We’ve been sold a lie…that the spark is everything. That butterflies = the one. That if it fades, it must be over.

In this episode, I’m flipping that script.

I share why the real magic in a relationship often begins after the spark fades, when masks drop, when it gets a little boring, and when you start building something that actually lasts.

Inside:

💭 The truth about the spark (and why it fades)

💡 How to create safety + depth instead of chasing chaos

🧠 Epic journaling prompts to clarify your relationship values, whether you're single or partnered

💌 A whole new perspective on love, longevity, and building a real relationship

This one’s a sigh of relief,especially if you’ve ever wondered: “Is it meant to feel like this?”

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Let’s talk about the D-word… and why it’s not the dirty secret it’s made out to be 💔

I’ve been divorced twice — and I’m not ashamed. In this episode, I’m getting real about what it actually means to walk away from a relationship that no longer fits, how to honour your evolution, and why longevity ≠ success.

This one’s for anyone who’s been made to feel like a failure for choosing themselves. 🔥

We’re unpacking:

✨ Why divorce isn’t the end — it can be a beginning

✨ Releasing shame and rewriting the story

✨ The messy, brave, beautiful process of leaving with love

✨ How society still sees divorce as a problem (spoiler: it’s not).

If you’ve ever felt like you “should’ve made it work,” this is your permission slip to drop the guilt.

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This episode is for the freshly queer, those who STILL haven’t found the one, the romantics, and anyone who’s out here dating with intentionality—not just vibes.

Inspired by a listener question about dating as a new lesbian later in life, I dive into what it really means to find love on your terms (and not lose yourself in the process).

We cover:


💘 Finding dates (without losing the plot)
🪞 How to actually work on yourself while single
📆 What to do before the date
🙅‍♀️ First date red flags + green lights
💔 Rejection + keeping your heart open
👭 Framed through a queer lens, but real talk for anyone who wants a conscious relationship

This one’s juicy, grounded, and a little flirty—just like dating should be.

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You found out you’re anxiously (or avoidantly) attached—probably from a TikTok. Cool. Now what the hell do you do with that?

This no-BS episode is for anyone tired of wearing their attachment style like a label and ready to actually shift it. I’m sharing my story as a recovering avoidant, plus the three simple steps you can start today to move from triggered to secure:

1. Discovery + learning

2. Noticing how it shows up IRL

3. Learning how to make yourself feel safe—without needing someone else to fix it

Because awareness is only step one, and healing doesn’t happen from just reposting memes.

🎧 If this hits, share it, leave a review, or send it to a fellow TikTok-diagnosed bestie.

📲 Got questions or a big "OMG SAME" moment? DM me on IG @cindrabanks — I’d love to chat.

Let’s heal the love stuff, for real.

This one’s a little different. A vulnerable behind-the-scenes share on why I walked away from my business, disappeared from Instagram, and took a big step back after a decade in the coaching industry 💖

I’m talking:

🖤 Burnout

🧠 Mental health

👻 Why I ghosted

⏸ What it really felt like to stop doing something I built my identity around

💭 And how I’m slowly finding my way back—on my terms

If you’ve ever felt like walking away from something that no longer feels aligned, this one’s for you.

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Let’s keep it real 💖

I’m back, baby! After a little break, Let’s Get It On returns with a juicy episode busting the top 5 myths about couples coaching. If you've ever thought coaching would magically fix your relationship or bring back instant fireworks in the bedroom—you need to hear this.

In this episode, I unpack some of the biggest misconceptions, including:

✨ That it’ll fix your relationship

🔥 That you’ll instantly be having ravishing sex again

🙅‍♀️ That your partner needs to change (not you)

🧘‍♀️ That this is the only work you need to do

💔 That your coach’s relationship is perfect

Spoiler: Coaching is powerful, but it’s not a magic pill—and that’s actually a good thing.

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Let’s get it on 💦