Lee After Dark

A podcast with a more serious discussion. Lee Lander discusses life growing up with a father who suffered depression and eventually left, and a mother who suffered severely from schizophrenia.

There’s a lot going on here, alot to take in. One lesson for the listener… we never know what another person has been through or is going through in life. There are lessons in life here as we listen and learn about Lee’s journey.

Intro: Discuss Mental Health and Mental Illness “Dirt Under the Carpet”

2:55 - Currently Lee and her husband are dealing with his cancer; likens mental illness to cancer in that people hesitate talking about it.

4:00 - Mom was schizophrenic, hallucinated often, radical changes daily, making life as a child very hard/weird; As a child she lacked understanding... just wanted a mom.

11:00 - parents got divorced because father couldn’t help her and fell into depression.

12:45 - growing up she and her family were poor; often her mother would just disappear, leaving them home, alone, with no electricity and/or no food. Reading the bible was her escape, then drinking, and as an adult working…

17:00 - everything changed when she became a mother and had kids, but still had problems due to all the prior issues… she married and divorced twice… realized she “was still a broken person”, suicidal.

23:00 - in recovery, she began to understand what her mother’s life, which changed her life. Her LESSONS:  1) accept who she is, accept herself 2) accept others for who they are/were 3) accept she can’t control everything…

Pitch: got into creativity (writing music, photography, art)... Looking for beauty wherever she is. Found her calling. Her photography started to sell. Then became an abstract artist, painting. Photography now is geared toward nature.

https://www.artknowlogy.com/

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What are the parallels of human life with hermit crabs?

And a pet Iguana can be trained to use the kitchen sink as it’s private outhouse?

Listen to this interview with Chris Borja to learn about these things, and many more relevant tipbits about his life and business.

1:15 - Pet Hermit Crabs … was sitting with them when he was called for this podcast. Many parallels with Hermit Crabs and life. EX. The meldt … never stay in the same shell, and will hide for days, weeks and months while changing shells for protection. As humans we find ways to be comfortable and get stuck there. Sometimes we need to get away so we can grow.

7:00 - crabs do NOT suffer from identity crisis in different shells, whether the shell says Ohio State or ?? “Crabs don’t care”.

10:00 - loves going to Vegas. Different vibe going to Vegas v. returning home from Vegas.

12:12 - met his wife to be at video arcade at Circus Circus, both there with parents. Got married 10 years later.

15:00 - Lee after Dark on Fremont Street

16:30 - smuggled ferret into Calif. to take home as a pet.

Pitch: Become a better networker, teach people how to network. Coaches, trains, consults… Network Breakthrough Academy to teach people what networking is and how to develop relationships through networking.

Teach people how to serve one another. Runs virtual and live networking events. Networking not just for business but for developing friendships as well.

www.chrisborja.com

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What was it like to live in post-Cold War Moscow? Nothing like you'd expect! Join Lee Rowley as he interviews Richard Holling, a brilliant man with a fascinating journey to share. (Spoiler - you can't drive through Red Square. Just don't try it.)  

Connect with Richard at https://www.linkedin.com/in/rhollingfintech/  

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Former NFL player Jedidiah Collins discusses the importance of a strong foundation and begins with The Point of No Return, explained in his written story “The Cocktail Party” and his “looking the monster dead in the eye as the monster smiled”. 

The story continues with “King for a Day” and again in “Mowing Your Grass”. But what do these things mean to you, to the entrepreneur, to a business owner, an athlete, a student?  His mission: “empower people to own their story.” His desire is to teach people cash management and to understand “money is a vehicle and he wants you in the driver’s seat”.   

1:50 - raised students 1st and Athletics 2nd. Was a football player at Washington State. Ran into a guy on campus who knew who he was and started his dream of playing in the NFL. Never drafted, but tried out and never stuck with any teams; his take away was the discipline he learned, being around the best; used the athletic curiosity to always get better.  

5:10 - taught that athletics was a ticket for an education by his parents.   

6:30 - great foundation was his family (wife and brothers) and identifying who he was… his desires and goal setting. Learned to stay focused on goals, not setbacks. Goals will always be of most importance. Takeaway was 1) be goal orientated and 2) remain focused on goals Goals will always be more important that momentary wins and momentary losses.   

9:00 - Point of No Return - His writing: “The Cocktail Party” - Morbid reality of a violent game … gruesome take on football. Saw his 4 month old daughter in the stands with his wife after someone was injured and realized the risk of injury was real, that he was not invincible. Caused him to question what he was doing playing football and wondering if there was another way to make a living.   

12:30 “That monster looked my dead in the eye and smiled.” That’s when he realized he could no longer play football.   

14:00 - “King for a Day” - family (brothers and father) would play basketball and have contests and the winner was “King for a Day”. Winner gets to tell the other two brothers a chore they needed to do. Built competitive spirit in him. Learned to lose without being defeated. Learned to maintain focus.  

16:16 - “Mowing your grass” Learn to focus on attitude and taking care of your own backyard. Learn to control his attitude throughout every day.   

Pitch: Mission is to empower people to own their own story. Made poor and uneducated decisions regarding money. “Turned to his brothers for answers to “what do I do with all this money?” Set out on a journey while in NFL to learn how to build and handle wealth management.   Wants to be a financial educator, teaching people to become empowered in cash management and freedom. Money is a vehicle and you need to sit in the drivers seat of your own financial future.    

Catch up with Jed at https://www.linkedin.com/in/jedidiah-collins/.  

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How does a self-proclaimed introvert and a Dave Mathews Band groupie, who has followed them around the country and to Mexico, parlay her experience into her business? The lessons are here, but for some may be different than for others.  

2:30 - 18yo chance to go to Dave Mathews Band (was a rap fan prior); environment and sense of community sold her on the band.   

5:00 - doesn’t understand why people could be negative about something that gives joy to others in reference to Dave Mathews shows and why some people do not like the band.  

8:00 - “Dave Days” are a community, an event. Goes to see him in Mexico every year. Lent a person unknown to her $100 for a flight there.  

11:00 - believes this and other bands popularity comes from a sense of humility, and creates a sense of community, makes the audience feel like they are there with the band, and are connected with the band. Band transcends the music.  

16:25 - no one show stands out, enjoys them, music/songs are not repeated, so every experience is different. Most memorable was Deer Creek, Indiana. Paid for campground that ended up being someone’s backyard. A hose was the shower. Found out from a news crew there was a tornado warning. Next day her husband to be ended up breaking his knee pushing their stuck car out of the mud.   

Pitch - VP at CX Edge - consulting company in material handling, in charge of marketing and customer experience. Focuses on People, Products, Profits and Feedback for the ultimate customer experience. Started her own company 2 months ago in marketing to develop the best customer experience for customers using her 4 pillars.. 

www.cx-edge.com Cxedge on twitter, IG and FB  

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All full episodes available at www.LeeAfterDark.com.

Here’s an interesting take on life as discussed by 2 guys in black bow ties and vests. That alone is a rarity. Here is a discussion about Jon’s travels, love of music, and the most friction filled polyamorous relationship ever!   

The interesting life of a freelancing sales consultant, public speaker (been on Ted Talks), and filmmaker who’s also involved in an SI startup, a website for job seekers.  

Intro: Traveling… enjoys going to different countries, has lived in 4 countries.  From England currently  

6:00 - U.S. Visitors version of “hold my beer” - in the Everglades with a friend visiting the US they saw a gator. His friend wondered what would happen if he poked it with a stick. Jon told him, go ahead and I’ll video record it. 

9:00 - creative - moving from Iceland found old school stuff from 6 to 16yo. One picture from when he was 6yo was of him playing music, which he took up at 14. Knew then that he loved music. Enjoys the creativity of music. Often relaxes a few minutes by picking up his guitar or playing the piano a bit.  

15:00 - Most friction filled polyamorous relationship is … what? Think “playing in the band”. Never got to that playing in the band for a living point, due to a documentary on life on the road as a band member.   

Pitch - freelancing sales consultant, public speaker, film maker. Has a startup (AI job seeking website) with 3 others. LinkedIn profile is best way to get hold of him. Don’t worry about fitting in.Instead stand out.       

Advice (Never worry about “fitting in”... instead worry about “standing out”.    

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This is about perseverance of one young man, and grew to someone caring about his legacy. We all have one. What’s yours going to be?

How and why does a 36 year UPS employee, who started by unloading UPS trailers, leave after those 36 years and become an author, speaker and CEO of his own company? 

Tune in and you will discover the answers and maybe even questions for yourself to answer. 

Intro: 1976 started with a job unloading trailers at UPS. Lesson was never turn down an opportunity with them. UPS believed in him so he believed in himself and as time went on he gained confidence in himself.

4:05 - learn from mistakes but we all also need someone to help us.

5:40 - “legacy” is a word of importance in his life … leave things better than you found them...  create a legacy. How are people going to remember you at the end of your career? THAT is your legacy.  

9:00 - noted how he has seen/heard a distinct change in the tone of people as they age and think more and more about their own legacy. What one word describes you? What is going to be on your tombstone? 

13:00 - Don’t let the pigeon drive the bus (children’s book he read to his kids)… sometime we drive the bus; sometimes we’re just in the bus; sometimes we are the pigeon. 

16:00 - no substitute for hard work, but enthusiasm is needed for hard work to succeed. 

19:00 - need to feel like you fit, like you belong when at a job. If you don’t have that feeling it’s not going to work. 

Pitch: Book- “Tighten the Lugnuts” - fix what you can effectively. Book written in the 3rd person. $1 from every sale of the book goes to the Jimmy V fund on behalf of Coach Wooden, whom he met. As a leader (family, business, whatever) it’s not about you, it about everyone else. Be yourself, be humble. 

www.3sixtymanagementservices.com

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In this episode, we take a thoughtful look through Stef, at a person’s dealing with bullying as a child, and the long term effects on self confidence years later as an adult. 

This discussion takes us from the childhood thoughts of feeling rejected, or “defective” as she puts it, because she was a geek (she loved Star Trek and became a lifelong fanatic)... to realizing at the age of 50 in Orlando’s Disney World Star Trek exhibit that indeed, she was not defective, but she is a geek. 

Her family has also dealt with their daughter’s cancer (now recovered and in college). Happily a geek and in knowing she cares little for what others think of her, Stef now uses her life to help others. 

Join us on this brief somber but positive journey with someone who has learned to accept not only life, but herself.    

ntro: How I realized “I wasn’t defective, I was just a geek.”

Into Star Trek from the get go (age 15)

2:30 - At Disney World with son (2017) and realized she wasn’t defective, and she was still a geek… and these are my people.

Turning point at 50 when she realized her reality, who she was and is. 

7:05 - life as a kid took away her self-confidence, but now as an adult, after 50, she finally feels free because she likes who she is and doesn’t care what others think about her. She celebrates her “being a geek” and being herself.

13:00 - discussion about bullying today/online v. when she was young.

14:25 - daughter diagnosed with cancer several years ago… very hard to deal with that

Daughter now doing well and is in college. Changed their outlook on life, but caused a loss of friends. Friends seemed to be afraid to talk about it or to ask her about her daughter’s cancer, so they drifted apart.

Pitch: Make a Wish Trip - was a difference maker for her daughter. Stef has now put herself in that position to help others… “A Travel SuperHero” www.travelsuperhero.com

Stef will book and oversee all travel so check out her website and contact her for more information.

Interested in learning about yourself? Riana will help you. But wait… there is so much more you need to know about this very talented and intelligent lady.

Such as … how does a former self professed “disco queen” and former professional disco dancer, former talent agent who hob-nobbed with Freddy Mercury, a former radio personality from Philly’s top rock and roll station… 

HOW DID SHE GROW...  from all of that, to become an author several times over, one who specializes in working with kids from traumatic backgrounds, to now an author and global certified love and trauma coach working with adults with potential traumatic backgrounds? Listen to Riana here and find out more about her incredible journey. 

Intro - Lives in FL, from Philly and lived in Erie, PA

 - enjoys life and children; family is important… being a mom is her favorite job

Has written several books and enjoys writing.

4:00 - little known facts… she loves Disco and was in competitive disco dancing

5:10 - why did she become involved working with kids? Explains her work with kids from traumatic backgrounds.

Lead to working with adults with traumatic backgrounds

8:00 - why does all this mean so much to Riana? Discusses background with her partner in her 2nd marriage. 

Events in her life allowed her to come up with a childhood trauma checklist.

She has seen first hand childhood trauma and this allowed her to learn and grow and teach because of it.

15:00 - discusses childhood, bullying, relationships with mom

16:25 - remembered life with family in Fl as a child, didn’t like dark dreary winters, loves swimming… all makes the move to FL easy.

17:43 - into music and got to meet celebrities including Freddy Mercury. Became a modeling  talent agent at 24. 

Pitch: Now a global certified love and trauma coach who assists adults 

Rianamilne.com and several books available with some free written materials; also works with kids transitioning from HS to college and from college to work. 

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Full episodes available at www.LeeAfterDark.com.

Jarrod Haning - how has he done 4 Ted Talks? How can he split an arrow Robin Hood-style? Find out all this and more on this episode of Lee After Dark - the non-business show for business owners! 

Intro - split an arrow Robin Hood style from 50’

1:50 - talks about taking archery up again, practiced until he could split an arrow. Realized that became expensive.

Was focused on that goal because just wanted to (enjoyed it), and practiced until he was very good. Interest v. talent  

7:35 - “everyone should do a Ted Talk at least once.” Has done 4 Ted Talks. All one needs to do is apply. 

Why do a Ted talk? “Everyone has something to say”. Format for Ted talks is very different for each area and location and subject.

13:25 - “two degrees from Kevin Bacon” … a friend was a standin for Kevin Bacon

15:00 - was a ft professional musician. Talked about how he scaled his business and added income streams to his music teaching business, cutting his time spent working/teaching in half while doubling his income.

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All full episodes available at www.LeeAfterDark.com.