Trifling is not synonymous with narcissism.

This week, we talk about the growing trend of identifying past partners as narcissists simply because they Baby Boy-ed us, and we let them. We discuss how this misidentifying is really a way to avoid accountability for both perceived "perpetrators" and "victims".

We also introduce a new segment called What Negroes Are Doing, courtesy of friend-of-the-show Elijah who shared that the Birmingham News used to have a column by the same name back in the day. In this segment, we'll share positive things black folks are doing in their communities. You can see the column in the paper for yourself here: https://bit.ly/2ZLRME4

References:

Why People Don’t Heal and How They Can by Caroline Myss

Louisiana Dads team up to support local high school after 23 students were arrested in a violent week of fighting

What Negroes are Doing Column

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Accountability is one of those things we say we want, but we don’t seem to truly understand.

This week, we discuss accountability - what it is, what it isn’t, what it looks like in action, and all the ways we fuck it up by strong-arming other folks into it. We also talk about the discussion around Dave Chappelle and the calls to hold him and Netflix accountable for his most recent standup special.

Content Warning: Sexual Assault, Suicide, Transphobia

References:

Why People Don’t Heal and How They Can by Caroline Myss

James Spann “All We Can Do Is Pray” Special

Dave Chappelle Special

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Where have we been? Chile, with Spongebob them. But don't worry, we on the up and up now!

This week, we pull the curtain back a little. We talk openly about our own mental health journeys, managing stress and trauma, and our experiences in therapy. We also talk about the varying definitions of friendship and what it looks like to build relationships on solid foundations versus trauma bonding.

Content Warning: Depression, Anxiety, Fat Shaming

References:

Why People Don’t Heal and How They Can by Caroline Myss

Sad Study Shows Most of Your Friends Don’t Actually Like You

After a two-week hiatus, because life had us in a FULL twistabout, we’re back with another episode!

This week we talk about Critical Race Theory and all of the controversies it’s stirred up. We also talk about other approaches to black education and the ways we can raise conscious, confident, self-determined children in an environment that decenters whiteness.

References:

A Lesson on Critical Race Theory by Janel George

https://www.americanbar.org/groups/crsj/publications/human_rights_magazine_home/civil-rights-reimagining-policing/a-lesson-on-critical-race-theory/

Mountain Brook backtracks on anti-bias training after parent criticism links to critical race theory

https://www.al.com/news/2021/06/mountain-brook-backtracks-on-anti-bias-training-after-parent-criticism-links-to-critical-race-theory.html

The Way of Integrity: Finding the Path to Your True Self

by Martha Beck

https://www.amazon.com/Way-Integrity-Finding-Path-Your/dp/1984881485

As we’ve become more evolved as a people, there has been a noticeable shift in the language that we use to describe social and racial justice issues - and not just for the sake of honoring people’s experiences and allowing people to utilize language that feels truer to them. Language seems to be evolving past usability. With the shift and focus on language, we have to ask who is really behind this? Is it the actual marginalized communities behind the new language, or is it somebody else?! *rubs hands suspiciously*

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This week, we do a deep dive into cancel and call-out culture, getting to the root issue of us not knowing how to handle conflict on an interpersonal level.

CONTENT WARNING:

Sexual Assault around 14:00 minute mark

If you're a Black woman in the south, growing up in the US is akin to living out a wish.com scam. From the tumultuous local politics to the resurgence of hotep scholarship, this year has left us in a perpetual Mr. Krabbsesque tailspin. We need to speak to somebody's manager.

Let’s go ahead and have the conversations those five folks on the internet keep insisting we aren’t ready to have.

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