now on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, Amazon Music, or wherever you listen, and share this episode with another leader who’s ready to see clearly and decide wisely.

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Episode 12 – Belonging Without Assimilation: Leading Authentically in Dominant Culture Spaces

Can you belong at work without blending in?

In this episode of Leadership Lessons with Dr. Fredrick Lee II, we unpack the difference between belonging and assimilation — and why it matters for every leader who wants to create inclusive, high-trust, high-performance workplaces.

For leaders from historically marginalized backgrounds, the pressure to “cover” parts of your identity or code-switch to match dominant cultural norms is real. But the truth is, when you erase yourself to fit in, everyone loses — your team, your organization, and your leadership impact.

In this episode, you’ll discover:

• The key differences between belonging and assimilation in leadership contexts
• The hidden emotional, relational, and organizational costs of assimilation
• How Emotional Intelligence (EI) helps leaders navigate identity, culture, and power without losing themselves
• 4 EI skills that protect your authenticity in dominant culture spaces
• 5 practical Change Moves to lead without erasing who you are
• Why inclusive leadership benefits all leaders — not just those from underrepresented groups

Why this episode matters:
Workplace belonging drives engagement, innovation, and retention. Assimilation, on the other hand, limits potential and undermines trust. Whether you’re a leader shaping culture from within the dominant group or navigating it as an outsider, you have the power to set the tone for authenticity, inclusion, and trust.

Timestamps:
0:00 – Introduction: The tension between belonging and blending in
6:25 – Defining belonging vs. assimilation
14:50 – The hidden tax of assimilation on leaders and teams
23:05 – 4 EI skills to protect your authenticity
32:40 – 5 Change Moves to lead without assimilation
45:20 – Closing thoughts and next episode preview

🎯 Key Quote:

Listen now and learn how to lead authentically, create cultures of belonging, and make sure no one has to leave part of themselves at the door.

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