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Ratings Drop for "Sarah Palin's Alaska" The show fell 40 percent on Sunday night, to 3 million viewers, according to The Hollywood Reporter. The premiere drew 5 million viewers, setting a ratings record for a TLC show debut. Only 885,000 of those viewers were in the coveted 18-49 age bracket, dropping 44 percent from last week. The report states that the show's median age is 57 - 15 years older than TLC's average.

Is marriage becoming obsolete? By Stephanie Coontz, Special to CNN Editor's note: Stephanie Coontz teaches history and family studies at The Evergreen State College in Olympia, Washington, and is director of research and public education at the Council on Contemporary Families. Her latest book, "A Strange Stirring: The Feminine Mystique and American Women at the Dawn of the 1960s," will be published in January by Basic Books. (CNN) -- According to a TIME/Pew research poll released last week, 40 percent of Americans believe that marriage is becoming obsolete, up from just 28 percent in 1978. In that same poll, only one in four unmarried Americans say they do not want to get married. And among currently married men and women, 80 percent say their marriage is as close as or closer than their parents' marriage. These seemingly contradictory responses reflect the public's recognition of a new and complex reality. On the one hand, marriage as a voluntary relationship based on love and commitment is held in higher regard than ever, with more people saying that love is essential to marriage (Consider that in 1967, two-thirds of college women said they'd consider marrying a man they didn't love if he met other criteria, such as offering respectability and financial security.) But as an institution that regulates people's lives, marriage is no longer the social and economic necessity it once was. People can construct successful lives outside marriage in ways that would have been very difficult to manage 50 years ago, and they have a far greater range of choices about whether to marry, when to marry, and how to organize their marriages. This often makes them more cautious in committing to marriage and more picky about their partners than people were in the past. In the 1950s, when half of all American women were already married in their teens, marriage was an almost mandatory first step toward adulthood. It was considered the best way to make a man grow up, and in an economy where steady jobs and rising real wages were widely available, that often worked. For a woman, marriage was deemed the best investment she could make in her future, and in a world where even college-educated women earned less than men with a only a high school education, that often worked for her too. Marriage was also supposed to be the only context in which people could regularly have sex or raise children. Divorced or unmarried men were routinely judged less qualified for bank loans or job promotions, sexually active single women were stigmatized, and out-of-wedlock children had few legal rights. Today, however, there are plenty of other ways to grow up, seek financial independence, and meet one's needs for companionship and sex. So what might have seemed a "good enough" reason to enter marriage in the past no longer seems sufficient to many people. Marriage has become another step, perhaps even the final rather than the first step, in the transition to adulthood -- something many people will not even consider until they are very sure they are capable of taking their relationship to a higher plane. Couples increasingly want to be certain, before they marry, that they can pay their bills, that neither party is burdened by debt, that each has a secure job or a set of skills attesting to their employability. Many are also conscious that as rigid gender roles erode, marriage demands more negotiation and relationship skills than in the past. They often want firsthand experience with how their partner will behave in an intimate relationship, which is why the majority of new marriages come after a period of cohabitation, according to census figures. These higher expectations are good news for many marriages. People who can meet the high bar that most Americans now feel is appropriate for the transition to marriage -- people who delay marriage to get an education, who have accumulated a nest egg or established themselves in a secure line of work -- typically have higher quality marriages than other Americans, research shows, and their divorce rates have been falling for the past 25 years. But these higher expectations pose difficulties for individuals with fewer interpersonal and material resources. Over the past 30 years, job opportunities and real wages have declined substantially for poorly educated men, making them less attractive marriage partners for women. When such men do find stable employment, they often tend to be more interested in a woman with good earnings prospects than someone they have to rescue from poverty. Today, several studies have shown, economic instability is now more closely associated with marital distress than it used to be. If a low-income woman finds a stable, employed partner, she will likely be better off by marrying. But if the man she marries loses his job or is less committed and responsible than she had hoped, she may end up worse off than before -- having to support a man who can't or won't pull his own weight. So the widening economic gap between haves and have-nots that America has experienced in recent decades is increasingly reflected in a widening marriage gap as well. Today two-thirds of people with a college degree are married, compared with less than half of those with a high school degree or less. Those who begin married life with the most emotional and material advantages reap the greatest gains in those same areas from marriage. The very people who would benefit most from having a reliable long-term partner are the ones least likely to be able to find such a partner or sustain such a relationship. This is a troubling trend that deserves attention from policy-makers. But the problem does not lie in a lack of family values. The poor value marriage just as highly as anyone else, and they may value children even more. Unfortunately, they are now less and less likely to believe they will be able to live up to the high expectations of modern partnerships, even if they are in love. There is no easy fix for this problem. But the good news is that families still matter to Americans, including those who are not married. According to the Pew poll, 76 percent of Americans say family is the most important, meaningful part of their life. Seventy-five percent say they are "very satisfied" with their family life. And 85 percent say that the family they live in today, whatever its form, is as close as or closer than the family in which they grew up. We have a lot of challenges ahead of us, but that's comforting news. The opinions expressed in this commentary are solely those of Stephanie Coontz.

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'Hookers for Jesus' Tries to Save Las Vegas Prostitutes Meet Annie Lobert -- a former prostitute with a singular mission: saving Las Vegas hookers. Lobert, and her faith-based mission -- which she calls "Hookers for Jesus" -- are the focus of "Hookers: Saved on the Strip," a three-part series premiering Dec. 8 on Investigation Discovery. "When I used to get arrested and the vice [cops] called me a 'hooker,' it really offended me," Lobert told The Post. "So one day I was thinking, if I was reaching out to women and starting to go into casinos and saying, 'I can help you change your life,' and calling myself Annie, it would be a weird thing -- 'Annie Lobert's Reach Out.' "So I figured Hookers for Jesus. I believe in God, for one, and I was a hooker and now I go and fish for people [to save]." TV cameras follow Lobert as she tries to teach ex-call girls how to turn their lives around. In the show's premiere episode, Regina, who grew up in a middle-class New Jersey family and turned to prostitution while in the Navy (where she met her pimp), is her first project. Lobert, 43, is from Minnesota. She worked as a Las Vegas hooker for over 10 years, finally leaving the life behind after a near-fatal overdose and repeated physical abuse from violent pimps. She started Hookers for Jesus in 2006, and eventually began working with The Church of South Las Vegas, whose pastor, Benny Perez, helped Lobert start Destiny House -- a shelter for ex-prostitutes that helps prepare them for life in the straight world (finding jobs, apartments, etc.).

Cindy McCain Defies Husband, Comes Out Against DADT by Kilian Melloy Arizona Sen. John McCain, whose threatened filibuster helped derail a Congressional repeal of the anti-gay law that bans open GLBTs from military service, not only faces criticism in the press for his stance; he’s also at odds on the home front over the issue. Both McCain’s wife, Cindy, and his daughter, Meghan, have come out as strong supporters of efforts to repeal "Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell." Cindy McCain is featured in a video about GLBT youth suicide, speaking to the way in which "political and religious leaders" foster anti-gay oppression, "telling[ing] LGBT youth that they have no future." Adds McCain, "They can’t serve our country openly." Others in the video point out other avenues to legal equality and civic participation that are closed to sexual minorities, such as blood donation and federal recognition of their families. But Cindy McCain’s line is especially pointed, given that her husband has not only refused to allow legislation to address the issue to move forward once--he’s pressing to remove language that would set aside DADT from the Defense Authorization Bill Congress is expected to take up during the lame duck session, before a new Congress is sworn in. Unless that demand is met, McCain is prepared to carry through with his threatened filibuster.

Steven Cojocaru (born January 5, 1965) is a fashion critic. He was born in Montreal, Quebec, Canada to a family of immigrants from Romania. Cojocaru started out as a magazine columnist and eventually began working on American television shows as a commentator and celebrity interviewer.

He graduated from Wagar High School in 1979 and later earned a bachelors degree in communications from Concordia University. Cojocaru began working in 1991 for the Canadian fashion magazine Flare. After moving to Hollywood, he began writing a column. He was People Magazine's West Coast fashion editor, and has written two autobiographies, Red Carpet Diaries: Confessions of a Glamour Boy (2003) and Glamour, Interrupted (2008). In 2003, he joined the cast of Entertainment Tonight, providing coverage of celebrity fashion. He was the Style Correspondent for the Today show from 2000–2005; he has also worked at E! and Access Hollywood. Appeared in the Los Angeles Times. In 2003 and 2004, Cojocaru worked on American Idol, helping the contestants select new wardrobe pieces from show sponsor Old Navy. On May 6, 2008, he appeared with John Oliver in a segment for The Daily Show, "Ticket to the Pollies". Cojocaru has had two kidney transplants. The first (donated by his best friend) was removed when it became infected with polyomavirus. The second transplant in 2005, where his mother Amelia gave her kidney, has to date been successful. Website: http://www.cojostyle.com/

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Susan Brock, the wife of Maricopa County Supervisor Fulton Brock in Arizona, was in court on Wednesday on charges of sexual molestation. She is also charged with sexual conduct with a minor, and is being held without bond, Fox Phoenix reports. The victim, currently 17 years old, admitted to his parents that sexual activity was occurring between himself and Brock, 48. It was then that the Chandler Police Department was notified of the relationship by the parents. Police say the two did not engage in sexual intercourse. The parents showed police printouts of sexually explicit messages exchanged between Brock and the teen, as well as the messages on iPod Touch, which was given to the teen by Brock. Over the years, the teen said they have had about 20 or 30 sexual encounters. The teen explained that the two had been engaged in such activity since he was 14 years old. He said that she would pick him up from school or from home and they would go to secluded areas where they wouldn’t be found. Brock would also help the boy meet with his girlfriend, also a minor, who was forbidden to see the boy. Brock enabled the two to meet and have sex, providing transportation and even condoms. Brock made her court appearance Wednesday morning. A status hearing has been scheduled for November 3, and a preliminary hearing on November 8.Read more: http://www.thirdage.com/news/susan-brock-charged-child-molestation_10-28-2010#ixzz13m1aYQqe

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