Today we're going to talk about parenting. I'm going to just talk about this just because it's in my spirit to say something.  I'm a parent of more than one child and I've learned a lot of things along the way but one of the biggest lessons I've learned is you don't know what you don't know.  I've been having children since I was 21 and didn’t actually stop until I was 40.  With that being said, there's a lot of things I did not know and then in not knowing and then going on a journey to discover things about yourself, well you're knowing things now.  You get into this you know coulda, woulda, shoulda kind of mode and I just you know want to encourage you not to do that. You are going to go through various aspects on this journey if you're a parent that you're going to have the mirror show you different things that you did when you were raising children that maybe weren't the best thing. So again it goes back to you don't know what you don't know. That being said, one of the best things you can do when you have those realizations is to you forgive yourself.  I went through this phase where I had a couple of my children come back to me to basically want to nail me to the cross for things that I had done.  I basically allowed that for a while and I lived in that shame, blame game that you do to yourself, the guilt.  Then I had to shake myself and I had to say you know what I'm sorry. Even in saying I'm sorry and forgiving myself, I had to take myself off the cross that they tried to nail me to. I had to own the person who I was at that time but also really express that that's not who I am today and stand in my authentic self today. Don't get me wrong I was in that shame game that blame game that guilt trip. I was there for a while because I took it to heart about you parenting and I was trying to do so much better than my mother and my father had done with me. I allowed myself to go into that deep hole of l look at what I’ve done, I’ve done the very thing that I didn’t want to do as a parent. I’ve done some things that I’m not proud of, but I am not that person anymore. So I encourage you that as you uncover and get to the root of  things that you are open and honest, apologize for the things you need but then you move forward. Don’t sit in things move forward!  

If you'd like to reach out to me, you can reach me at [email protected].  I'd love to hear from you.  Much Love and Light, Lady T

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Lessons Learned Soul Tribe --Acceptance of Yourself

Welcome to Lessons Learned Soul Tribe. Today, I want to talk about acceptance This is such a huge topic that I'm going to try to cover only in a few minutes to highlight what I want to say here. When you accept yourself from where you are on the journey to where you're going that will save you so much heartache.  One of the greatest lessons that I learned is to not continually feel the guilt of things that I've done in my past. As you get that mirror in your face on this journey, looking at yourself can be very difficult and it can be painful, but in that the acceptance that you have for yourself it only empowers you if you understand what that means.  Acceptance means that you're not perfect, that you have both good things and bad things about you and not even necessarily good or bad, I would just say light and dark. Accepting yourself this way, is just that; accepting yourself for who you and working on those things that you feel you need to change. Acceptance is loving yourself for exactly who you are now and who you will be in the future and along each leg of the journey. It is so incredibly empowering when you get to this place of just loving yourself and accepting yourself for who you are right now, today.  No matter what the situation is,  it is so key to unlocking your potential, getting to your authentic self.   As you go on this journey and you see the mirror, don't give up!  Love yourself even more! Agape is unconditional love and once you get that for yourself, you have unlocked the door, the door to your future which is unlimited!  You are worth this journey!  Accept yourself now, accept yourself then and accept yourself for the future!

If you'd like to reach out to me, you can reach me at [email protected].  I'd love to hear from you.  Much Love and Light, Lady T

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Welcome to Lessons Learned Soul Tribe - Oedipus Complex- Men and Women in Relationships.  Today we're going to talk about the Oedipus complex. now I knew about this but I really probably didn't pay too much attention to it in how it impacts your life whether you're a male or female The Oedipus complex basically is how you choose men and women in your relationships. So for females, it's basically a person who was similar to the male role model in your life.  If you had a positive role model, you are most likely to choose at that type of person who treats you the same way.  That's why, it's encouraged that if you have a daughter that their father teaches them how a man should treat them by taking them out on a date and actually letting them get dressed up so they understand that a man is supposed to open the door for them, that a man is supposed to treat them in a fashion that has been modeled by their father. Conversely, that can be negatively as well because whatever the daughter has been exposed to by the male role model she will inadvertently and very unconsciously pick that same person in her life as her male counterpart in relationships.  The same holds true for males. It's their mother figure that that they will model after, so if their mother was caring and compassionate, gave unconditional love then that's what they're going to grow up with as well.  If they did not and then you're also going to see that manifest in the males life by the partners he chooses. The reason why I'm bringing this up is because until you realize this, you're doing this very unconsciously and unfortunately, when you do things unconsciously you can start cycles and repeat things until you learn the lesson of where it  is coming from and how is this manifesting in your life.  Sometimes it just helps if somebody can come in and basically connect the dots for you as to where things are coming from so short lesson today, but I hope this helps you. 

If you'd like to reach out to me, you can reach me at [email protected].  I'd love to hear from you.  Much Love and Light, Lady T

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Welcome to Lessons Learned Soul Tribe- Awareness Part 2.   Today we're just going to talk about self- love and being selfish.  I don't know about you but I grew up where you weren't supposed to really take care of yourself, you weren't supposed to think about you and what you wanted.  I grew up in a time when I was just pretty much told what to do and I was expected to do it no questions asked. However, as I've gotten older and began this journey to getting back to who I want to be, that is not who I want to be.  I do not want to fall under the norm if you will, I do not want to conform anymore.  I want to be who I want to be and that's carefree, that's fun loving, that’s loving and  being loved and unconditional love at that. First, you have to learn how to be selfish enough to love you. A lot of times what happens is you know you don't learn that how to love yourself from the beginning because nobody showed you. People were probably not whole themselves in your life and so the example that they modeled for you was probably not the healthiest example. I am not blaming anyone and not judging anyone, it is what it is.  However,  knowing that it doesn't make any difference as far as your journey. You have the right to love yourself, you have the right to be selfish and you have the right to do this life the way you want to do it.  As long as you're being kind to one another as long as you're understanding that and being  empathetic and compassionate and courageous and empowered, there's nothing wrong with that.  So I had to come back on here and talk about this as part 2 of Awareness because a lot of people will hate on you for standing up for you and being you.  So the awareness is that as you go on your journey as you come closer and closer to who you want to be, those people that are not on that vibration that are that are not at that level, they're going to hate on you. They are  going to hate on you for that because you have something they want. So while you are on this journey, I want you to be encouraged that you have right to be happy,  who have a right to feel good, you have a right to be you.  I encourage you to keep working on you, I encourage you to love yourself and to be empowered, to be strong, to be beautiful and to give the love for yourself and demand that from anyone else that you want to bring into your life. There is nothing wrong with loving yourself!

If you'd like to reach out to me, you can reach me at [email protected].  I'd love to hear from you.  Much Love and Light, Lady T

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Welcome to Lessons Learned Soul Tribe.  Hi everyone, today let's talk about awareness. Awareness is being very focused and paying a lot of attention to what's going on with you.  Awareness comes in many different forms and is a microscopic look at the internal side of you. A lot of times we don't want to do this because you know we'd rather not deal with things.  I get that totally I was there myself for a while but then when I started my journey and really wanted to get back to who  I knew I was, I didn't care.  I was so determined to feel better to just be myself again that you know I was like you know what I don't care what I have to do this is going to happen.  It was in that determination and again learning about different things, learning about triggers, learning about the ego, learning about the whole aspect of how we do things as human beings and understanding that in order to heal you have to tie this all together and you have to start somewhere.   Awareness is that internal look at what are you doing to yourself.  It's so many epiphanies once you begin the journey at how everything is really interrelated. Whether that's a triggering moment or the thought that you realize you're having which comes from your ego and the reactions that you have to it, to understanding how that relates to the physical manifestation in your body.  There is so many aspects to it, so I encourage you to keep on with your journey.  I think it's wonderful to start the journey to really fall in love with yourself again and to have self-love.  A lot of times through various experiences and unfortunately traumatic experiences, we lose that. We lose self-love and being in love with ourselves and then we try to love somebody else and we're not whole ourselves so you can infer from there what happens.  I want to encourage you about this.  Being a able to wake up with Peace of Mind, that in itself is worth the journey! When there is so much chaos, where there is so much happening around you,  it is a blessing! So, I encourage you to use your awareness to break down what's really going on with you by using the techniques in the other episodes that were done and then also just really continuing on to falling in love with yourself again.  And, If you've never been in love with yourself then guess what, let's start the journey to get you there! 

If you’d like to reached out to me, please contact me at [email protected].  Talk to you next time on Lessons Learned Soul tribe.  

 Much Love and Light, Lady T

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