Welcome back to Learning Lesson With Shaboobs! In today's episode, titled "Conversations," we have a very special guest joining us: Matt Day.
Originally recorded on Sept. 7, 2022.
00:01:35 Overwhelmed by life, be the main character.
00:06:15 Heartbreak in small, morally questionable entertainment community.
00:15:47 Frustration over lack of direction and progress.
00:21:48 Studied relationships in the entertainment industry.
00:23:34 Lost and rebuilt self-respect, learned various skills
00:31:53 We always want to be main characters.
00:37:11 Being alone before being lonely, overcoming fear.
00:43:56 Solitude, isolation, missing friends, moving back.
00:46:53 Finding solitude to heal and create.
00:53:27 Questioning identity and finding contentment in solitude.
01:01:12 Changed friends in school, conflict over guns.
01:04:19 Stay loyal to yourself, but assess the situation.
01:13:11 Omari Hardwick's rise to success and financial struggles.
01:15:20 Effort leads to awareness and progress.
01:21:13 Intention creates discipline, anchor for success.
01:25:33 Working on oneself is crucial for relationships.
01:30:49 Understanding and agreeing with your sentiment.
The Importance of Taking Action: "And that's the truth of it. You have to take action, and oftentimes life becomes so big and overwhelming that we live a reactive life."
— Shaboobs [00:01:35 → 00:01:43]
The Challenges of Dating in the Entertainment Industry: "You really don't ever learn how to get over and deal with heartbreak."
— Shaboobs [00:06:19 → 00:06:23]
The Frustration of Navigating a Creative Career: "What do I go do? Like, I am a creator, but what does a creator go do to make money when you don't have anybody asking for the things?"
— Shaboobs [00:16:06 → 00:16:13]
The Importance of Seeking Clarity and Being Aware: "I think having a vision is a mandatory, necessary thing. I think it is imperative to understand that clarity can be lost and it can evolve... So at least for myself, I didn't get fucked up, I didn't go drink, I didn't do any other crazy thing that I'm sure I really did have an impulse and urge to do. And I think I just ended up taking a walk."
— Shaboobs [00:20:00 → 00:20:18]
The Importance of Vision: "So that's an important thing, though, to differentiate with vision is to understand that A, you need to have a vision. Start with a vision, but that the vision can change..."
— Shaboobs [00:24:52 → 00:25:05]
The Importance of Balance: "This is where balance is so crucial, and you as a personality walks the fine line, because it's like, learn to be by yourself and be okay with that and then go be around other people in a team, and those people in the team are going to challenge you, push you, grow you. But it's a symbiotic relationship. There. Really is no one without the other."
— Shaboobs [00:58:40 → 00:59:00]
The Importance of Being Alone: "Because to the original question is that people are in relationships with other people, not even just dating and significant others. They have friendships or relationships with family members, regardless, with people that waste their time. And that is not genuine. You're in it because you're afraid of being alone and you don't authentically know who you are."
— Shaboobs [01:00:43 → 01:01:03]
Achieving Growth and Balance: "The unfortunate thing is adversity and pain is necessary. It really is. To your point, you have to kind of earn the comfort."
— Shaboobs [01:11:06 → 01:13:01]
Overcoming Challenges: "But the ebbs and flows, again, it all comes down to the game of awareness being proactive, being proactive about the reactions, understanding how to respond, understanding when to give it grace, when to accelerate."
— Shaboobs [01:15:20 → 01:15:36]
The Fluidity of Identity: "I've learned to understand now that identity is fluid."
— Shaboobs [01:18:34 → 01:18:38]
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