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PART 2:
In this 2-part episode, Eileen discusses the importance of active self-responsibility and practical applications for integrating it into daily life. She emphasizes the significance of pausing before reacting, owning one's energy and boundaries, conducting daily check-ins, communicating needs clearly, and following through on micro commitments. Additionally, she explores somatic approaches to enhance self-awareness and the role of hope as a feeling of trust in personal growth.

Takeaways

• Pause before reacting to shift from reactivity to intentional choice.
• Own your energy and boundaries to recognize where you overextend.
• Daily check-ins help in recognizing patterns and taking responsibility.
• Communicate your needs clearly to advocate for yourself.
• Follow through on micro commitments to build self-trust.
• Micro commitments can lead to significant changes over time.
• Somatic practices can enhance self-awareness and emotional regulation.
• Hope is defined as a feeling of trust, not just passive wishing.
• Active hope involves taking actionable steps towards improvement.
• Recognizing and honoring small achievements builds self-esteem.

5 Daily Practices for Building Active Self-Responsibility:

1. Pause Before Reacting -> Regulate through the body

2. Own Your Energy + Boundaries -> Track your body's yes/no/maybe

3. Daily Check-In -> Body scan for self-accountability

4. Communicate Needs Clearly -> Anchor in your body before words

5. Follow Through on Micro-Commitments -> Embodied ritual of completion

Reminder: Somatic is defined as "relating to or affecting the body". The "somatic lens" is making the body the focus when referring to these practices above (vs the general lens).

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PART 1:
In this 2-part episode, Eileen explores the concepts of passive hope and active self-responsibility, emphasizing the importance of taking proactive steps in personal growth and healing. She shares personal anecdotes, particularly focusing on the impact of trauma and life disruptions on one's ability to engage actively in their own life. The discussion highlights the significance of self-efficacy and the journey of reclaiming one's agency after experiencing trauma. Eileen encourages listeners to embrace their authentic selves and take ownership of their healing process, while also acknowledging the challenges that come with it.

Takeaways

• Passive hope is wishing without action.
• Active self-responsibility involves acknowledging your role in shaping your life.
• Hope can be beneficial in uncontrollable situations.
• Active self-responsibility is about owning your journey.
• Trauma can impact our ability to take action.
• Self-efficacy is crucial for motivation and goal achievement.
• It's important to extend grace to ourselves during healing.
• Letting go of expectations is part of the healing process.
• Life disruptions can change our relationship with ourselves.
• Embracing active self-responsibility leads to empowerment.

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In this week's episode, Eileen explores the concept of boundaries, sharing her personal experiences and insights on their importance in maintaining healthy relationships. She distinguishes between boundaries, ultimatums, expectations, and demands, emphasizing the need for clear communication and self-awareness. Eileen also discusses the role of anger in recognizing and asserting boundaries, encouraging listeners to embrace their emotions as tools for self-protection and growth.

Takeaways

• Boundaries are essential for emotional wellbeing and healthy relationships.
• Ultimatums are often confused with boundaries but serve different purposes.
• Expectations can lead to disappointment if not communicated clearly.
• Anger can signal that a boundary has been crossed and should be acknowledged.
• Healthy boundaries allow for self-care and respect in relationships.
• Understanding the difference between demands and expectations is crucial for effective communication.
• Implicit expectations can lead to misunderstandings and resentment.
• Recognizing one's own needs is vital for establishing boundaries.
• Family dynamics can significantly influence one's ability to set boundaries.
• Learning to communicate boundaries can lead to healthier relationships.

Mentions

• Prentis Hemphill

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In this deeply personal episode, Eileen reflects on her experiences of grief and loss, particularly surrounding her sister's birthday and the impact of compounding and collective grief. She explores the emotional toll of multiple losses, the shared experience of mourning within communities, and the importance of self-care and support in navigating these complex feelings. Eileen also shares a poignant poem by Andrea Gibson that encapsulates the connection between love, loss, and the enduring presence of those still with us...inches away.

Takeaways

• Grief can manifest in various forms, including numbness and rage.
• Compounding grief refers to experiencing multiple losses in a short time.
• Collective grief affects communities and can lead to shared mourning.
• Self-care practices are essential in managing grief.
• Professional help can provide guidance in navigating complex grief.
• Emotional and physical symptoms of grief can be overwhelming.
• The impact of trauma can be both personal and collective.
• Connection to oneself and others is crucial during grief.
• Poetry can serve as a powerful tool for processing emotions.
• It's important to acknowledge and validate feelings of grief.

Mentions

• Andrea Gibson
• Watch Andrea read their poem to their wife, Megan
• Read Andrea's Poem: Love Letter from the Afterlife
• Depersonalization Info

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This week, Eileen explores the intricate relationship between emotions and feelings, emphasizing the physiological nature of emotions and the cognitive interpretation of feelings. Through personal anecdotes and client examples, she illustrates how fear, perfectionism, and childhood experiences shape our emotional responses. The discussion highlights the importance of self-awareness and the need to dismantle harmful patterns surrounding emotions to foster a healthier relationship with our bodies and feelings.

Takeaways

• Emotions are physiological and automatic responses to stimuli.
• Feelings are conscious interpretations of those emotions.
• Understanding the difference between emotions and feelings is crucial for self-awareness.
• Fear can often be linked to perfectionism and the fear of failure.
• Chronic pain can manifest from unresolved emotions like anger and grief.
• Childhood experiences significantly impact our emotional regulation.
• Dismantling harmful beliefs about emotions can lead to personal growth.
• Self-regulation and co-regulation are essential for emotional health.
• Building awareness of bodily sensations can help in processing emotions.
• Emotions are natural, authentic, and human, deserving of care and attention.

Mentions:

• Psychology Today Article: "The Important Difference Between Emotions and Feelings" by Rachel Allyn, PhD.
• "Wheel of Emotions" by Psychologist Robert Plutchik 

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In this episode, Eileen explores the concepts of nervous system regulation, self-regulation, and co-regulation; emphasizing the importance of understanding how our nervous systems respond to stress and trauma. She discusses the differences between grounding and anchoring techniques, the impact of hyper-independence on emotional management, and the necessity of practicing somatic tools regularly to build resilience and emotional capacity.

Takeaways

• Nervous system regulation is about accessing the full range of responses.
• Calmness is not the only indicator of being regulated.
• Self-regulation is an internal process, while co-regulation involves others.
• Co-regulation provides the scaffolding for self-regulation.
• Hyperindependence can stem from a lack of co-regulation in childhood.
• Grounding connects awareness to the present moment.
• Anchoring helps maintain a sense of safety and support.
• Somatic tools should be practiced daily, not just in crisis.
• Building resilience requires consistent practice and experience.
• Emotional responses are energy in motion that need to be processed.

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In this first official episode, Eileen shares her journey through trauma, grief, and healing, emphasizing the importance of authentic sharing and the challenges of starting a podcast. She discusses her personal experiences with loss, the impact of her sister's death, and the significance of somatic experiences in the healing process. Eileen aims to create a safe space for listeners to explore their own struggles and encourages them to reclaim their voices and power.

Takeaways

• Eileen created this podcast to share her experiences with trauma and healing.
• Resistance to starting the podcast stemmed from fear and painful past experiences.
• Authenticity in sharing personal stories is crucial for connection.
• Grief and loss are often not openly discussed in society.
• Eileen's background includes degrees in dance and psychology.
• Personal trauma has a profound impact on one's life and relationships.
• Somatic experiences are essential for healing from trauma.
• Reclaiming one's voice is a journey of self-discovery.
• It's important to create safe spaces for difficult conversations.
• Healing is a shared responsibility and journey. 

Like this podcast? Check out M.O.V.E. with Eileen + Amy.

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In this podcast trailer, Eileen Kielty explores the themes of embodied alignment and somatic integration, sharing a bit about her personal journey as an integrative somatic trauma therapy coach. She reflects on the impact of her sister's death and the importance of reconnecting with one's authentic self. Through the lens of body awareness and vulnerability, Eileen emphasizes the significance of understanding and listening to the body's language as a means of healing and personal growth.

Takeaways

• The podcast focuses on embodied alignment and somatic integration.
• Eileen shares her personal journey and professional insights.
• The importance of reconnecting with one's authentic self is emphasized.
• Personal loss can deeply influence one's path to healing.
• Vulnerability in sharing experiences is crucial for connection.
• The body communicates through movement and sensation.
• Understanding the body's language can lead to profound insights.
• Eileen's work is rooted in personal experience and education.
• The podcast aims to create a space for learning and growth.
• Re-membering oneself is a key theme throughout the conversation.

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