High-achieving, intuitive leaders don’t lack drive—they lack safety to let things be easy. In this episode, Brenda unpacks why ease can feel unsafe in a nervous system wired for hustle, how to recognize fight/flight/freeze/fawn in real time, and simple practices to reconnect with your intuition and spiritual team (guides, angels, ancestors). You’ll learn how to retrain your body so ease becomes your baseline—and why that makes you clearer, calmer, and more magnetic in leadership, business, and life.

Resources & Links

Download the free Energy Audit: https://www.brendawinkle.com/audit 

Join The Regulated Entrepreneur (monthly breathwork, coaching, community): https://www.brendawinkle.com/regulatedentrepreneur 

Apply for The Clarity Retreat (in-person + virtual option): https://www.brendawinkle.com/resetretreat  

Watch on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@youryesfilledlife  

Timestamps

00:00 Welcome + what this show is about (energetic leadership, intuition, embodiment)

01:16 Today’s big idea: ease as a strategy—not a reward you “earn” later

02:34 The “I’ll rest when…” loop and why it keeps you in burnout cycles

03:38 Why your body equates hard work with worth (cultural + personal conditioning)

05:05 Interviews insight: achievers chase the gold star; ease feels unsafe

06:37 Overwork, collapse, and the “chaos = control” pattern

07:46 When slowing down triggers panic—safety vs. productivity

08:52 Personal story: Fisher, your mom, and the generational hustle imprint

13:58 Shadow of high achievement: hustling for worth + visibility fears

16:06 “If I stop, I’ll lose everything” — naming the core fear

18:01 Kitchen moment of truth: working hard to feel safe, not fulfilled

19:21 Part 2: Spotting nervous-system activation (fight/flight/freeze/fawn)

20:34 What happens in the body (vagus nerve, rest/repair vs. survival)

21:51 Fight = urgency; Flight = over-research; Freeze = fog; Fawn = over-yes

22:50 First-aid for activation: pause, name it, touch point, long exhale

24:59 Breath pattern (2-1-8) to reduce anxiety + calm the system

26:21 Why you can’t hear intuition/guides when stressed—and how to reconnect

26:57 Working with your Team of Light (guides/angels/ancestors): your daily practice

27:31 Your morning ritual: meditation + “highest truth and compassion” prayer

29:42 Following nudges vs. calendar; neutrality as the signal of true guidance

34:06 Intuition litmus: guidance feels calm/neutral; urgency = mind/ego

36:36 Client story: saying no to misaligned speaking gigs → ease + income

39:04 Stop comparing your Chapter 3 to someone else’s Chapter 20

40:13 No fantasy marketing: skill-building takes time (and gets to be easier)

41:27 Beware NLP-style hype; sustainable growth over instant fixes

43:53 Micro-prompt: “What if this could be so easy—what would I do?”

45:03 Ease ≠ lazy; regulated presence = magnetism

46:12 Somatic affirmation: “It gets to be easy. I am safe in ease.”

47:24 Invitations + next steps (membership + retreat)

Keywords: nervous system regulation, leadership, intuition, somatic coaching, spiritual guides, breathwork for anxiety, ease over hustle, high-achieving women, empath leaders, business clarity