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When someone brings up the topic of people pleasing, do you immediately think "yep, that describes me!"? To an extent we all 'people please' from time to time, be it saying "yes" to something which benefits someone else, and not us, or consistently agreeing to a commitment which really isn't in our best interest.

People pleasing isn't synonymous with doing something wrong, but when your needs are knocked to the bottom of the pile time and time again, your tendency to say "yes" all the time may need to be revisited.

In today's episode of Let's Discuss podcast we address the issue of people pleasing, how it crops up in our own lives, and how we try to safeguard ourselves from people pleasing tendencies which have a negative impact.

SHOW LINKS

@LetsDiscussPodcast

@CocosTeaParty

@MonicaBeatrice

Are You a People Pleaser? by Sherry Pagoto ph.D, on Psychology Today

Comfort Zones: Women Writers Tackling Unfamiliar Ground by Jigsaw, edited by Sonder & Tell in aid of Women for Women International.

Brené Brown

"You wouldn't worry so much about what others think of you if you realized how seldom they do." — Eleanor Roosevelt

We are so excited to welcome Monica's Mama Eliana to the show today, to talk all things cleaning and household upkeep.

Anyone who knows Eliana knows that amongst her many talents, she is somewhat of a superhero when it comes to keeping a house tidy, clean and organised.

For fourteen years Eliana owned and ran a guesthouse in Southampton, and (as Monica knows first-hand) it was somewhat of a military operation cleanliness-wise.

Over the years Eliana has come to be the go-to authority for her immediate circle (and her circle's circle!) for all things housekeeping.

Mama Eliana is truly a fountain of household knowledge, and we are over the moon to welcome her to the show today to talk us through all things household upkeep, cleaning hacks and more.

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SHOW LINKS

@LetsDiscussPodcast

@CocosTeaParty

@MonicaBeatrice

Eliana's must-have cleaning supplies:

• microfibre cloths
• a clean sink
• washing up liquid
• white vinegar (for glass, laundry and washing up)
• soda crystals

UK Men's Sheds Association

QUESTIONS ANSWERED IN THIS EPISODE

Cleaning products for sensitive skin.

How to clean your washing machine to keep it smelling fresh.

How to remove a blu tac mark from the wall.

How to make a bed feel like a hotel bed.

How to get a mark out of a wooden table

Astrology has been a keen interest of Ella's forever, and via Ella (and other eager friends) Monica has upgraded her interest in astrology from Girl Talk horoscopes (remember those?!), to a more in-depth analysis too.

We are so happy to welcome renowned astrologer Francesca Oddie to the show today!

Francesca chats to us about what your birth chart can reveal about your innate nature, why learning about your partner's chart can be helpful when it comes to compatibility, and just what Mercury retrograde and Saturn's return really mean.

If you've ever been curious about astrology, and how it can lend you a guiding hand, we hope that this episode will be an enlightening one for you.

OUR SHOW SPONSOR

We're over the moon to welcome one of our favourite bath, body and fragrance brands to the show — Molton Brown.

Use the code DISCUSS10 for 10% off of your order at moltonbrown.co.uk

Full terms and conditions can be found at letsdiscusspodcast.com

SHOW LINKS

@LetsDiscussPodcast

@CocosTeaParty

@MonicaBeatrice

Francesca Oddie's website

@FrancescaOddieAstrology

Aleksandra Zee's website

@AleksandraZee

Ep 41. Holistic Health Coach Tori Boughey on Finding Balance

Elizabeth Scarlett - the brand we met Francesca through

Selfridges' astrological Christmas display, in 2015 via Drapers online

Welcome back to Let's Discuss Podcast! We're so happy to be back here with you for Season 9 of the show.

As of today (Ella's 30th Birthday!), we've both officially joined the 30s club. Meaning that our old tagline "navigating life as 20-somethings" has had a facelift. (Along with our new logo - did you notice?!)

We're now simply "navigating life"!

Entering a new age decade has made us both reflect on the life lessons we've learnt up until now.

So much so, that we thought it would be fun to put these lessons into a comprehensive list to share with you!

Cue: 30 Lessons We've Learnt by 30.

We hope that these lessons, mantras and mini life hacks will resonate with you too.

As always we'd love to hear your thoughts!

If you'd like to get in touch you can reach out to us on Instagram, we're over on @LetsDiscussPodcast, or find us individually too. Monica is @MonicaBeatrice and Ella is @CocosTeaParty.

OUR SHOW SPONSOR

We're over the moon to welcome one of our favourite bath, body and fragrance brands to the show — Molton Brown.

Use the code DISCUSS10 for 10% off of your order at moltonbrown.co.uk

Full terms and conditions can be found at letsdiscusspodcast.com

SHOW LINKS

13 Going On 30

@JenandJennifer - our wonderful friend Jennifer Darr. Jen is the illustrator behind our new logo.

@TheSeptemberChronicles - Jen's travel account

Michael Scott Birthday Card

@StaceySolomon

Let's Discuss Episode 4. Fitness Journeys in our 20s

Ella's News

The Power of Positive Quitting

Watching: Love Is Blind

Reading: Expectation by Anna Hope

Listening to: The Missing Cryptoqueen Podcast on BBC Sounds

Monica's News

Monica turned 30! Read her blog post on the milestone.

Watching: Grace & Frankie

Welcome to a special bonus episode of Let's Discuss!

Whilst we were preparing for the launch of Season 9 on April 7th this year, the shape-shifting times that we're living in as we navigate COVID-19, prompted us to record this bonus episode for you.

Right now things are changing by the moment, and there is a huge array of emotions being felt. Amongst them: uncertainty, fear, hope, gratitude and a general sense of limbo.

Whilst we navigate these unchartered waters personally, we wanted to check in with you. To see how you're doing.

And to talk through some of the things we're doing to try and stay on top of our own wellbeing (mentally and physically) and productivity during this season.

We started Let's Discuss Podcast as a way to open up the conversations we were having as friends, with you. And now, more so than ever, that sense of sharing and support is at the forefront of our minds.

We want you to feel as supported as possible right now, and like you can talk to us about how you're getting on. Which you absolutely can! If you'd like to reach out we're over on Instagram at @LetsDiscussPodcast, and individually you can find us on @MonicaBeatrice and @CocosTeaParty.

We hope that this bonus episode will offer some comfort to you right now.

We're thinking of you and your loved ones. Sending huge love your way.

SHOW LINKS

@Carly (Carly the Prepster)

@CarlysStitchClub

Eva Howard Designs

Macramé for the Modern Home by Isabella Strambio

How to Create a Routine When You're in Isolation by Kate Turner, for The Elgin Avenue

Retro Pop playlist by Spotify

Mornings III playlist by Chrissy of Harlowe James

@Vestpod

Let's Discuss Podcast, episode 61 with Emilie Bellet of Vestpod

Netflix gift card

Welcome to the last episode of Let's Discuss Season 8! Not to mention the last episode of 2019 and this decade!

We are so grateful to you for tuning in this season, and we hope that you'll love reliving our highs and lows of the past 365 days with us.

Here's our big round-up of 2019!

Wishing you a wonderful festive season ahead, we'll see you next time in 2020!

EPISODE 66 SHOW NOTES

Ella's blog - Coco's Tea Party

Monica's blog - The Elgin Avenue

Ella's Instagram account - @CocosTeaParty

Monica's Instagram account - @MonicaBeatrice

Our show Instagram account - @LetsDiscussPodcast

EPISODE 66 SHOW LINKS

Our Morocco trip: on Coco's Tea Party and The Elgin Avenue

Glasgow with our friend Wendy: on @CocosTeaParty and @MonicaBeatrice

The Coco's Tea Party Book Club

Ashley Iaconetti on Instagram

Ep. 58: Career Crisis

Our favourite items from 2019

Rattan mirror: La Redoute

Custom artwork for Monica and Oli: Carly Berry @CarlyBerryArt

Bed linen: Himla

Pasta bowls: Denby pasta bowls

Hairbands: Alice & Blair

Astley Clarke locket: Celestial compass locket

Lily and Lionel dress: 'Marlowe' style, in blue

Topshop Jamie jeans

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Do you know if you are an extrovert or an introvert? As a mixed pairing (can you guess who's who?!) we talk often about how we recharge our batteries.

With the festive season upon us there's more opportunity than ever for pressure on your energy resources, especially (perhaps?!) if you're an introvert.

In today's episode we're discussing our individual traits, the benefits and challenges we experience, and how we'll be approaching the festive season to make sure we keep our fuel tanks topped up.

We'd love to hear about your experience too! Drop us a line on Instagram at @LetsDiscussPodcast.

EPISODE 65 SHOW NOTES

Ella's blog - Coco's Tea Party

Monica's blog - The Elgin Avenue

Ella's Instagram account - @CocosTeaParty

Monica's Instagram account - @MonicaBeatrice

Our show Instagram account - @LetsDiscussPodcast

EPISODE 65 SHOW LINKS

Are You An Introvert Or An Extrovert? What It Means For Your Career on Fast Company

Our Morocco Trip on Coco's Tea Party - Part 1 and Part 2

Our Morocco Trip on The Elgin Avenue

Let's Discuss Episode 13: Habits, The Four Tendencies & How We React To Expectations

Positive Psychology Flow Chart

The Bold Type TV Show

Welcome to our very special bonus episode ALL about books! As regular listeners will know, Ella is our resident literary expert, flying through books at a crazy rate.

68 and counting this year!

Whenever Monica needs a book recommendation, Ella is her first port of call and today we decided to open up Ella's extensive book advice to you.

If you are on the lookout for your next great read, or you need gift inspiration for the festive season and beyond, this episode is for you!

Happy listening!

EPISODE 64 SHOW NOTES

Ella's blog - Coco's Tea Party

Monica's blog - The Elgin Avenue

Ella's Instagram account - @CocosTeaParty

Monica's Instagram account - @MonicaBeatrice

Our show Instagram account - @LetsDiscussPodcast

EPISODE 64 SHOW LINKS

Let's Discuss Episode 34. How Reading Has Impacted Our Lives

The Coco's Tea Party Book Club

From The Corner Of The Oval Office by Beck Dorey-Stein

Maybe You Should Talk To Someone by Lori Gottlieb

The Rules Do Not Apply by Ariel Levy

The Seven Husbands of Evelyn Hugo by Taylor Jenkins Reid

Elin Hilderbrand - Ella's favourite 'brain candy' author.

The Dutch House by Ann Patchett

Girls of Paper and Fire by Natasha Ngan

acast.com/privacy

Our resident dating expert 'Ask A Straight Guy' is back!

In this week's episode we put your dating questions to 'Ask A Straight Guy' (aka Monica's husband Oli) and discuss a myriad of questions including: why guys take so long to text back, if it's harder for intelligent women to find a boyfriend and how to avoid settling.

As always this was a SUPER fun episode to record, and we hope you'll love listening along!

If you have a dating question you'd like us to answer in our next 'Ask A Straight Guy' segment, drop us a DM on Instagram over at @LetsDiscussPodcast

EPISODE 63 SHOW NOTES

Ella's blog - Coco's Tea Party

Monica's blog - The Elgin Avenue

Ella's Instagram account - @CocosTeaParty

Monica's Instagram account - @MonicaBeatrice

Our show Instagram account - @LetsDiscussPodcast

EPISODE 63 SHOW LINKS

Let's Discuss Episode 54: Ghosting and Other Dating Disasters

The Victoria & Albert Museum

Let's Discuss Episode 41: Holistic Health Coach Tori Boughey on Finding Balance

TBalance by Tori Boughey

There are so many milestones throughout our twenties, which we are conditioned to think that we 'need' to hit. Degrees, moving out of home, partners, engagement, marriage, babies, promotions . . . it's a LOT!

It's normal to feel pangs of jealousy as your friends, or people you know (or even people you don't know!) achieve certain things.

Whatever the circumstances, jealousy is not a nice feeling, and today we are exploring how we can navigate feelings of envy. And how can we reframe our jealousy in a more positive way?

On the flip side, what can you do when you feel like your friends are being resentful of your successes?

As always, feel free to leave us a comment on our Instagram account and share your experience with us! We'd love to hear from you.

EPISODE 62 SHOW NOTES

Ella's blog - Coco's Tea Party

Monica's blog - The Elgin Avenue

Ella's Instagram account - @CocosTeaParty

Monica's Instagram account - @MonicaBeatrice

Our show Instagram account - @LetsDiscussPodcast

EPISODE 62 SHOW LINKS

Ep. 58: Career Crisis - What To Do When You Don't Feel Like You're On The Right Path

Ep. 1: Social Media & Comparison

Mary Laura Philpott - I Miss You When I Blink

Baz Luhrnmann - Everybody's Free To Wear Sunscreen

Lauren Graham - Talking As Fast As I Can. The except that Ella shared:

"But life doesn't often spell things out for you or give you what you want exactly when you want it, otherwise it wouldn't be called life, it would be called vending machine."

5 Practices To Give You Hope Through Infertility on The Glitter Guide, by Kara Stout and the excerpt that Ella shared:

"Having unmet expectations gets me every time. I'm working on this. I have to let go, I have to accept when things don't go according to my plan or timeline, and I have to make an effort to still be happy regardless of these circumstances. Don't get me wrong. I allow myself to cry and be sad. It's OK to be heartbroken, it's OK to cry and not want to get out... For information regarding your data privacy, visit acast.com/privacy